Mother of all conception months Graduates

[MADLYSBOYS]

Hey I reckon at least I will have something to show for my xmas cash this year instead of just flitting it away....and I will have the pics to prove it

 

[PeanutBean]

Shitty day. DH and I both feel like hell. No fireworks. Possibly no meal tomorrow if DH is too ill and I can't find anyone to come in his place. Just found my colleague has a new job and another was already looking. Just pisses me off. I looked for so long but there are no jobs for me because I don't live in bloody London. Everyone there gets a new job in 5 mins. Instead I'm stuck here now with my crappy SMP and shit manager. I despair of my career prospects more every day.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Peanut.....just been given a week's notice with my job because they didn't check my qualifications before they hired me! Sneaking suspicion it's because I'm pregnant.....hmmmm, I may need to phone the SSSC....

 

[madcatwoman]

Peanut.....just been given a week's notice with my job because they didn't check my qualifications before they hired me! Sneaking suspicion it's because I'm pregnant.....hmmmm, I may need to phone the SSSC....

You know the latter reason is the real one!!


we just let our fireworks off, you dont get much for £20 these days!!!

Peanut i know what you mean, here in north wales its 10 x worse than manchester!!!,each week theres a page in the paper, or half a page more often than not, and the choices range from cleaners to waiting on, the same every week. Ive never had a decent job, and have always been on min wage, ive always had to take what the area dictates

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Well, they have a letter from the company they use to do contracts and such stating the reason as being a lack of qualification...

 

[madcatwoman]

That reason stinks of "youre pregnant, we cant fire you for this, so we'll fire you because you dont have the quals we 'thought' you had!".




My stomach muscles feel as if theyre being forced out by hook or by crook today, Dh even took a pic of me today and i was shocked when i looked at it and saw my stomach. I guess i forgot where my old budda belly stopped and the pregnant one began.

theres a family meal booked for next weekend, theres a dress code,the only thing that fits me are my jeans, im going to have to find some tidy maternity trousers. Do i go for Over bump or Under?

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I'm going to check it out.....I just feel so wrong about it.

 

[PeanutBean]

Ozzie you MUST follow this up. I do not believe for one second that this isn't because of pregnancy. They would be legally obliged to have checked your qualifications prior to offering you employment. Whichever is the reason I believe you have grounds to claim unfair dismissal. Perhaps they think the qualification thing will let them off more lightly in court than discrimination. The onus is not on you but them to check your qualifications. Please say you'll chase this. We all owe it to all pregnant women to show these shady employers their discrimination is not on.

Saw your firework pics madcat, very nice! I am my usual miserable self. Bonfire night has long been cursed for me; my Granny died 12 years ago today. Ever since I've not been able to go to a display on bonfire night. The rare occasion I've been on a weekend has always ended in tears.

The job thing is because my career path is very specialised. There are absolutely no jobs for me outside of cities but almost all in my field are in London with a handful in Bristol and Cardiff. Just so sick of stagnating on shit pay with shit mat terms.

We're having a very bad day in our house today.

 

[PeanutBean]

Oh madcat I too today suddenly feel very pregnant. My bump is fairly obvious suddenly and carrying it is now noticeable and a bit uncomfy. Felt lots of movement last night. Need some bump support I think.

Mat trousers vary. Over bump that have a big stretchy panel are comfiest but I find the overbuml bit tends to come apart at the seams easily. It needs a full bump cover or it'll roll down. Under bump are no good if you are tender there but they are a more forgiving fit as they don't need to accommodate so much of a change in size. Over bump that are not stretchy but fasten with buttons etc are only really any good when you're giant. The best trousers are ones with an expanding waist.

 

[madcatwoman]

Blimey, bit of a minefield these trousers!. i only need a one off pair for this dinner out too, im comfy jeans girl otherwise,

just need a cheap pair for dinner as they wont except jeans
https://cgi.ebay.co.uk/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=190464537972&ssPageName=STRK:MEWAX:IT

these look as if they have a normal waist but elasticated.

by the sounds of it, an under bump style probably wouldnt be for me, as i do get a bit tender there.

Funny isnt it, i feel quite large today, and can litterally feel my muscles there being pushed out today.

Peanut, do your movements you feel sometimes feel like very soft muscle twitches?, (not as noticeable as normal twitches tho?)

 

[gilz82]

Madcat on the trousers thing I've bought two pairs of jeans and one pair of work trousers which actually have an adjustable waist. All of them are under bump jeans as the over bump ones made me feel icky. Suppose you need to try them to find out though.

Saying that I haven't actually worn any of them yet, just ordered them this week so I've only tried them on.

 

[PeanutBean]

I got black trousers for work from mothercare with an adjustable waist. You don't want elastic unless it's adjustable or it might get really uncomfortable. Mine were £30, obviously a couple of years old now, but they've served me really well.

Yes my movements do feel like little twitches sometimes. It's hard to describe well but I did recognise them right away even when I thought it was too soon. Sometimes they actually tickle which is very odd! I've been getting some towards my left hip now so I think as the baby's growing some toes must be stretching out that way. After the birth the movements of my bowels really felt like a baby, I guess I'd be sensitised to the feeling and with my newly ruined muscles it was more noticeable. Bit this is different. Maybe a bit like when you get a twitchy eye.

Well in desperation I've just washed up, cleaned the kitchen, scrubbed the teapot and sink and all those less regular jobs. Feel horrendous today but trying to help DH in the hope he's well enough tomorrow.

Now our horrid neighbour is having his annual giant bonfire feet which usually goes on til 1am and includes his 6 year old boy's setting off mammoth rockets. I'm normally in bed by now. We're not sure what to do with ourselves.

 

[loopylollipop]

Ozzi....saw this coming a mile off. They actually said something to you first about not being able to keep you on as you were pregnant. Then miraculously they discovered they hadnt checked your qualications.

You are working with children and what employer wouldnt check qualifications of people being employed to work with children?? I expect any professional caring for my child to have had adequate checks - including the qualifications. Then they were all nicey nicey until they sacked you.

Please follow this up. They rely on the fact that you will be so gutted and hormonal and distraught that you will crawl away in shame with your tail between your legs. So they can do it again to the next poor soul. Please stand up and fight

 

[loopylollipop]

I too need clothes. All the waistbands on my clothes are too tight. Off shopping tomorrow. Really didnt want to buy them before scan, feels like will jinx things. But am working all next weekend, and am getting ratty an uncomfortable and cant get through another week.

Was looking at the ones with the expandable waists too....

 

[Ozzieshunni]

I will. Everyone has said this seems very fishy. They said they contacted the company they work with for contracts and such and they said it's illegal for them to have me employed under the title nursery nurse. Also, on the phone call stating I had gotten the job, the manager said that they had checked and found they weren't compatable, but they were taking me on anyways. I think it's bad and I feel like shit.

 

[madcatwoman]

I got black trousers for work from mothercare with an adjustable waist. You don't want elastic unless it's adjustable or it might get really uncomfortable. Mine were £30, obviously a couple of years old now, but they've served me really well.

Yes my movements do feel like little twitches sometimes. It's hard to describe well but I did recognise them right away even when I thought it was too soon. Sometimes they actually tickle which is very odd! I've been getting some towards my left hip now so I think as the baby's growing some toes must be stretching out that way. After the birth the movements of my bowels really felt like a baby, I guess I'd be sensitised to the feeling and with my newly ruined muscles it was more noticeable. Bit this is different. Maybe a bit like when you get a twitchy eye.

Well in desperation I've just washed up, cleaned the kitchen, scrubbed the teapot and sink and all those less regular jobs. Feel horrendous today but trying to help DH in the hope he's well enough tomorrow.

Now our horrid neighbour is having his annual giant bonfire feet which usually goes on til 1am and includes his 6 year old boy's setting off mammoth rockets. I'm normally in bed by now. We're not sure what to do with ourselves.

well this is what ive been feeling on and off, this evening and that, it started weeks ago, a fluttery feeling, or like bubbles, but now it feels similar to a twitchy muscle, but a bit milder than that, ive not said anything to DH yet incase ive been wrong, which is why i thought id ask you how yours felt!.

Morning All

not had a good start today, gagging and retching, and that was before the toothbrush hit my mouth, just had some toast and a hot shower and collecting myself back together again, i did get a cuddle from DH though, i think he was ready to hold back my hair or something. Got a bit of tidying up to do next.

as for the trousers, im going to have to try some on arent i?, i might try asda (i cant remember if ours has a maternity section or not), i do need a pair by next saturday though.

funny how people with babies come out of the woodwork when they know your pregnant, one of DHs mates have told us theyre visiting today, havent seen them in years, they say theyre coming to see the new house lol(we been here since feb), obviously its for us to see their baby, i think they all expect you to have turned into this super maternal person now your pregnant!, truth be known im no more maternal to other peoples kids than i was before, i'll just be happy with my own!

 

[vbaby3]

Madcat,a twitch like a twitchy eye is exactly how i'd describe my little kicks,so I'd definately say its lo you're feeling!!
As maternity trousers go,i've always gone for below the bump with adjustable waist.They work perfect right from a barely there bump until the very end huge bump!!
I'm sticking mainly to leggings and tunics,jumper dresses this yr,as jumper dresses are just everywhere.Got a load in primark and tesco and bought a size up,but they're stretchy anyway,and so so comfy!

Anyone decided this is their last?and feel a bit sad about it?Madly I think you've said this will be your last.I've always said 3 would be it,but now i'm actually pregnant with no 3 I feel sad to think that this is the last,I'm even havin thoughts of a 4th!!!
Its probably hormones,and I'm sure when I have 3 kids below the age of 4 and a half I'll be definately sure i'm finished!!I dunno,feeling emotional about the whole thing,don't know why I'm even thinking this when I haven't even had my 3rd yet,hormones i'm sure!!

Madly I can't wait for my boys especially shay to come to the 4d scan,he keeps taking my phone and sticking it in front of my belly trying to take pics of it,or he'll pull my top up and try to look into my belly button to see if he can see the baby.
Really looking forward to when he can feel baby kick,he'll just love it!
Hope everyone contributes to your scan fund for xmas!!x

 

[vbaby3]

Getting strange cravings for very very bad things!!
Coffee and cigarettes!!!

I'm just havin 1 coffee a day,and then sticking to decaff but I feel I want to drink it all day!
As for the cigarettes thing,I've been a smoker for 20 yrs unfortunately,and battling on and off with them for the last 5 yrs.Never smoked when pregnant,and never would but never felt the craving for them in pregnancy like I am now.
I just wanna sit outside drinking coffee and smoking fags!
Strange thats what my bodies craving!

 

[MADLYSBOYS]

Yes vbaby hon this is def our last baby I read a thread yesterday about gestational diabetes....its put the willys up me summat bad I dont think I can do this again It does make me feel a little bit sad tbh and am sure I will get broody again when LO is bigger but I hope my sisters have more to ease my broodiness

On a positive note.....I have popped.....either that or I swallow a football in my sleep Even MIL commented earlier `gosh your showing early this time` and Oliver keeps telling me I`m getting fat, the little monkey!

Olivers funny comment of the day.....We were sat in the car waiting for the windscreen to clear, it was a little frosted over and Oliver asks why were arnt moving. DH says cause he cant see you yet! Oliver says I can see daddy you must be blind do you want me to direct your driving It was so so funny, maybe you had to be there to understand our humour but its just an example of how simple LOs minds are he he he!

 

[PeanutBean]

Madcat I was in mothercare today and they have buy one get one half price ontops and bottoms at the moment.

I went to the shops! I got a bump band and a dress for a fiver on sale in topshop and some tights to wear tonight. I got some cards and things I've needed to get for ages and a new wedge cushion.

I also got a load of skirting that my dad is going to fit for me tonight, hooray! I'm going to try and sand and woodfill thus afternoon, though times getting on, so I can be varnishing all the bannisters and skirting. Just need a little paint up the side of the stair. Then tomorrow we are going to try and order carpet in the hope we'll be ready to get it fitted before Byron's birthday and house party. It'll make such a difference to our space to get that sorted! Then all we have to do is paint our bedroom ceiling and get a new carpet in there, then kit out our walk in wardrobe. Yay!