PeanutBean
Mumma to B & I
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Well as you know DH does everything. He did it all through my last pregnancy and is doing most of now too. When I was on leave I did begin to feel I was doing too much, even considering I wasn't working, mostly because I have to deal with all the important stuff and decision making and sometimes it gets too much. But he's taken some of that stuff on more (a bit, he's not terribly good at it and tends to make the wrong decision as often as the right one!) so things have balanced out a bit. We'll have to readjust again when there's another baby.
The main problem with this whole situation right now is that I can't see a way out and I hate feeling so vulnerable. It's me that always figures out how we will afford to buy a house or car or how we will afford to send the boy to nursery etc. But there are no answers. I hate it. I don't know how to fix things. The only possible answers all involve me sacrificing everything for myself too. Byron already loves his Dad loads more because he sees him so much more. How would I cope if he was a SAHD? I never signed up to be the only earner and my salary isn't enough to live off even without paying for any childcare.
Ozzie I know I wouldn't get signed off sick. I have this ridiculous rational nature that makes it look like I'm fine. Even my family can't usually tell when I'm drowning. If I couldn't work from home I'm sure I'd have been signed of by now for one reason or another but at home I can hide it. Nobody sees.
The main problem with this whole situation right now is that I can't see a way out and I hate feeling so vulnerable. It's me that always figures out how we will afford to buy a house or car or how we will afford to send the boy to nursery etc. But there are no answers. I hate it. I don't know how to fix things. The only possible answers all involve me sacrificing everything for myself too. Byron already loves his Dad loads more because he sees him so much more. How would I cope if he was a SAHD? I never signed up to be the only earner and my salary isn't enough to live off even without paying for any childcare.
Ozzie I know I wouldn't get signed off sick. I have this ridiculous rational nature that makes it look like I'm fine. Even my family can't usually tell when I'm drowning. If I couldn't work from home I'm sure I'd have been signed of by now for one reason or another but at home I can hide it. Nobody sees.