Multiple IVF failures...what now?

[Lucie73821]

Got my 2 shots of methotrexate this afternoon. The one dose was two big for the syringe, so I got to have two intramuscular shots, one on each side, woo hoo! Now my poor bottom is so sore! They also did another beta today and it's gone up 700 since yesterday. They will do another beta Saturday, and the dr said not to be concerned if the number goes up. Then another beta (and a few more levels...not sure of them) on Tuesday. If the number has not decreased by Tuesday, then I will for sure need surgery. I'm praying it doesn't come to that.

Hope you all are well!

 

[septbride]

I'm so sorry, Lucie Thinking of you and hoping you don't need surgery.

 

[oneof14]

Lucie, praying you dont need surgery.

AFM, I had my HSG today with Dr. Davis and my tubes are open and I dont have any abnormalities. Blood work came back fine, so we start in March.

 

[L4hope]

Lucie I hope you don't need surgery after everything else you've been through.

Oneof, great news! Glad to hear you're all set to start your next round!!

 

[whattheiveff]

Lucie - I'm so sorry, you're in my thoughts.

Oneof- Great news on the HSG and bloodwork! What is your protocol this time around (forgive me if you've already posted this somewhere)?

 

[oneof14]

Whathe, I believe he wanted to do menopure/bravelle w/out lupron and add ganerelix.

 

[whattheiveff]

Thanks! I just made an appointment with him for March 11. Hopefully I'll be able to cancel it, but I'm glad its there if I need it.

Also, I'm pretty terrible about keeping in touch with my college friends but I finally touched base with one of them last night who is super private. We were catching up on everything so I told her about the IVFs. Turns out we were cycling at the same time BOTH TIMES. Only difference is she is now 7 weeks pregnant and I was the first person she told (other than family). She felt terrible telling me, and while I definitely cried myself to sleep last night, I can honestly say I'm happy for her. Apparently she did a full year of IUI's (7 total) before moving on to IVF. I also found out one of our other friends is going through her 1st IVF cycle now. Its just crazy to me that there is this pre-conceived notion out there that IVF is for women in their 40s who waited too long to have kids. It couldn't be farther from the truth. My close circle of friends in college was about 8 girls, and 3 of us are going through IVF at age 30/31. Anyway, I'm now at the point where I'm telling anyone who asks what we're going through because I just don't care anymore if it makes them uncomfortable and if it makes someone feel less isolated or ashamed I think its worth it.

 

[L4hope]

Whatthe, it really is crazy how many women who are in their mid 20s early 30s who are going through IVF. I found out a girl I know from HS is doing it, plus my moms best friends daughter has been struggling for years. But she's struggling with her religious beliefs and hasn't done IVF. I feel the same as you do. A while ago I decided I wasn't gonna hide it anymore. If people ask, I'm gonna tell them. It's like that saying, don't ask if you don't really want to know! It's been kept too quiet and hush hush. We need to put an end to it!! I still live talking to you girls the most!

 

[septbride]

I totally agree that people need to talk about infertility more. I've pretty much told everyone including my hairdresser what we're dealing with. I can rest assured that my mom is telling anyone who I haven't told. However, in my case I WISH I knew more people who are going through the same experience, not because I want them to be miserable, but because I feel like none of my friends truly get it. I'm surrounded by fertile myrtles who are firing babies out left and right!

 

[L4hope]

I feel the same way Sept, that's why I love talking to you guys cuz you actually "get it!" I wish we were closer and could have our own group meetings so we could talk face to face. Good lord we'd prob be there for hours!

 

[oneof14]

OMG I 100% agree. I have 8 sister, 7 of which have kids, multiple, naturally. Its a treat talking to them... NOT! They totally dont get it at all and they share their conspiricy theories with me. Although they dont understand, one of my sister's offered to be my surrogate if I need her. Which is amazing to me. You're the only ladies I can speak candid with and you do GET IT!

 

[L4hope]

Are you literally one of 14?? Holy crapola girl that's a lot of kids. And a lot of girls!! So sweet that your sister would offer that for you. But I hope it never comes to that for you.

 

[oneof14]

Yes, crazy that my parents clearly had no issues getting pg. Its makes it all the more frustrating to comprehend. Yes, she is the most amazing sister and I also hope it doesnt come down to that. L4 your FET is upcoming, so exciting for you!

 

[septbride]

That is an incredible offer, oneof! But I'm sure it won't come to that for you. My sister offered the same thing, and offered her eggs as well. The only problem is she's 48! I don't want to break it to her, because she's so kind to offer, but I'm pretty sure there is no way she could do either surrogacy or egg donation. She's very healthy and looks 35, but I'm sure her eggs don't!

 

[whattheiveff]

Oneof and Sept - That is so amazing of your sisters to offer! I actually read a story of someone's mother being her surrogate. Crazy but also pretty amazing. I don't think either of you will need a surrogate though, 2 IVF failures really isn't that many...we're wearing down the odds!

 

[L4hope]

Yeah Whatthe, that's the attitude we all need! We are going wear our infertile bodies down into getting us preggo no matter what!

It truly is a wonderful offer from your sisters. Too cute that your sister doesn't realize 48 is a bit old for DE or surragacy. I have a BnB buddy who has been told she needs DE and her sister isn't comfortable with it. I'm sure it's tough to think about giving your eggs, plus she's newly married and hasn't had her family yet. Tough tough position for all involved. Personally I don't have a sister so no worries there. I'm not sure that I would want a donor to be someone I know anyways. Kinda weird to think of having your husbands child to your sister. Then the cousins are cousins/siblings. All kinds of crazy dynamics there. But anyways I digress.. None of us are going to need to consider it.

One of, yes my FET is getting close and it's about frickin time!! This month is dragging for me. I go in for baseline stabbing and wanding tomorrow. Three more weeks till transfer!!

 

[oneof14]

Yay L4, it so true, at this point my whoo-ha has been looked at by so many people, who would have thought at one point I was so shy, I would only go to a female dr.

So glad you FET is almost here.

 

[septbride]

Oneof, I feel that way too! Sheez. Anyone else want to get a look at my hoo-ha?

L4, the dynamics of donor egg from a relative are complicated. I was so moved by my sister's offer, but (aside from her being too old) I think I would rather use a stranger's egg than a relative's. But that's just me. Whatever it takes! Not that any of us need to worry about this.

Whatthe, I agree that we just need to wear down the odds. At my first ER, one of the docs said to me, "It's the persistent patients who are successful." That's us!

 

[oneof14]

Sept. I agree with the donor prospect of it, I would much rather go to an unknown rather than a family member as well

 

[septbride]

Yeah. Imagine those family dinners!