Mum and baby parking would you park there if you are expectant?

[littleone2010]

I honestly wish I never started this thread now, I thought we might be a bit nicer ni this forum and talk it through in an understanding sort of way - I think this issue and hormonal women that feel strongly about a situation defintely dont mix.

To be honest, I have never seen a thread on here get to this stage of argument before. I think It's a good thread and has been interesting to see differing opinions.

It's also interesting to see how little is known about how debilitating SPD can be and how some people think that this should mean people with this condition should not go any where near a supermarket if they struggle to walk!




Thanks for the thread, I have enjoyed it and found it interesting. And I will keep reading peoples opinions. Xxxx

Hey honey
I have found it interesting too but I dont want to upset people and ofcourse everyone has their own opinions.

One thing I dont understand is the lack of understanding of other pregnant women, I always try to consider mums and children aswell and put myself in their position. I thought there would be more comradery.

For example my friend i used to work with was pregnant and was so ill through out her pregnancy she lost almost 4 stone (she was only 11.5 stone to begin with!) eventually her liver failed and she delivered through CS at 32 weeks, her son was ok but unfortunately he has epilepsy. At the same time another girl at work was pregnant and she had a wonderful pregnancy no sickness no pain ect and she even said to me "shes only pregnant, how come she has been signed off - think she making it up" i couldnt beleive it - as A non pregnant woman at the time I still felt awful for my ill friend I couldnt understand it.. and now I feel lucky as i comapre myself to her but I dont think a pregnant women who is having a lot of discomfort should have to put up with it unneccasarily. I guess thats just my opinion thanks everyone for your contribution xxxxx

 

[KayCee114]

I honestly wish I never started this thread now, I thought we might be a bit nicer ni this forum and talk it through in an understanding sort of way - I think this issue and hormonal women that feel strongly about a situation defintely dont mix.

To be honest, I have never seen a thread on here get to this stage of argument before. I think It's a good thread and has been interesting to see differing opinions.

It's also interesting to see how little is known about how debilitating SPD can be and how some people think that this should mean people with this condition should not go any where near a supermarket if they struggle to walk!




Thanks for the thread, I have enjoyed it and found it interesting. And I will keep reading peoples opinions. Xxxx

Hey honey
I have found it interesting too but I dont want to upset people and ofcourse everyone has their own opinions.

One thing I dont understand is the lack of understanding of other pregnant women, I always try to consider mums and children aswell and put myself in their position. I thought there would be more comradery.

For example my friend i used to work with was pregnant and was so ill through out her pregnancy she lost almost 4 stone (she was only 11.5 stone to begin with!) eventually her liver failed and she delivered through CS at 32 weeks, her son was ok but unfortunately he has epilepsy. At the same time another girl at work was pregnant and she had a wonderful pregnancy no sickness no pain ect and she even said to me "shes only pregnant, how come she has been signed off - think she making it up" i couldnt beleive it - as A non pregnant woman at the time I still felt awful for my ill friend I couldnt understand it.. and now I feel lucky as i comapre myself to her but I dont think a pregnant women who is having a lot of discomfort should have to put up with it unneccasarily. I guess thats just my opinion thanks everyone for your contribution xxxxx

Agreed, it does seem that people with uncomplicated pregnancies cannot understand the pain, emotion, worry etc that comes with a complicated pregnancy.

And the same goes for women with children not being understanding towards pregnant women (complicated pregnancy or not) but they had to go through it to have their child right?

Just like you said, a bit more comeradery is what's needed.

Xxx

 

[littleone2010]

I honestly wish I never started this thread now, I thought we might be a bit nicer ni this forum and talk it through in an understanding sort of way - I think this issue and hormonal women that feel strongly about a situation defintely dont mix.

To be honest, I have never seen a thread on here get to this stage of argument before. I think It's a good thread and has been interesting to see differing opinions.

It's also interesting to see how little is known about how debilitating SPD can be and how some people think that this should mean people with this condition should not go any where near a supermarket if they struggle to walk!




Thanks for the thread, I have enjoyed it and found it interesting. And I will keep reading peoples opinions. Xxxx

Hey honey
I have found it interesting too but I dont want to upset people and ofcourse everyone has their own opinions.

One thing I dont understand is the lack of understanding of other pregnant women, I always try to consider mums and children aswell and put myself in their position. I thought there would be more comradery.

For example my friend i used to work with was pregnant and was so ill through out her pregnancy she lost almost 4 stone (she was only 11.5 stone to begin with!) eventually her liver failed and she delivered through CS at 32 weeks, her son was ok but unfortunately he has epilepsy. At the same time another girl at work was pregnant and she had a wonderful pregnancy no sickness no pain ect and she even said to me "shes only pregnant, how come she has been signed off - think she making it up" i couldnt beleive it - as A non pregnant woman at the time I still felt awful for my ill friend I couldnt understand it.. and now I feel lucky as i comapre myself to her but I dont think a pregnant women who is having a lot of discomfort should have to put up with it unneccasarily. I guess thats just my opinion thanks everyone for your contribution xxxxx

Agreed, it does seem that people with uncomplicated pregnancies cannot understand the pain, emotion, worry etc that comes with a complicated pregnancy.

And the same goes for women with children not being understanding towards pregnant women (complicated pregnancy or not) but they had to go through it to have their child right?

Just like you said, a bit more comeradery is what's needed.

Xxx

Agreed! We should be on the same side!! Against the naughty men that did this to us! lol!! lets go back to moaning about them. LOL. xx

 

[cherryglitter]

Not too sure how to feel about this one! BEFORE I was pregnant, I never really understood how pregnancy affects women. This sounds awful, but I used to get annoyed at this girl where I work because she was pregnant and couldn't do this and couldn't do that! I just felt like I was 'carrying' someone.

BUT now being pregnant myself im a lot more understanding and I feel guilty for ever feeling that way and I wished I'd helped her out that little bit more.

I don't think I would begrudge a woman at all for parking in a parent and child space, for just being pregnant. I think you can take the mickey and park there in the very early stages of pregnancy. But im finding it hard walking back to the car in a car park if i've been at work then gone to town or something. I feel like my heels are burning haha!
Perhaps we could just share these spaces [mother and children/pregnant women] and everything would be fine and dandy! No priority needed.

Im pretty sure those women with children out there wouldn't do certain things with their child strapped to their chest, so why should a pregnant women be any different.
Park away in my eyes.xxxx

 

[Zarababy1]

Amy, When we went shpooing to morrisons when i was in labour at 41+2 WITH spd...were did we park??? NOT parent and child...didnt have any kids with us! i get reaaly wound up when people park there wirth no kids, yep pregnant women are fat and probably need more space but so are fat people they dont whine!

 

[Linzi]

I would never park in those spaces when I was pregnant.

I suffered terribly with SPD when I was pregnant too, on crutches for the last 10 weeks, and I just didn't go shopping because I couldn't manage it. Simple as.

If its that bad you dont NEED to go shopping, online shopping, friends, family, partners etcetc can ALL help.

And if you ARE able to wander round asda I shouldn't think it would trouble you to walk an extra couple of minutes to the front of the shop. Or get a disabled badge - they issue temporary disabled badges for bad SPD in this area I believe. But I can't imagine being able to drive when it is that bad you can't walk across a car park.

If you have a toddler, you park up at asda, take him out of the car, put him down to get your keys & lock the door... that split second your child could have ran out into the road. My boy has tried it a couple of times. And for that reason I wouldn't park there.

x

 

[x-amy-x]

Amy, When we went shpooing to morrisons when i was in labour at 41+2 WITH spd...were did we park??? NOT parent and child...didnt have any kids with us! i get reaaly wound up when people park there wirth no kids, yep pregnant women are fat and probably need more space but so are fat people they dont whine!

if the sign said parent child and pregnant people i might have parked there!

 

[Linzi]

Amy, When we went shpooing to morrisons when i was in labour at 41+2 WITH spd...were did we park??? NOT parent and child...didnt have any kids with us! i get reaaly wound up when people park there wirth no kids, yep pregnant women are fat and probably need more space but so are fat people they dont whine!

 

[Zarababy1]

even if it did unnecessary imo like linzi said if u can go shopping u can walk that extra few ft

 

[Zarababy1]

ohgod my typing is awful im feeding harry sorry!

 

[x-amy-x]

ur typing is awful anyway...

 

[Zarababy1]

it is but more so one handed! its coz my laptops SLOW i type faster than it haha

 

[nightkd]

I probably wouldn't park there myself, but if another heavily pregnant woman did, then I wouldn't have a problem Babies R Us (at least over here...) has got 'Expectant Mother' parking, personally I think more places could do with at least a handful of spaces like that - I've seen a LOT of pregnant women around recently and although I don't struggle that much (we can usually find a space pretty close to where we're headed anyway) I see a lot of empty disabled parking spaces (a LOT in some places) where it might be thoughtful to have a couple of expectant mother spaces for those who DO struggle to get around.

x

 

[x-amy-x]

expectant mother parking... great!

now i wouldnt park in them if i wasnt an expectant mother! goes both ways

 

[KayCee114]

Amy, When we went shpooing to morrisons when i was in labour at 41+2 WITH spd...were did we park??? NOT parent and child...didnt have any kids with us! i get reaaly wound up when people park there wirth no kids, yep pregnant women are fat and probably need more space but so are fat people they dont whine!

if the sign said parent child and pregnant people i might have parked there!

Fat??? Nope! Big belly and agony in hips??? Yep!

I'm so so pleased for anyone who 'recons' they have SPD and can still get out And about. Well done that woman.

And as for people doubting the severity of my spd just cos I can still just about drive, I would lime to say to you all that I think you are narrowminded and are obviously unable to see anyones opinions and point of view but your own.

And for the person who said about temp disabled badges, I asked Sheffield council about this and they don't do them in Sheffield. I know they do them in other cities, which is lucky, but I can't get one. They said the disability has to be classed as permanant for them to consider an application.

I take it that you ladies are ones like I mentioned in a previous post who think that if I can't walk far, I shouldn't drive and I should stay housebound.

My physio has said it's ok to drive, so I'm going to drive, and I'm going to park where ever it's easiest for me. Simples.

 

[littleone2010]

If you have spd or other pregnancy related problems and decide not to park in parent and child parking thats your choice, i dont feel the need to suffer unneccassarily and my tescos seem fine with the fact I park there when im feeling like crap.. Dont expect a reward for your brave behaviour though you are just making things more difficult for yourself when you dont have to. Agreed- there should be more expectant mum parking but then Im sure as I have already witnessed mothers who arnt pregnant will park there anyway.. the traffic at my tescos is as bad around the child and mother parking as other spaces the only difference is its close to the door and the spaces are larger... it definitley isnt safer as such for young children.

 

[E&L's mummy]

i only park in these spaces when i have my toddler with me. i dont even park in them when i only have my 7 year old with me. the sainsbury's here fines you £60 if you park in them without a young child with you. so even a child seat in the car doesnts cut it.

i try whever possible to be considerate if i dont need the space in case someone else does. what really gets my goat is disabled peeps parking in them but we cant park in disabled. dont get me wrong i know they need the extra space and nearer etc, but there are usually double the disabled spaces compared to M&C spaces.

 

[Zarababy1]

So if that means parking in a space were i could park with my newborn and my toddler its all good then eh?

 

[KayCee114]

even if it did unnecessary imo like linzi said if u can go shopping u can walk that extra few ft

Erm... Have u seen any of the other posts about space for opening car doors wide enough too... Not just the walking thing that's an issue...

Can't help when some prat parks so close to your drivers door you can't physically get in.

Happened to me before... Ain't risking it again.

 

[littleone2010]

amy - mothers that arnt preggo already park in expectant mum parking so you would be one of the many.