My daughters Christmas Garden (grave) *UPDATE PG8*

[hypnorm]

what an awful thing to do.

The grave looks lovely and such a nice poem.

 

[Sovereign]

It's really lovely sweetheart.x

 

[wantababybump]

What an awful thing for him to do!! The pics are lovely hun. xx

 

[Wobbles]

How awful of Matt I did agree with Tishmouse & uvlollypop though hun. He must be hurting to do this to his own daughters grave no matter what has happened you both have experienced the loss of your baby girl. Goodness knows what state of mind mentally and physically he was in at the time.

You must BOTH be hurting and it must be hard seeing another man now tending to his daughters grave side?

Her resting place is so sweet yet heartaching for you all.

Little angel wouldn't like to see her Mummy & Daddy at war I'm sure - I hope things heal for you both soon x x

 

[Rumpskin]

A wonderful and peaceful place xxxx

 

[Deise]

I think of you guys often and it breaks my heart.

 

[Gabrielle]

What a beautiful garden, So sorry your going through this. She is so lucky to have such a wonderful mommy like you.

Thoughts and Prayers with you.

 

[soliloquise]

beautiful daughter and beautiful garden.

sam x

 

[haaza123]

so so beautiful
xx

 

[haaza123]

What a horrible thing matt has done. Its selfish and really low.

 

[oxSarahxo]

How awful of Matt I did agree with Tishmouse & uvlollypop though hun. He must be hurting to do this to his own daughters grave no matter what has happened you both have experienced the loss of your baby girl. Goodness knows what state of mind mentally and physically he was in at the time.

You must BOTH be hurting and it must be hard seeing another man now tending to his daughters grave side?

Her resting place is so sweet yet heartaching for you all.

Little angel wouldn't like to see her Mummy & Daddy at war I'm sure - I hope things heal for you both soon x x

I wish I could agree with what you guys are saying but I can't. He told me just the other night that he never wanted to be with me or leave his mam and move in with me . He only didn't leave sooner cuz I was pregnant and he didnt wanna get shit for leaving me whilst pregnant.


I've been trying hard the past few days to give him chances, he's as nasty as can possibly be to me...

We went to a memorial service at the weekend in the church, me, matt, alan and dee. Matt decided to start an argument in the church so i ended up asking alan to sit between us which I found really shitty tbh. I thought matt would have kept it under wraps in the church at least.

Anyway after that I yet again tried to be friendly, I've laminated a photo of me matt and jessica and asked if hed mind me putting it on her grave, he came round yesterday and i showed him the teddies she had from people for christmas, we also went to hospital together yesterday to see the consultant to discuss the post mortem results and i was shocked as i started crying and he asked if i was ok. this might be normal to other people but for matt its not, walking out we went past a lady with her newborn and i broke down and he put his arm round me and just led me out askin if i was alright, rubbing my back type thing. I went to her grave in the afternoon and put her new lantern down and teddies after id wrapped them etc and rang him askin if hed like to come and see it with the lantern lit while it was dark, so he met me there.

I really hope this is him trying to be friends with me for all the right reasons.

I'll upload the new pics of her grave shortly

 

[eclipse]

It sounds like he is at least trying to make an effort. I hope for everyone's sake that he is coming to his senses. Men can be so weird sometimes when they are grieving....

 

[oxSarahxo]

Okay so i took her teddies off, washed them and took myself off to Hobby Craft and bought some pink ribbon with pink roses on, and white ribbon with pink roses on (pink roses cuz she had pink roses on her dress we buried her in). Also bought some cellophane with little pink dots on it and some laminating sheets to laminate her xmas cards and photos.

Went to ikea and got her a lantern and some candles for it.

I wrapped the teddies in the cellophane, tying a pink bow and a white bow at the top, tied pink and white ribbon/bows round the lantern too, laminated some photos and bobs yer aunty, looking good!

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[clairebear]

It looks Beautiful hun. XX i love what you did with the teddies. she would be very proud.

i hope matt continues to come around hun xxxx

 

[eclipse]

It really turned out lovely.

 

[taperjeangirl]

AW sarah, you have made her grave look lovely, I'm sure she would love all her teddies.

I really hope that Matt carrys on treating you better, you are both hurting and you are both really the only one's who know's how it felt losing your little angel.

Will be thinking of you

Andrea xxx

 

[Eoz]

Darling you are so incredibly strong.I often think of you and you beautiful little angel.I put a cherub on my tree and it reminds me of you daily.You have given your little girl a lovely garden to play in and I bet she loves the teddies.I'm so pleased you have found someone to hug you and offer you support especially at this time of year.

As for Matt I cant comprehend what he did but I do feel what wobbles ssid is possibly right.He may be angry at another man tending to the grave.Men deal with things so different.I know my man struggled very badly with my miscarriage and it nearly destroyed us.I hope he finds a way to handle things as I'm sure he feels like shit hurting his daughter and his daughters mummy.

Babe look after yourself over xmas and please blow a kiss to your angel for me when you vist her next.You both are always in my thoughts.

It may seem inappropiate but Merry Xmas to you and your family.And I'm sure Jessica will be checking Santa does his job properly xxxxx

 

[LaDY]

Aww the pictures are all so beautiful...i bet your little girl is so proud of mummy xx

 

[Suz]

Its beautiful

 

[Wishfull]

Looks lovely again sweetie. Im sure she will be very happy with the teddies and flowers. Glad to hear your ex is acting a little more human now. No excuse for what hes done. Thinking of you sweetie. Take it easy over xmas.
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