I hope those of you that read this dont judge me. So my OH mom is mentally challenged and also married a man that is challenged as well. They are so excited about the baby coming. I am so excited for them as well being that this will be their first grandchild. Both of the soon to be grandparents work and are able to drive. My OH actually lived with his mother and grandparents, in his younger years his grandmother actually took care of him. Now that I am futher along with the pregnancy I am becoming more concerned and nervous about the situation with his mother and step father. Both them and OH have mentioned when the baby goes over there and they babysit. I really dont know if they will be able to handle a baby and i dont feel comfortable leaving her with them alone. His mother was actually talking to me about breastfeeding and didnt understand the concept that I would be able to store milk and use a bottle if needed. She was so concerned saying that she was just going to get formula to use at her house so I wouldnt have to be there to feed (I dont want my baby to fed formula). Also she wants to purchase newborn diapers. The way that she was talking surprised me it was almost like they expected the baby to be at her home for the first few months of her life. I told OH about what she said about breastfeeding and she was just going to feed formula and he said well I will talk to her about it. This being my first child I doubt that I will want to leave my child alone with anyone for a long period of time when she is a newborn. I dont know how to approach the situation to my OH or with his mother. I dont want to hurt anyones feelings or make them feel like I look down on them, because I dont, I just want my baby to be safe. And I want that peace of mind when I leave her somewhere for a lil while that she will be okay and happy. Another thing that bothers me is that they have a cat. I love all animals. Just with them they rarely clean the litter box, the smell is almost unbearable sometimes. Plus I dont want the cat getting to close to my newborn, and scratch her. I dont know how I should be feeling about this if I should say anything or not. Really concerned and dont know what to do. I have been worrying over this for the past few weeks in my head and I just want my mind to be at ease and everyone know what to expect after she is born so there wont be any hurt feelings. Or should I just not say anything and keep the baby from staying over there???