Elliot, honey, I'm happy that at least he called after all this time. Did he say when he's planning to contact you again?? What are you planning to say to him when he gets home?? Maybe write him a letter while he's away, so that he can read it when he gets home and understand how you felt each day?? I feel like you and I have similar relationships, where our DH's have always been so sensitive and caring, and everything has been wonderful, and then poof they are now men we dont recognize. It's strange, and I'm not sure where it's all coming from. Everytime I talk to him about this, he just turns everything around and makes me look like some villain.
I think you're right that we're kind of in the same boat, TL. And we're both in our 30s, thought we had good mature DHs, and tried to get PG for so long, and now somehow the men are on the fritz. We both wanted this LO so much, WTF happened somewhere along the way that having a family suddenly stopped being the most important thing in the world for him? He didn't say when he would contact me again. I honestly don't think I'll hear from him till he's bored on the flight home or at a layover on his way home. I spent a lot of time really thinking about my wording and wrote him an email that he should get on layover letting him know how I feel... not how I'm so angry I could kill him, not how I would have liked to have told him to go to Hell when I got his voicemil yesterday, but how I'm so surprised and confused and hurt by his behavior. Don't know if it will make any difference, but it felt good to get it off my back. I'm scared now that he's not going to be the wonderful Dad I'd felt so sure he would be for this LO... like he's just going to be cold and distant from both of us. This is so
not the man I've been in love with for years.
Take care of you and your little one.
I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you that your OH snaps out of it and gets back to his normal self really soon.