Not Waiting After Miscarriage - Any One Else?

[nevergivingup]

Yes I Am!!! My fertility app says I can possibly test on the 14th based on my positive ovulation on the 4th but I feel better waiting until the 18tg as that will be exactly 2wks!

I have my fx for both Of us!! As I am 5dpo and not one sign except gas and I blame that on constantly eating ice cream and water melon!!

 

[HPmum2B]

Oh yay! fingers crossed!!

 

[Dannypop]

Hi ladies

So so sorry for all of your losses. Hugs all round!

I started bleeding on Saturday at 6 weeks, passed a huge clot on Sunday and finally stopped bleeding last night. This was on the back of recovering from a vomit bug that got my whole family on Friday! Fun times indeed.

Today was supposed to be my scan at my Obgyn to hear the heartbeat for the first time but instead it became a head to toe examination making sure everything had come away. It was a blighted ovum he said. There is still a little bit of lining left to pass but he checked my ovaries and said I should be ovulating again in 2.5 weeks.

He will send me for bloods next week to check progesterone and call me with the results. He will then see me at the end of next week to scan me and pinpoint when I will ovulate. I am very very very lucky that I have him. He is a fertility specialist so even though I don't have fertility issues he still gets stuck in right away. I am in South Africa where we all are on private healthcare so the level of care is exceptional.

This was my third pregnancy. I have 2 boys (5.5 and 2.5) and I have never had any problems so I was quite shocked when I saw blood. In fact, after the tummy bug I wiped and saw blood but was so relieved as I realised it was coming from my bum (TMI). So when I saw more blood the next day I thought it was my bum again!

Getting right back on the horse and should hopefully be ready to test in about 5 weeks I guess ...

 

[HPmum2B]

Hi Dannypop.

Sorry for your loss, does sound like you have a very good doctor on hand there!! That must be really encouraging that he is so helpful!

I can relate to the shock, I have also had two healthy pregnancies before this one, and didn't have any problems getting pregnant, and I think it lulled me into a false sense of security, sort of feeling that my body is really good at this, and then bam it happened.
It has really knocked my pregnancy confidence, I have always really enjoyed pregnancy and now think I will be terrified of something going wrong again. In some ways that is why I want to get on with it ASAP, to sort of proove to myself it will all be okay next time.

 

[Dannypop]

Hi Dannypop.

Sorry for your loss, does sound like you have a very good doctor on hand there!! That must be really encouraging that he is so helpful!

I can relate to the shock, I have also had two healthy pregnancies before this one, and didn't have any problems getting pregnant, and I think it lulled me into a false sense of security, sort of feeling that my body is really good at this, and then bam it happened.
It has really knocked my pregnancy confidence, I have always really enjoyed pregnancy and now think I will be terrified of something going wrong again. In some ways that is why I want to get on with it ASAP, to sort of proove to myself it will all be okay next time.

Thanks so much! Sorry we are in the same boat with this.

Ah so you're also ttc baby number 3?

It is crazy how we judge ourselves by how our bodies work for or against us when 1 in 6 pregnancies end in miscarriage. I also felt that I was invincible. I never even worried for a second that miscarriage would ever be something I would go through. And I also totally want to just get on with the business of having this baby. Not waiting for a second. Gonna start BDing this weekend!

You are so lucky to be in the 2ww -exciting times! Hopefully you can soon move on to the 1st Tri board! With me on your heels!

 

[HPmum2B]

Yeah I am trying for my 3rd, funnily enough my loss was not a planned pregnancy, I was actually on the pill (but knew we would have at least 1 more), but once I found out I was pregnant, I started planning for that baby... so now I feel like I need a baby again, iykwim.

I actually didn't really try for my first two, I got pregnant the same month we decided to have a baby. I didn't know about OPKs, cervical mucus or anything like that. In fact, all I knew was you ovulated around the middle of your cycle. And I was very relaxed about the whole thing.

This time round, I feel like I am someone else. I just hope if I get pregnant, or at least when I am comfortably in the second trimester I might be able to relax a bit... its going to be a long 3 months!!

 

[Abhiangel]

Hey so sorry for your loss..
I also had a mc at 7 weeks but had my first af right on time after 4 weeks. Personally i would suggest you to wait for your first af and then go ahead! Just give your body time to heal and your hormones to get in place. Good luck! Lots of baby dust to you 😊😊

 

[Dannypop]

HPmum; and here I thought we were supposed to be more relaxed the 3rd time round! Looks like we got it backwards ... How old are your two?

Abhiangel I am way way too impatient to wait for a cycle to pass!! I wish I was. I am going with the whole "you are 3 times more fertile after a MC" vibe. My Obgyn will be letting me know exactly when to expect ovulation so am not going to waste any potential eggs! Even though I now won't know when I am late for AF.

 

[HPmum2B]

Hi Abiangel, I too am far too impatient to wait... also I think the longer I leave it, the scarier it will be.

Dannypop, its crazy isn't it?! Mine are 2 and 3(nearly 4). Me and my siblings were all quite close in age and I loved always having someone to play with.
How old are yours?
When are you going back to your doctor?

 

[Dannypop]

Hi Abiangel, I too am far too impatient to wait... also I think the longer I leave it, the scarier it will be.

Dannypop, its crazy isn't it?! Mine are 2 and 3(nearly 4). Me and my siblings were all quite close in age and I loved always having someone to play with.
How old are yours?
When are you going back to your doctor?

It is crazy!
Mine are 2.5 (3 in Oct) and 5.5 (6 in Dec).

I was totally not ready for number 3 until very recently when DS2 started to become more independent. There is a 2 yr 10 month age gap between them but somehow I needed a bit more of a break in age this time round. So now the problem I face is having too big an age gap -I don't want it to be more than 3.5 years. I better get to work!

Going for progesterone bloods next week Tues so seeing my doc probably end of next week based on the results. Hoping he will tell me my ovaries are ripening and ready to go!

How things going in your 2WW? I drive myself nuts googling symptoms even though I know it is fruitless as when you suddenly are listening to every tweak in your body everything is amplified and seems like a sign.

 

[HPmum2B]

Oh my TWW is awful... I am overthinking every twinge!

We were not planning number 3 any time soon, but I got pregnant accidently, and got really excited, when I had the miscarriage, we decided to try again.

I expect waiting to see your doctor is probably as bad as the tww... why is they just so much waiting in pregnancy?! Even when you find out you are pregnant, you start waiting for your first scan...lol.

 

[Dannypop]

Totally! It's like the 2WW until the 2WW.

And then you wait for the 2nd tri and by then you are huge and uncomfy and you are waiting for the birth ... I need to remind myself to just breathe and enjoy my wine and sleeping on my tummy while I still can ...

I guess now the accidental has pulled your focus into how much you actually want this and want it sooner rather than later!

 

[HPmum2B]

Absolutely.
Oh a fellow tummy sleeper!! Haha.

 

[nevergivingup]

Hey Ladies!!

Dannypop: sorry to hear about your loss especially when you it comes out of nowhere unexpectantly. I agree your doc sounds Great!! And in South Africa how fun is that to be over there!!! I say jump right bk in the horse as well ESP after an early loss at least I did after my 5wk loss. An the bitter sweet thing about an early loss despite how sad and tragic it is, is that you don't have to wait too long for everything to pass or wait to have surgery to get it out. So fx for you

HPmum: Staying busy?! What DPO are you on now?


AFM: I'm 10dpo, I'm dare not testing any day soon Bc I really don't feel a thing going on in there. Arrgghhh!! Wednesday the 20th is test day and I'm sticking to it....at least I hope to anyway!

 

[Dannypop]

Nevergivingup you are so right!! At least it was early days and I could pass everything naturally. I actually feel quite unaffected by it now and ready for the next chapter -should be ovulating in about 10 days or so -my doc will give me a clearer idea when I see him in a week-ish.

10 DPO! How I long to be there!! Although it is very bad to wish time away so I shall be patient (all lies).

Don't test don't test! When I felt nothing going on in there that was exactly when I was preg. All the other times when I felt symptoms I wasn't preg.

Good luck and keep us posted!

 

[HPmum2B]

Ooo 10 days past ovulations... fingers are really crossed tight!! I think I would be testing daily by now if i was you. Don't laugh, but I tested about 2 days past ovulations... because, well, I guess a bit of quality control on the test strips!! ha ha.

So I think I am about 5 days past ovulation now.I am not 100% sure when I ovulated, but I had a couple of days of postive OPKs and a couple of days of ovulation pains, I think the ovualtion pains peaked and ended on Monday (10th), so I suppose that is the days I should take as my ovulation day. But I think I had positive OPKs from the 8th.

I reckon I will cave (again) and start testing around the 20th, but officially I wont expect a positive until around the 24th. I will then be holding it up to the light trying to see a positive.

I have a secret plan (I don't know if I will be able to stick to it, because I am pants at secrets), but I am thinking if I do get a positive, I might not tell hubby. I am expecting to be sent for a reasurance scan (fairly standard in my area if you are pregnant after a loss), and I am going to try and keep the pregnancy a secret until the day of the scan. Kind of so its a nice suprise and takes out some of the worry for OH. But I prob wont be able to keep it to myself.

 

[nevergivingup]

Gm Ladies!!!

Dannypop those 10 days are going to come so fast but when we're ready to get it started it seems so slow!!! So keep yourself busy until then!! The doctor exact date when you're ovulating is better than any opk stick I can find!! Wish I went to my doc for exact date! What an awesome doc!! What are you planning to do to keep yourself busy?! I needed to hear that about the no preg symptoms and yet you were pregnant. That gives me some hope!

Hpmum: lol, I have a secret too...I tested this morning!!'...I sure needed to hear you say youve been testing everyday for a pregnancy..Bc I really feel silly for lying to myself and testing. I told myself I was going to stick to that same plan of not telling hubby Bc I rather find out and be heartbroken rather then the both of us....so I'm not telling until I'm in 2nd trimester!! And for the nosey people who only talk to you to ask if you're expecting I'm just lying and saying no too or maybe I'm not sure Bc when I announced the last one and lost it all I could think about was all the ones who I have to tell that I'm miscarrying. Argghhh so this will definitely be the biggest secret from my husband that I will have to keep. But I get really big fast so my weight might give it away!


Well ladies AFM:
I was feeling myself this morning Bc I was so bloated and had abdomen twinges and tightness so me being 11DPO. And cramp like feelings all of a sudden I felt I needed to test....

Welp...a BFN!! I too even held it up to the light like 5x hoping to see something...laid back down for 30 mins, took it out my "empty trash bin" and went bk to the light. Still nothing I got sooo down!!

But Bc I usually ovulate around 12-13DPO I'm keeping hope.
My first preg I tested around 10dpo and nothing and then waited 2 more days then a BFP. I'm hoping this is the case!!

Ladies FX FOR US ALL: Danny hope your days fly by!!
HPmum: Hope that BFP pop up on 24th!

 

[nevergivingup]

Sorry post was so long... And sorry for any misspellings or grammar errors I use my iPhone to post and autocorrect thinks it's smarter then me...and/or I'm usually typing too fast and never read back over it to make corrections

 

[HPmum2B]

Don't worry about the BFN, it really is early to be testing, I know some people get positives show up really early, but most have to wait. I know as I go on this next week, I will be convincing myself I am not pregnant, I think I do it to try and protect myself from the dissapointment.

I wont make it to the second trimester without telling hubby, because he would be really upset if I went for a scan without him, and I think they will scan me at about 8 weeks. But I am intending to wait for that scan... I do get quite sick normally, but he goes to work so early in the morning, and I am normally okay by the evening. Plus its summer holidays comming up, so I don't have to get up and out the house very early, so I should be able to hide it okay. My biggest problem is I am an awful secret keeper!! I am pleased to hear you are planning on keeping it a secret too!!

 

[Mum2gremlin]

Hey ladies i hope u dont mind me jumping in i see two ladies in here that had mc right around same date as mine. I have read ur posts and would like to join. I mc june 20 and dc june 21st. I bleed for about 12 days and we started as soon as my body felt up to it. I think the first time was beginning of july. We havent stopped but i havent been following ovulation either so i have no idea. I would like to think my body has since the mc. Its been 27 days since. I took pregnancy test on saturday and it was super faint. I have zero idea if my hcg is still going down. I took tests over the last 3 weeks and the line had gotten lighter. I just dont know what to think. I seem to be having tender breasts and uterus cramping\pains since yesterday. So i know my periods coming or im pregnant again. Im scared to test again and i have tests screaming my name. Uggh praying for rainbow sticky babies for all!