Kelly, we need to meet up! I am quite often at a loss for things to do! I will pm you my mobile number on facebook! We can arrange to meet one day next week!
I have sent you an event invitation to my party on Saturday aswell, you are more than welcome to come, I will meet you beforehand if you want - and you can bring a friend? Anyway as i said ill message you my mob no and we can arrange to meet at the common or in town or totton or Hythe or anywhere really lol. (I live in Totton by the way!)
Definitely! I am shy but I think cos I went to school with your OH it's kinda not as bad as meeting a complete stranger...iykwim?
I've just seen the invite...only just got internet back on (I don't see events stuff on my phone) and will respond
I lived in Totton until I moved to Bitterne with OH!
I don't mind where we meet tbh....just getting out will be good
pixelle - I have met a couple of girls from netmums, one of them is now one of my best friends here. Really recommend it, I added on fb first to see if they where weirdos xx
Didn't think to add people to FB
Think I will do that, just have a looksy and see if anyone catches my eye, kind of thing
Kelly do go to some baby clubs as I have met some lovely mums there. For me, the ones run by the Childrens Centres seem best if you don't know anyone as they are quite structured. Most run a group for under ones. It took quite a while for us all to become friendly outside of the group, but now we all meet for lunch and playdates throughout the week. We also try really hard to include new group members. Hope your local group is just as friendly
I have two SureStart centres near me. Have decided we're going to music club on Tuesday! Monday I'll be going to the drop-in to get Kai weighed so then hopefully Tuesday won't be so daunting!
Thanks for all the advice everyone! Feeling a bit better about everything today, I've been feeling really anxious about everything recently-doubting all my decisions and the thought of having to start weaning just sent me into total panic mode!
I'm panicking about the next stage of weaning....we're nowhere near ready but I just don't know what I'm doing! I hate that. I still wonder if I'm doing things right with the 1st stage...but Kai seems happy enough so I have to tell myself it's going okay.
Glad you're feeling a bit better about things. Just take it one step at a time and I'm sure once the time comes, you'll be prepared and wonder why you panicked
My friend just gave me the Gill Rapley book to have a read and I have to say I didn't really like it much at all to be honest. Yes I agree some of it does make perfect sense, but not much I didn't think. I think if traditional weaning is done properly (and a baby isn't still on purees at 8 months) then that is the best way to wean, imo. I started Evan on purees when he grabbed food from my plate. He mostly eats from a pre loaded spoon anyway because he wants to, he's had plenty of different tastes and textures from what he is eating. I give him finger food alongside his puree aswell, so he still gets the opportunity to suck/chew/bite roll things around his mouth, swallow and gag
I can't see how denying a baby the opportunity to use a spoon at all (which alot of people do as they don't want to give pre loaded spoons) is helping them to learn to eat? Not all foods are finger foods! Such as yoghurts! I think there is just as much chance of a blw child rejecting or being fussy with smoother foods and cutlery than there is of a tw baby being fussy with lumps.
Some kids are fussy eaters, some are lazy eaters how ever they are weaned. Just cos a baby eats steak like a pro at 9 months doesn;t mean they'll eat like a pro at 18 months iykwim?
I do not and will not eat my dinner at 5pm, it is WAY too early and always will be. I am fairly fussy so need to prepare seperate food for Evan so he learns to eat better than I do! I don't eat egg, I don't eat many veges with my food etc he already had a more varied diet than I do
I don't buy all the waiting til a baby is ready and they don't "eat" until about months either. I knew Evan was ready as he showed me the signs, the same signs I'd have taken if I was blw, although with blw I'd have forced him to wait as Evan was 4.5 months when he began showing signs.
When he is 6 months in 13 days time
I am going to reduce the purees and mash more food and give him more meals of finger foods instead so his variety is bigger.
Just my 2 penneth worth
I don't disagree with it, it just wasn't for me really, I am beginning to notice as soon as someone encounters a problem with TW some people on here jump in with BLW and finger foods etc etc as if people don't do their research!! Just seems to be yet another excuse to divide up parents into a them and us senario! Like BF and FF.
I've read it too....and I completely agree with you!
rgh im so randomly teary lately at the most stupidest of things - like things that arnt even sad I fill up :/ anyone else like this I feel like im pregnant but im most definatly 100% not lol anyone else like this?
I'm like that too. I haven't cried properly for ages, then this morning I balled my eyes out.
Have had my period though....and been bleeding for 7 days so far! tmi...sorry
Well I am getting so pissed off. My friend was coming down to stay this weekend. Then I get a text asking if I mind that he doesn't come down for a variety of reasons. I said yes I did mind, so he replies ok well I'll come but will have to come at this time and shoot off at this time blah blah.... So I said No don't come as you'd rather be doing something else. I have lived here for 15 months, not one of my friends has come to visit. I live an hour away, it's not the moon. I am tired of spending my time up at my mums having to go around and see people, I can't really be arsed anymore
I need to stop trying to live my Croydon life from Hastings iykwim? And embrace my new friends down here, this is our life now and if my mates want to see me then they should make the effort to come down here every once in a while.
I so know how you feel. When I moved (it's only 40 minutes away...if that) no one bothered with me. Or they'd arrange something then cancel at last minute.
Really sorry this is happening to you
You&Me: I can't imagine living with my in-laws. Hope things work out in the end.
On to Kai:
He was soooo good yesterday! I had my sister over for a few hours as she's home from uni, then I took her back home to my mum's house. Usually he really plays up when round my mum's but he was as good as gold. He was showing off his new rolling and sitting up...loving all the attention!
I think now he can do more, he's a happier chap.
We still have whinging with teeth etc but he's like a different baby lately.
Still getting up at stupid o clock but my black out blind came this morning so going to put it up tonight!
Don't want it to be dark for his daytime naps so it'll only go up at night
Oh, Kai had some clementine in his fruit net thing yesterday....loved it! So that's another fruit he now likes. He's doing so well with fruit and veg...much better than I am!
I've added some pics of his room...bought some more stickers yesterday so got to decide where to put them
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It's not much and not amazing but it's something I've done for him, in the meantime, until we move:
I found the same too Sophie...you may remember my FB status a few weeks back about not being allowed a social life because I have kids and have become invisible it would seem....the night before my 'closest' friends had been out on a girly night...no invite, I also found out the same day that this coming weekend they are all heading out for a meal...no invite...fuck em 
Have you tried NM's to meet up with some local mummies?...I have met a couple of people through there, and one of them is now a very good friend 
I feel so sad for 2 of our preemie mum's...one's baby turned into an angel and she is being induced today (she already has an angel daughter)...the other one has found out that her bump has a more severe version of the chromosomal abnormalities that her son does. 
