October Sticky Beans!

[Lawes1987]

Hi ladies. I've been avoiding checking in because i'm having a horrible week. Early this week a friend of ours (the one who has been helping us with the property we are fixing, and who planned to rent it from us when itw as done) messaged me asking me to give him details regarding a situation he had heard I had witnessed (regarding his wife having a rather public make out session in a bar with a perfect stranger). Unfortunately I HAD seen that occur, and against my better judgement went ahead and told him what I had seen. mostly because i knew this was the 4th man she's cheating on him with, he already know about the other 3, and shes' been abusing him for years. He swore if he found out about another he'd leave her, and he begged me to give him the information so that he could make a legitimate decision.

Needless to say he thanked me, told me he was writing up divorce papers. Next thing I Know I'm being accused of trying to steal him and bieng accused of sleeping with him (by the wife) and then a few hours later the friend calls my husband to tell him that he's decided to forgive his wife, give her another chance, and that his wife has banned him from speaking to me ever again because of this situation. I'm immediately blocked on both his and her phone, and all social media.

Of course, he proceeds to think that we will still rent the property to him. My husband has been avoiding talking to him for a few days while we figure out what we are going to do, and finally yesterday asks him how he thinks that's going to work when he's banned from speaking to me. And the ******* has the gall to tell my husband taht "well the property is really in your name and your brothers, so she isn't really the owner anyway. So we can just communicate with you. I don't see why we have to get her involved at all". yeah, wrong thing to say to DH. And me.

Argument ensues and he conceeds that if, as the landlord, I wanted or needed to contact him, I could be permitted to do so via email. Or a house landline. Yeah, my husband decided that was not adequate. So we told him to return his keys to my brother in law and that we won't be renting to him anymore.

Unfortunately now we don't have a plumber to finish teh work on the house, and we suddenly have to pay back a bunch of things that he had purchased for repairs. Of course, he tried to tell us we have to pay him for the washer/dryer/stove he bought and we said absolutely not because we told him NOT to buy those in the first place and it's not our fault he decided he wanted a brand new one instead of the ones we were providing.

Anyway, we are sort of stuck in a bind and are now several thousand dollars in the whole over a house we aren't sure we can finish. My husband never wanted to fix the place in teh first place, he always wanted to just sell it for whatever little e could get and now we're both very frustrated and very hurt. I've spent most of this week in tears.

How awful!

What a spineless so and so that husband is, giving in to his cheating wife and allowing her to somehow turn you into the bad guy for telling him. What a manipulative wench. I'm so sorry darlin x

 

[Angel5000]

Thanks Lawes. That's pretty much exactly what my husband and I said. This guy has been my husband's best friend since they were in 6th grade so it's hard to let go but my husband has the distinct feeling that the next thing his wife will do is ban him from speaking to my husband too. And, even though the friend says he'd never do that, we are pretty sure he'd give in.


On TTC news: CD10 today and I started to get some creamy/water/mixed CM day before yesterday. Possibly hoping I'll continue to O at the earlier time of my cycle (that would be amazing). I'm going to try very very hard to stick to SMEP this cycle. Unfortunately my mom is staying with us this week so it will be a little harder, but the guest bedroom is on the opposite end of the house as our master (the house is pretty small, that doesn't mean much ). Either way, with there being a possibility of O coming up, I don't want to miss is. It just means I won't be able to seduce DH by walking around the house in my sexy lingerie. While my family is really pretty open that might be a little much for my mom.


Totally unrelated though I have to share - I've been working out at the gym 2-3x a week and trying to make healthy choices in food (and when I decide to eat junk I eati n moderation). As a result, I'm down 8 pounds since October AND (the exciting part) I've lost over 12cm in my thighs, hips, and stomach (combined). I measure in cm because it's easier tos ee the progress, but still, I'm super excited!! I wasn't seeing much of a difference until I took off my pants and realized I hadn't unbuttoned them. DH was like "what do you mean you don't see a difference. Go take a progress picture and compare. you're OBVIOUSLY smaller". So I took pics and compared from right before the school year, to Nov, to yesterday and OMG I've slimmed so much!

Anyway, I'm super excited about it and sharing because, well, if I'm not getting pregnant I can at least get healthy, right?!

 

[lvksa]

:wave: Hi ladies! I've missed you! I hope all of you are doing well. I will do my best to try and skim back through what I've missed.

It's been a long while for me. My husband was out of the country for a few weeks, so last cycle I was just sitting around on my own. I'm CD15 of cycle #5 now. I had bloodwork done last week and on Sunday I had an ultrasound. I will go to see the doctor for the results tonight.

I got my hands on a clearblue opk kit. I started it on CD13 and got a negative open circle result. Yesterday on CD14 I got a flashing smiley. This morning CD15 I got an error, so I'm not actually sure how the test should be read.

I thought I would post a picture of the three tests to see if anyone has any insight. (the bottom is CD13, middle is CD14 and top is today)

I've missed being here and reading all of your updates!

 

[mrscletus]

Hey Girls--- is everyone ready for the holiday season?? I will be ovulating right around New Years Eve.. that is exciting, as DH has promised to "try real hard" this month. And I mean bd'ing every day!!!

I will try to catch up more in a bit. For now Ivska- welcome back. Glad to see you. and Angel- that is horrible. I want to give you hug and throat punch that woman!

 

[krissie328]

Angel- so sorry you are going through that. I hope you can get it sorted soon. Congrats on the weightloss. That is fabulous!

Ivksa- that top one looks positive, not sure why it gave you an error.

I'm so not ready for the holidays. I have no holiday spirit this year.

 

[Angel5000]

My temps dropped further today. If I'm following the same pattern as last month then I will probably get a rise for the next day or two and then a drop and O. I'm hoping that's what happens at least. I've been getting some watery CM with a tiny bit of EW so that's a definite sign. And I've been feeling much more.... amorous.... the last several days so I think that's a sign. I've noticed in the last couple months I get an increased libido around O time usually (as long as I don't have enormous amounts of stress).

I splurged and picked up a CB Advanced OPK pack today. I usualy just buy the regular and do only a test whne I start to get close to + on the ICs but I felt like splurging since I'm trying really hard to follow SMEP this month and I want to make SURE we get the fertile days. We'll see how it goes. It's a lot of money though! Holy Cow! The things we do to get a BFP!


Hi Ivksa!! Long time no see! Good to see you again!! I you got the flashy smiley yesterday then today you could either get flashy or solid but the lines won't really tell us much I don't think because the advanced test reads a combination of estrogen and LH. You get hte flashy smiley when you have an estrogen surge indicating that your LH surge will be coming soon ( I think that is how it works if I remember correctly) so the line won't help us with that. However, based on the lines, I don't know which line would be control and which is not so it's hard to tell but I want to say the top one is a positive. I think on the advanced you should get solid smiley 2 days in a row. So BD for sure today if you can and test again tomorrow. Sucks that you got an error. Those tests are so expensive I get upset if one doesn't read. I'm like "Really? That much $ for an error?!"

 

[todmommy4568]

Okay so trying to catch up a little bit angel both of them are awful what a bunch of morons! Ivksa glad to see you got your hands on some opks but really an error wth!

So my avoidance of O didn't go so well if I know my body pretty sure we did it O-3 and O day and then last night I made DH wear a condom and he is like really now you are going to be safe about this

 

[Blackrain90]

Ahaha that's fantastic. Not that your timing was a bit too on, but having DH wear a condom after spending so long TTC!

 

[cupcake.]

Hello ladies
I have been reading along, just didn't post as much for the last couple days. There just hasn't really been anything exciting happening.
I'm trying to stay relaxed and just see what my body does, but i do hope I will actually ovulate this month. I hope my body will decide to go back to normal finally!

Angel, i'm sorry you're going through this.. My aunt is kind of doing the same thing as that coward of a husband, because for a couple of months now my uncle has turned into such an A** and is abusing her mentally (though if she keeps staying i don't think the physical abuse is far away..) and she keeps defending him! It's frustrating seeing a loved one (or anyone really) go through this and not seeing how bad the situation is. It's codependency really and there's nothing anyone can do as long as the people don't realize they have to get out of the relationship..

Ivksa, glad you got your handy on a clearblue opk kit, but what is it with the error? really, not like those tests aren't expensive, how frustrating!

todmommy thats awesome how many dpo are you now?

Also, I hope everyone is having great holidays, spent in peace with tons of love and laughter

 

[Lawes1987]

Hey ladies, I thought it had gone a bit quiet!

Lots of BDing around, you horny lot!

AFM I am CD14, due to enter my 6 day fertility window tomorrow, so I will be making the husbands Christmas to New Year very fun! LOL. Husband really wants a summer baby so hoping we get caught so we can have a September baby but after 4 miscarriages I am just happy with a healthy baby of either sex, any time of the bloody year.

I'm cooking for 9 tomorrow (me, OH, my mum, her OH, my nanna, sister, brother and 2 cousins) so a full house! Then I'm going to visit the husbands parents. Busy busy.

I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas!

 

[krissie328]

Hey ladies- not much going on over here. CD 18 and no sign of o. Still trying to take it easy and not worry to much.

We are doing Christmas today with my mom. No plans for tomorrow. Other than hoping to get the house cleaned. My inlaws are coming next week and we are having some friends over on Sunday. DH and I are off until the 4th so I'm pretty excited to spend some time with him.

 

[Angel5000]

Morning friends!

I think the CB Advanced is stressing me out. I keep expecting a bouncing smiley face and not getting one and then worrying that I'm not actually gearing up to O after all. I really need to just and stop thinking about it.

I messed up SMEP by missing last night, but that's okay because we'll get it today and just keep going on every other from today out. I think we'll still be okay since I am not quite up to O yet.

On another news, I had my annual pap yesterday and dr says that if I don't get a BFP in a month or two to call and she'll refer us to the fertility clinic associate with her office so that I can start testing. She says there's a good chance that nothing's actually wrong (especially wiht as long as I was on bcp) but that they'll begin testing and they are very systematic about how they do it so I might as well start and rule out everything just in case. Nice to know that someone is willing to start that since my last doctor was so anti-starting anything. She's also running a slew of blood work just to make sure everything else is good, which I appreciate. She can't run the hormone and fertility tests bc insurance won't pay if she runs it instead of making me go to the fertility place but she's at least getting thsi stuff done for me. I like this new dr.

tod That's great, in a totally not-great but so ironically hilarious sort of way. Love that you made him wear a condom now, several days after O.

cupcake Yeah, the codependcy thing, so very frustrating as an outsider watching it. Hpe you get to O this cycle!!

Lawes Cooking for 9?! Wow!! We decided to split up the cooking this year. My sister, myself and my mom each took a couple dishes so we'll each cook a couple things and bring it. Much simpler in our case.

 

[krissie328]

I am glad to hear your doctor is being so proactive Angel. Hopefully you won't need that referral.

 

[Angel5000]

Hope so too, but I'm really glad that she's been proactive.

I just got my labs back from everything else she ran and in all other areas I'm nice and healthy. Red Blood Cells (hemoglobin) is a little high but that's probably because I just recovered from Pnuemonia a week or two ago. Otherwise I'm good. She's gonna run that test again in a couple months just to be sure. So looks like all I have to do at this point is keep up the

 

[lvksa]

Hi girls,

When I went home and tested again I got the solid smiley. That was Tuesday. I didn't realize that the rest stops working after you get a solid smiley though.

The next day my grandfather died after 5 years fighting cancer. I didn't know until I came home from work. My husband told me and then decided to buy tickets to fly home. We flew out 6 am that next morning. I fly back to KSA on the 1st.

I got solid crosshairs this morning. I think it's a little confusing because we flew to the USA which means our day Thursday was like doubled. I'm not sure how it works with charting and whatever.

The doctor I went to see put me on medicine to lower my prolactin level, but the other tests they did were okay. She asked me to come back CD 3 next cycle to get more blood work done. Maybe I won't have to..

 

[todmommy4568]

Angel that is awesome that your doctor is being proactive, it is such a good feeling when they are eager to get things done!

Ivksa I am so sorry to hear about your grandfather

I am guessing I am probably about 7dpo right now If I don't get AF by the fifth of January I will take a test. I have completely thrown myself in to weight watchers to take my mind off TTC and now I'm sitting here like I don't want a baby I want to lose all this weight!! Lol I tend to jump in to things and give it my all Once it is time to TTC again I am sure I will throw myself back in to TTC, these next couple cycles could not go fast enough! I am actually considering the mini pill for the next couple cycles to prevent an oopsie, thoughts?

 

[Angel5000]

lvksa - I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather.
As for the tests, yeah I read somewhere that no matter what after the solid smiley you'll keep getting solids so don't bother to keep testing. If you don't use the test for more than 3 days I think it resets the handle thing so you can use the rest of the sticks next cycle, but I'm not 100% sure on that so don't quote me on it.

I'm surprised your doctor is willing to start running tests this soon but that's great. Glad they are being proactive.


todmommy I was just saying something similar to DH. I've lost quite a bit of weight (well, not weight so much as inches, but same thing) and was like "man, now if I get pregnant I"ll get fat again!". I do the same thing, throw myself into something hardcore.

As for minipill - how long did it take you to regulate the last time you went off bcp (if you were on pill? can't remember). It is taking me so long that I wouldn't do it again myself but I was also on it for 15 years, which I'm sure affects it more than a couple months would. I would say that if getting pregnant in the next couple cycles would REALLY throw off your internship and be a catastrophe, then consider the pill for a couple cycles (since apparently avoiding fertile period wasn't working for you )

 

[todmommy4568]

Lol the same thing happened that happened the month I got pregnant with Asher. When I'm not tracking everything my body definitely lets me know it is time and I get super horny I had an iud in before and it took two-three months to regulate but I think I am just going to make condoms a requirement even though they are super nasty and they stink lol I forgot about that part It wouldn't be catastrophic to get pregnant in the next couple cycles but I can't imagine it would be good either

 

[MsRipple]

Hi ladies! 11 almost 12 dpo today. Thinking I'm out because our timing was not amazing but you never know! Taking a break from
Temping this cycle has been nice for me ( I need temp a couple of days after my clearblue to confirm ov as I got positive clear blues but negative opts which was weird)

Todsmommy - remind me, why are you taking a ttc break?

Ivska sounds like a good doc visit! so sorry to hear about your grandfather

Angel so sorry about your friend. He's in a rough spot no doubt but how stressful for you

 

[mrscletus]

Hiya Girls....

Finally have time to catch up a little.

Ivska- so sorry about your grandfather and how miserable that makes the holidays. Glad that you were able to make it home for the funeral and hope that you wont need further testing.

Angle- that is great about your new doc. It is always nerve racking switching docs, and its nice to know that you made the right choice. Good luck and hopefully you wont need that referral afterall.

Tod- You crack me up, I don't think my husband would even have sex with me if I made a condom a "requirement" he would rather take care of himself...LOL BUT I don't think that I would want to take the mini pill either. That's just more nonsense in your body. Just my opinion

Krissie- really hope for that O soon for you. Are you currently taking anything?

Lawes- yes we all must be a bunch of hornballs right now as the thread is not moving very quickly.

Ms Ripple- glad that the break from temping is helping, I don't know that I could take a break (well unless I forget which happens)

AFM- CD9 and looking like I am gearing up, watery CM, darker line on the OPK (IC) and increased sex drive. DH is all about trying hard this cycle. We both really want this to work this month. My everything is crossed and we are going to be getting busy all week. Luckily we are both off of work for the majority of the week so no need to sleep! HAHAHA. Oh and don't mind the HUGE temp spike on Christmas and the day after, yup- I got sick for Christmas, now today I have lost my voice. But no more fever at least.

Anyone have big plans for New Year's Eve? We are a very boring couple and don't ever go out.