Morning all,
Not at work today, it took me forever to get ready and then when I went to get my work pants out of the tumble dryer they were still wet. I have not other trousers as they were all in the same wash and nothing else fits me :doh: I have been so tired these past few days doing nothing, well, paperwork, washing clothes, pottering about doing house stuff and it just seems to have taken it out of me. I feel bad for not going in but work are fine by it thankfully.
OH just called to say I can help him with the cellar when I get home and asked me to move the bins round the front, after telling me I should relax. Lol Bless.
Eswift - hope you get to catch up on some those Zzzz's your seeing everyone else get x
I was brought up open minded but mainly C of E, we ended up living abroad loads when I was a child/teenager so we had lots of experiences that were from other cultures and back grounds...
I do feel that the final desicion is up to LO in the end, but I can't see the harm in a grounded education within a religion... DS was Christened at 4 months old, and attends a C of E school; through my choosing... I've had no regrets... I've to decide which secondary school to enrole DS into next year...
I agree, I can't see the harm in those experiences - as much as I and OH have made our decision I still feel like we should guide our LO and give them the knowledge to make their own.
I didn't go to a religious school but I grew up in Bradford and so I was exposed to very many different cultures and religions. My first school used to celebrate Easter and Christmas etc but we also used to celebrate things like Eid and Divali. My friend went to a Catholic School and obvioulsy they only followed Catholic traditions and celebrations.
I think the basic principals of religion are good, it helps teach good morals.
Nah, it doesn't sound bad
the christening we went to today was catholic and i suspect that was carried out for two main reasons. a) to get the baby into the best school locally which happens to be catholic and b) to show her off
the service was so dull - was 45 minutes long and I got a numb bum and there were babies crying all way throughout and it felt like 3 hours long!! Sounds awful but I have been to funerals that were more inspiring. If we were to christen LO would be CofE like you. There is a very good CofE school near us but have to go to church regularly for years and years to get in and I think I would feel just too hypocritical and manipulative doing that
The last christening I went to was horrible, it was in the middle of a normal service. I only go to Church as support for my sister when I go and visit her. The vicar-lady held the baby and was jiggiling the poor thing about saying "he could be a bank manager or a bank robber but God will still love him" - WHAT KIND OF THING TO SAY IS THAT?!!
I couldn't go to church as regular as that! We would have to have a plan b! I just can't do it, it freaks me out. I won't waffle on about that though as I could be here all day! The Childminder we have has said they just need to be christened as she takes some of the other children to that school.
Maffie: Congrats on 33 weeks!
We haven't discussed christening the baby. I went to a CofE school, a great school and it had a great spirit to it, very friendly and caring and the vicars were always there and I got involved in loads of activities at school and church. I wasn't christened as mum thinks we should decide. I'm still not christened but do believe in God.
My oh used to go to your alt and has had a Christian lifestyle so it's something we will have to discuss. I do think if a child is Christened then i'd want it to mean more than just that and for the child to be brought up in that way.
I was christened and even confirmed at a younger age but something just changed in me. Don't get me wrong, I do have my own views but I can not say I am completely religious. There are lots of things I agree with and others I don't. However . . . I wouldn't just get LO christened and say that is that. I wouldnt send them to a Cof E at all if I wanted to keep them away from religion. I would be happy in the knowledge that the school would be giving them some basic religious understanding and do activities that they can get involved in. I and OH would teach our LO the morals and lessons we liked and still believe in to this day. Like I say, I still want them to experience religion.
We are considering having a christening but seeing as we didn't get married in a church, we too feel it would be very hypocritical. I was never christened and I still attended a CofE school....amongst others (went to 14 schools in total!
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We were thinking of having a 'naming day' where we would basically lay on a bit of food and drink, invite everyone round and generally show the LO off to family and friends, offically name them (after all, baptism is a sacrament that doesn't have to be done by a priest!), name the god-parents etc, without all the pomp and circumstance of a church service which I'm not really a fan of. We have the problem though that the family are so spread out, I'm not sure anyone would come!
We live in a small town and they are one of the best schools in the area so its very popular and as such having your child christened is an advantage over other non-christened children applying there. I don't really agree with this but I would like my LO to get into that school. It located two mins up the road if that as well. It just seems ideal in every way and my LO missing out becasue they weren't christened seems daft.
I'm sure your family would like to come for a one off special day such as that.
I'm a great believer that being at ease with your own spirituality will do more for your child's well-being. My Mum too thought I should choose what religion I wanted to move into, and I think that this is an important decision for everyone to make. Giving a 'good' upbringing is more important! (My uncle had all 4 of his children and him and his wife 'welcomed' into the catholic faith so that the children could go to the local catholic school.....seems a bit off to me!)
I agree about being at ease with your own spirituality. However, I also want my LO to be aware of religion and without me taking them to church each sunday (it's just not going to happen) it will difficult for them to be aware of them. Plus I want them to get a good education so that they can get off to a good start in life and if that means I have to christen them to get them into a good school in the area then so be it!
OK enough from me! Lol Time for
OH and I aren't religious even though we were both brought up in religion (OH was actually the lead quior (sp?!?) boy at one point, he is very
about it though, he got to sing in front of the Queen and was even a better singer than Gareth Gates (if anyone can remeber him) who was in the same group. Hence my singing is never up to scratch but I don't care I can howl the house down and still be happy
to all in need and congrats to those reaching new milestones xxxx
she has just had a cool bath and we are gonna try and work out what she has come into contact with thats different! We changed her food 5 days ago so seems as though that maybe it.. gonna put her back on the old stuff and see if they go down.
any chance to show off my baby x (do excuse my boxer's bum in the pic 
Have a good'n ... we're off to antenatal tonight, so not the most romantic of occasions! xx
