OH performance anxiety - 6 BFPs so far!!!!

[kelly1973]

im guna test 10dpo

 

[SaraJewel]

Well I feel like I have horrendous PMT: tired, grumpy, feel fat and sore BBs! Exactly the same as last month!

HPMINI, did you feel the same as you did every month then? Or do you not usually get PMT symptoms?

I will not test until I am a week late. There, I've said it!!!

 

[kelly1973]

wow sara your strong i want sore boobys i had them bad last time no symptons here gutted i feel im out already

 

[SaraJewel]

I'm not sure it makes a difference! Some women have said that they had no symptoms and then found out they were pregnant!

Yeah, I say I won't test til 1 week now but..............!

 

[kelly1973]

yeah i thought id be strong but im addicted to poas lol

 

[SaraJewel]

yeah i thought id be strong but im addicted to poas lol

Well, I have been a week late before then got my AF exactly a week late to the day so feel I should wait! Slim odds for this month tho, have to be realistic (not being pessimistic!!!)

 

[kelly1973]

this was my first month that i had even a glimmer of a hope as we actually dtd twice which trust me is a miracle lately, it gets me down every month trying to be strong on testing but you know how it is. do you temp etc

 

[SaraJewel]

this was my first month that i had even a glimmer of a hope as we actually dtd twice which trust me is a miracle lately, it gets me down every month trying to be strong on testing but you know how it is. do you temp etc

No, am wary of putting more pressure on myself and OH by doing tests. Just look at CM. I am hoping we are more successful in months to come, we DTD more regularly than we used to but not always successful in terms of finishing. How about you?

 

[kelly1973]

exactly the same on says he feels pressured so i dont talk about babys but how can i ever get pregnant if he cant do it its heartbreaking so this month was a good one compared to usual,it doesnt seem fair im quite envious at these girls that can dtd every night or follow smep

 

[SaraJewel]

exactly the same on says he feels pressured so i dont talk about babys but how can i ever get pregnant if he cant do it its heartbreaking so this month was a good one compared to usual,it doesnt seem fair im quite envious at these girls that can dtd every night or follow smep

We only did it successfully once for each of the past 3 months. The 4 months before we had no successes at all. It was awful, frustrating and I cried all the time.

I know what you mean, I read posts all the time from girls who say they don't think they have BD'd enough, then go on to say they did it 4 times prior to ovulation!!!! My OH has recently asked to know when the important time is to do it, so I am giving him a vague timeframe as to be honest I don't know the exact date myself (and think it might be best to keep it this way).

It's comforting to meet people in the same position. How long have you been trying?

 

[kelly1973]

i got pregnant by accident last year and had amiscarriage in dec my whole world fell apart so since than as now desperate for a little bean. this is what i did as for the last three months we didnt do it no i take my temp and use opks and then you know when its guna happen and this time only because oh saw how sad i was we used viagra and it worked as we dtd twice before ovulation i dread it each month

 

[curleymumma]

Hey ladies,

i work in the area of sexual health- while i cant give out proffesional advice to individuals, there are some basic ways to help this-

-1- dont blame yourself, even though i may suggest things you can do, thats becasue YOu CAN do some things, not becasue its your fault or responsibilty to fix it.

-2-if your OH has given consent to have a baby, then cut all TTC talk out completely, evenything nada, do everything you can with lifetyle and supplements without talking to him about it at all.

-3- for the women who are having real trouble (like OH cant finnish most of the time) sacrifice one cycle for the sake of the rest- just slightly pull away sexually, let him make the advances and if he doest don't worry, take the pressure off completely. THen after a few weeks of that, start to experiment- lingere, new places, toys, music, etc- make the sexual energy electric and if he doesn't finish, don't worry, he will.

-4- remember women are more attractive to men wen they are ovulating, but men pick up on this at a subconsciose level, your smell, your taste, your body all alter slightly around this time, let this natural beauty flow through you rather than thinking of ways to convince him into bed, be filled with the sexual goddess that you are!

-5- those of you who have OH's pushing 40- remember that mens sexual peak is past by this point, and if your between 30-45 you are IN your peak. Putting pressure on a man to perform like he used to will be counterproductive. But you can use your sexual peak and confidence to your advantage- look at it from a sexual rather than TTC point of view-

----finally, good luck!---

 

[SaraJewel]

i got pregnant by accident last year and had amiscarriage in dec my whole world fell apart so since than as now desperate for a little bean. this is what i did as for the last three months we didnt do it no i take my temp and use opks and then you know when its guna happen and this time only because oh saw how sad i was we used viagra and it worked as we dtd twice before ovulation i dread it each month

I am so sorry for your loss, it sounds like it was devastating.

I hate this 2WW. AF is due on Weds at the earliest and I feel terrible, horrible PMT symptoms. When is AF due for you? Good luck to you and glad you had a more successful month. It's hard isn't it?

 

[kelly1973]

it is and makes it harder for us as we have all the dread and dissapointment ahead of if it is actually guna happen. im due af at the weekend not got any symptons at the moment so not feeling very positive

 

[kelly1973]

just saw were the same age hun xxx

 

[SaraJewel]

just saw were the same age hun xxx

We are!!! I think we have to stay positive though, let's try and keep each other upbeat! If it doesn't happen this month, there is always next month

 

[kelly1973]

its a deal hopefully bump buddies to be xxx

 

[rubiemckinney]

Hi Sarah:

My ex husband had a similar problem. We enlisted the help of a therapist and then she referred us to a sex therapist (she was not covered by insurance and was expensive). Needless to say, it never helped our TTC. One day I came home from work early and found EX DH masterbating to porn. So I finally found out why he wasn't performing with me it was because he was masterbating everyday after he got home. He worked nights and I worked days. I ended up making him my ex-husband because I found his actions to be so selfish and inconsiderate when he knew that we were TTC and my heart was crushed. I am not saying this about your DH but sometimes men don't know how to tell us women that they have no interest in TTC. They pretend at least that was the case in my situation. Big hugs and I wish you the best!

 

[rubiemckinney]

Oh and one more thing. He went to the doctor to get a workup and they found nothing wrong with him. It wasn't meds or poor health or anything of the sort. He also was prescribed viagra, levitra, and cealis. After I threw him out I found all of the unopened prescription bottles--unused. It was a very sad day for me.

 

[curleymumma]

Oh and one more thing. He went to the doctor to get a workup and they found nothing wrong with him. It wasn't meds or poor health or anything of the sort. He also was prescribed viagra, levitra, and cealis. After I threw him out I found all of the unopened prescription bottles--unused. It was a very sad day for me.

im so sorry to hear that- sometimes i just want to scream---MEN SUCK!!!!---