OH performance anxiety - 6 BFPs so far!!!!

[kelly1973]

it helps me as when i get a plus i know at least ive given my best i bought viagra last month it did wonders

 

[SaraJewel]

it helps me as when i get a plus i know at least ive given my best i bought viagra last month it did wonders

Thanks HPMINI and Kelly. I think I will check out OPKs next month just to check I am definitely ovulating when I think I am.

Feeling quite exhausted by the whole process at the moment to be honest, finding it hard to stay positive.

How is everyone else?

 

[kelly1973]

same as you sara really not looking forward to the month ahead when i read about other ladies doing the smep plan i get so envious dtd is a bloody nitemare at times you should really try opk it really means you def have the best chance you dont have to tell other half when you get a plus

 

[SaraJewel]

same as you sara really not looking forward to the month ahead when i read about other ladies doing the smep plan i get so envious dtd is a bloody nitemare at times you should really try opk it really means you def have the best chance you dont have to tell other half when you get a plus

Yes, you're right it's hard to read about others DTD every other day (or more sometimes!) and then worrying they haven't done it enough!

We are trying to give this month more of a go. Fingers crossed. CD11 today. It would be nice to be able to forget about it for a while, but like you say it's hard and is generally always on my mind.

Having said that, feeling more positive than a few days ago.

 

[kelly1973]

me too sara fingers crossed eh, people on another thread i use are all getting pregnant and seem to dtd every bloody day lucky sods, im really hoping this is our month xxx

 

[SaraJewel]

me too sara fingers crossed eh, people on another thread i use are all getting pregnant and seem to dtd every bloody day lucky sods, im really hoping this is our month xxx

I really hope so, although it is a bit hit and miss with us at the moment. Really affects my mood, one minute I'm the next I'm

Let's keep going and keep positive (no matter how hard it might seem!)

 

[kelly1973]

hugs sara i know how you feel wat i do is temp up to ov and do opk to know when i ov so i get the best chance to dtd i have two viagra tabs left for this month least theh you know when you did it it was the best chance its prob affecting other half as he feels that hes letting you down, it took few weeks for other half to say yes to taking these, were in this together xxxx

 

[gustav72]

Hi, I'm a bit late getting in on this thread...actually took a few weeks break from the boards and it was adding to my constant thoughts on TTC. I know how you feel..I'll be 40 in November and we've been TTC since December...in April the stress levels were pretty high for both of us and my wonderful man had some performance issues...we decided to take a small break from TTC and we are starting up again this month...I am a bit nervous the same thing will happen again, but know we have to move forward with TTC. My partner and I both desperately want to get pregnant and communicate openly about the stress of TTC. I've decided to not talk about it so much and give us both a break, although I still think of it every day. I'm thinking of you and sending you positive thoughts...

 

[SaraJewel]

hugs sara i know how you feel wat i do is temp up to ov and do opk to know when i ov so i get the best chance to dtd i have two viagra tabs left for this month least theh you know when you did it it was the best chance its prob affecting other half as he feels that hes letting you down, it took few weeks for other half to say yes to taking these, were in this together xxxx

Yes, I'm sure he is feeling fed up as well. I am not letting it show (as far as I know!) and trying to keep upbeat at least on the outside.

Viagra wouldn't help us as OH doesn't have any problems in that way, it's finishing off that sometimes is the problem.

Hugs back to you as well. I still have time I think this month.............so keeping those fingers crossed!!! (for me and for you!)

 

[SaraJewel]

Hi, I'm a bit late getting in on this thread...actually took a few weeks break from the boards and it was adding to my constant thoughts on TTC. I know how you feel..I'll be 40 in November and we've been TTC since December...in April the stress levels were pretty high for both of us and my wonderful man had some performance issues...we decided to take a small break from TTC and we are starting up again this month...I am a bit nervous the same thing will happen again, but know we have to move forward with TTC. My partner and I both desperately want to get pregnant and communicate openly about the stress of TTC. I've decided to not talk about it so much and give us both a break, although I still think of it every day. I'm thinking of you and sending you positive thoughts...

Welcome Gustav! I feel nervous every month and then elated when things go well but depressed/anxious when they don't..........

I have defo found talking about it less helps. Things are better than they were. Like you tho, I think about it every day.

Positive thoughts to you too!!!

 

[kelly1973]

Hi gustav welcome to our thread,ive found that not mentioning trying to concieve at all has worked wonders if oh knew how much i think about it do you temp etc im an addict of poas lol

 

[SaraJewel]

Hi gustav welcome to our thread,ive found that not mentioning trying to concieve at all has worked wonders if oh knew how much i think about it do you temp etc im an addict of poas lol

I know, if he knew how much I thought about it I think it would totally freak him out! Feeling down today, too many babies around and too many pregnant people. I don't think this is going to be our month..........

 

[HPMINI]

I tried to keep it from him as much as possible but there was a couple of times when I was so irritated when he told me he was tired that I just had to snap! I then used to tell him almost as soon as my period had finished that it was a good week! That seemed to work better as it took stress out of it being particular days.

And I so know what you mean about too many babies and too many pregnant people - it really does hurt I know and trying to sound like you are genuinely offering congratulations.

I have my fingers crossed for you all! I am quite nervous looking after my bean - it has been nearly ten weeks but I want to be able to relax!

 

[kelly1973]

Hi hp how far on are you??

Sara dont be down this is our month i think if you do opk s at least you would know just dont let oh know its not that your going behind his back just helping your futures along it helps me loads knowing what my bodies doing seeing as thereonly such a short window you can get pregnant in in this together its our month xxxxxxxx

 

[viccat]

I hope you don't mind me popping up on this thread. It is a thread I keep coming back to - not because OH has performance anxiety as such, but we only DTD a couple of times a month. It's just the way he is, and to be honest I'm happy with that for 3 weeks every month

This is month 4, and I reckon there was only last month that we were anywhere near DTD at the right date. I think one month we didn't DTD at all - does that even count as TTC?

So..... I've got a CBFM, and started using it this month. CD8 but only got the next couple of weekends as my beloved is away for the next couple of weeks. Fingers crossed for this weekend, that the timing is right, and he's not too tired.

Glad to join you all on this admittedly difficult journey.

 

[HPMINI]

Kelly

I'm 10 weeks along! Eek! It took so long to finally get here. I am sure the CBFM helped me though. Glad not to have the expense of it at the moment though but it was worth every penny! I get a scan in two weeks!

 

[kelly1973]

Hi viccat welcome to our thread,least when you opk you only need dtd once so fingers crossed xxx

hp wow congrats is this your first if its ok with the other ladies would love to see scan pics when you get them xx

 

[SaraJewel]

I tried to keep it from him as much as possible but there was a couple of times when I was so irritated when he told me he was tired that I just had to snap! I then used to tell him almost as soon as my period had finished that it was a good week! That seemed to work better as it took stress out of it being particular days.

And I so know what you mean about too many babies and too many pregnant people - it really does hurt I know and trying to sound like you are genuinely offering congratulations.

I have my fingers crossed for you all! I am quite nervous looking after my bean - it has been nearly ten weeks but I want to be able to relax!

I am so excited for you! It can't be long til your scan now, good luck for it x I would love to see your scan picture. I think things are improving for me and OH, still not 100% success rate in DTD successfully, but not 0% and better than last month! Your advice about telling him when was a good week seems to have help, to be honest tho, he asked me to tell him which was weird, without me having to suggest it!

 

[SaraJewel]

Hi viccat welcome to our thread,least when you opk you only need dtd once so fingers crossed xxx

hp wow congrats is this your first if its ok with the other ladies would love to see scan pics when you get them xx

I am less glum, actually feel quite good at the moment. I would also love to see HP's scan pic.

I do wonder about DTD once, as does 'old' sperm not work very well in getting to the egg?

 

[SaraJewel]

I hope you don't mind me popping up on this thread. It is a thread I keep coming back to - not because OH has performance anxiety as such, but we only DTD a couple of times a month. It's just the way he is, and to be honest I'm happy with that for 3 weeks every month

This is month 4, and I reckon there was only last month that we were anywhere near DTD at the right date. I think one month we didn't DTD at all - does that even count as TTC?

So..... I've got a CBFM, and started using it this month. CD8 but only got the next couple of weekends as my beloved is away for the next couple of weeks. Fingers crossed for this weekend, that the timing is right, and he's not too tired.

Glad to join you all on this admittedly difficult journey.

Hi Viccat, everyone is welcome! It's mad that something which used to be such fun (DTD) suddenly turns into hard work! Let us know how you get on with your CBFM. I am going to have a bash with OPKs next month.