One Blighted Ovum - One Missed Miscarriage

[Lilly123]

If I have to go with this hospital I will not do it again. Have contacted my PCT to see if I can get funding transferred to a hospital in Manchester who have said they will take on my case if the PCT will transfer the NHS funding. I can only hope they say yes because otherwise I am not doing it again. I am not allowing any place to treat us the way that this hospital have. Once I have been transferred I am going to write the biggest, bitchiest letter there ever was because I don't think they should be allowed to get away with it without being told straight up how utterly shocking they have made us feel.

Thanks Tanya. Its nice when somebody else has felt like this. Not nice that they felt it, obviously, but it makes me feel less alone.

of course honey.... i have messaged FJL and will come back to u

I agree.. they have treated u shockingly.. its a disgrace.. nex time, and there will be a next time, when you move to manchester you call the shots and you must ask for HCG blood tests and early scans....its ridiculous that it got left this long! makes me so angry for u

I just want my choice to matter. I want my emotional health to matter. I want to be treated with some kind of dignity and respect and from the very first instance, when that woman who totally misdiagnosed me laughed in my face when I dared question it, I have felt 'wrong' about all of this.

We should feel right, shouldn't we?

of course you should feel right... and they have treated you so appallingly.. unbelievable...

 

[maz]

Hi CS

Your email sounds fine hun. You shouldn't need to feel anxious about the reply, as you offered more information than you had to.

I really hope that FJL gets in touch with you. She has been through what you're going through so is probably the best person to help you. I hope that this hell is over with very soon.

 

[CurlySue]

In what is their first show of human niceness (after a muck up by themselves) the hospital called today. They first asked why I had not attended my scan yesterday only to realise they had booked it for the wrong date (would that mean I would have turned up next week for no scan?) and then telephoned me back to have a little chat with me.

"I did your first scan," the woman said. "I remember you were very upset and wanted things over with as soon as possible so I can only imagine how hard it is to be left a further week." Yes, I said. It is awful.

She said that to prevent any further delay she has booked a D&C for the day after the scan. "Otherwise, you would have had your scan and then had to wait another week for the procedure because nobody provisionally booked one for you at your last scan."

It was nice of her. Was nice of her to think of that. She said obviously, if there is anything in that scan that means that they have to wait further then that could be a good thing. She didn't seem hopeful, as she shouldn't be since there is no hope, but as she said it's better to have something you do not need than to NOT have something that you really do require.

 

[babymaybe]

It's about time they showed you some human kindness CS. Bless those nurses that are hardworking and caring.

 

[CurlySue]

J keeps talking about the woman from the other day. How hard she was. How cold. How the only thing she didn't do is go out into the reception area, pick up a newborn child and say "This is what you're NOT having, so get used to it."

That is how she was. I sometimes feel I am too sensitive but J is not so it can't be my sensitivity.

I wondered why she had not provisionally booked something since she knew it was what I wanted. She even acknowledged to this nurse today when she spoke to her that she could've provisionally booked it, seeing how desperate we were for a resolution.

I'm just glad someone was kind enough to think ahead.

 

[toby2]

thats good to hear, am glad she did that for you-think most nurses are great but it does seem that some are hardened to their job-i actually had a student watching one of my scans when they knew baby had died, i looked down and the women had actually given her the probe and was giving her directions ffs, i know they need to practise but you would think there was a time and a place-nothing people say about their treatment at hospitals suprises me, upsets me but doesnt suprise me

 

[Vickie]

I'm so sorry for your losses

 

[CareBear]

I'm glad someone is doing something at last. I'm so sorry you're going through this, your email to work was fine, don't worry about that you need to get better in yourself first before worrying about work.

 

[CurlySue]

I'm glad someone is doing something at last. I'm so sorry you're going through this, your email to work was fine, don't worry about that you need to get better in yourself first before worrying about work.

I know you are right.

But look at RAFA. Bless. Pepe Reina is currently asleep on my feet...not the real one, no. But for a bald man I wouldn't say no...

 

[CareBear]

Thank you! and Lol at Pepe Reina!

 

[Farie]

Hey honey

I am so pleased someone has finally treated you like a human being, offering a little support and thoughfulness, you deserve it, and it is good. Although perhaps rather too little, to late.

Biggest hugs, thinking of you

Ps your email to work was fine

 

[CurlySue]

It was nice for someone to actually think of the emotional side of things rather than just focusing on what they have to do as part of their job description.

I just wish something would happen, now. I wish I would spot. Cramp severely. I wish I would show *some* sign that my body has accepted that there is nothing to hold on to.

Never wished for the witch to show up before but at least it would mean closure, no?

 

[toby2]

It would mean closure, i think an end to the physical part gives you time to process the emotional and mental part.
(((((()))))))

 

[Farie]

I think your right, it would give closure, a physical support of the emotional and mental knowledge you have.
A point to go forward from, if that makes any sense?

 

[Mrs G]

Just wanted to stop by with :hig: I am glad things are starting to sort out but I cannot believe how insenstively they have acted and how much additional pain you have been put through.

Kath xx

 

[toby2]

morning my lovely, thinking of you
((((((())))))))

 

[CurlySue]

Morning all. Still feeling sick, still feeling crappy. Seriously, if I didn't know what had happened I might be happy that FINALLY the symptoms had arrived.

 

[toby2]

Oh darling what a pile of shite, cant think of anything you can take to help either?
biggest of all hugs and i hope everyone is looking after you well
xx

 

[Nicnac]

Hey hon,

Sorry you're feeling crappy

Glad to hear that someone at that bloomin hospital is finally treating you like a human being. I just gobsmacked that they continuously make stupid mistakes, the level of care is chronic. I really hope they can transfer you to Manchester.

I hope this week goes ok and things can start, to help you heal.

Big Big

 

[CurlySue]

I hope so too. Have to wait until the PCT get back to me. I have made initial queries with them but so far nothing, yet.

Just can't believe I started getting nauseous AFTER the babies had died. Where is the logic and fairness in that? Sod's law, is what it is. Sod's law.