Over 30 & still trying for baby #1

[Carybear]

So sorry buttrfly... Nasty witch

 

[MellyH]

I'm 31 and will start trying for my first early next year. If all goes to plan (ha!) I would have my first at 32 and my second at 34 and be wrapped up before we get to the special set of tests that kick in at 35. One things baby/pregnancy forums have taught me though is that nothing ever goes to plan!

 

[flou]

Sorry AF showed buttrfly

 

[MrsDuck]

I'm out AF started kinda spotty like but I can tell coming to torture me

Noooooo I'm so sorry she showed her ugly face

 

[MrsDuck]

Hi melly welcome to the group, I had a similar plan but unfortunately fate dealt me a different hand and 3 years later I'm only just pregnant now.

I hope life treats you a little kinder

So you've only got a couple of cycles before you start ttc, you are more than welcome to join us in our chitter chatter, January will be here before you know it

 

[highhopes2013]

Sorry about AF buttrfly

I had a tiny bit of bright red spotting last night. Literally like a pin prick. It's 6 days too early for AF. Also been feeling weirdly hot in the face - cheeks are flushed, but the rest of me feels cold!

 

[ItsAWonder]

Highhopes - that sounds promising!! Absolutely no symptoms for me other than regular PMS.

 

[flou]

Highhopes that sounds good. Got my fxd for you!

 

[flou]

I'm 31 and will start trying for my first early next year. If all goes to plan (ha!) I would have my first at 32 and my second at 34 and be wrapped up before we get to the special set of tests that kick in at 35. One things baby/pregnancy forums have taught me though is that nothing ever goes to plan!

I started ttc just a few months before i turned 30 with the hope of having 2 kids by the time i was 35 with a reasonable gap between them. Im now 32 and still trying for number 1. I hope you have a much easier time of it and it doesn't take you too long to conceive. Ive got my fxd for you.

 

[MellyH]

I'm sorry you guys have struggled. I'm definitely aware that it could take awhile, hence why I'm already stalking the forums! Since some of you have been trying for over a year, are you seeing fertility specialists? I guess because the clock is ticking I'm wondering how soon people start pushing for answers if things don't happen relatively quickly. Basically, how long would you/did you wait before talking to someone about the fact that it was taking you awhile?

 

[MellyH]

Also, thanks for the welcome.

 

[highhopes2013]

Mellyhi was desperate for kids so went to my GP after a year of TTC...many many tests etc later we found out I have PCO and hubby has motility issues so we had ivf. Two rounds now, one ended in mc and second bfn. I would recommend going to ure GP earlier rather than later coz it takes quite a while to work through the nhs system.

 

[highhopes2013]

Although just realised u r in the states I have no idea how it works there sorry!

 

[ItsAWonder]

Melly - Welcome.

I am 36, will be 37 in January. Started NTNP in Oct or Nov 2012 and charting in Jan 2013. Got pg in March - chemical, got pg in April MMC at 8 weeks. I have had some testing done, just blood work, and all is normal so far. If I miscarry again or don't get pg in a few months I will see a specialist.

For me, I am not ready to begin IUIs and I don't know that I can afford IVF at, what - $20,000.00 or something like that? Not covered by insurance.

Also, I have been getting pregnant, just not holding the pregnancies. Like I said, you just have to feel it out. Most specialists in the US will not treat you until you have been trying for 1 year or are 35 and older and have been trying for 6 months.

Try not to focus on the bad outcomes if you haven't yet begun your ttc journey. (Although everyone in this post has had at least one loss.)

See how it goes. You may find that you get pregnant quickly. It can be stressful seeing negative tests but most women don't get pregnant right away.

If you do find yourself in a situation where you need to see a fertility specialist, you can get an appointment within 3 months at most. Usually less.

 

[MellyH]

Thanks for the advice. I'm not good with the American system either (I'm from Australia originally, have lived here for five years) so I have no idea how it would work. I'm aiming for 'optimistic but realistic' expectations, if that's not an oxymoron.

I was browsing the "Trying to Conceive" forums and saw the title of this thread, I didn't realise it was in this particular subsection until after I'd posted originally. I am sorry for everyone's losses. I can't imagine.

 

[ItsAWonder]

It's okay Melly. This group is a great way to get back on our feet (at least for me). I feel like the TTCAL section has amazing support and less judgment b/c of what we have been through. And, seeing women here get pregnant is that much more exciting because it gives us all hope.

Please stick around.

 

[flou]

Me and my DH went to see our gp having been trying for just over a year. He did some basic tests and all came back ok. He then referred me to a specialist. Whilst waiting for an appt we got a bfp. Then we lost our little one and an appt came through. We postponed it for a few months but when we went he told us to come back in a year as there is no reason we shouldn't conceive on our own. Now im on my 9th month since my mc.... I hope it doesn't take too much longer!

 

[MrsDuck]

Hi ladies i hope you are all well

High hopes that sounds fantastic exactly the same as I had before this bfp, I've got everything crossed for you xx

Melly like the others said it doesn't matter that you haven't had a loss to be part of this thread, please stick around you are just like us in that you are ttc your first, I hope it runs more smoothly for you than it did for us

 

[highhopes2013]

I'm trying not to get my hopes up. I've never had a natural bfp so would be highly unlikely to work now. AF is due on Monday. Not long to go! X

 

[ItsAWonder]

So I might - and I stress the "might" - be pregnant. I never do this. I don't test until AF is due or very near due. I am 10 dpo and used an IC. I got what I thought was an evap. I waited a few hours and tested with more concentrated urine and there is a faint pink line that came up within the 10 minute mark. I do not know exactly when it showed b/c I set a timer for 10 min and then look. Will keep you all posted and really hoping it's not a fake positive or a chemical!!

Still no symptoms other than being really bloated the past few days.