Over 30 & still trying for baby #1

[MrsDuck]

Buttrfly I'm sorry af showed I'd definitely have a chat with your dr and see what he says

Flou that all sounds positive, I really hope it's a bfp

 

[flou]

Does vitamin B generally affect people's cycles??

Vitamin b6 is thought to help increase levels of progesterone and some people use it to lengthen lp. The reason I'm taking it is because I'm concerned that maybe my little beans aren't implanting properly or due to family history i might have a blood clotting prob. One treatment for this is to take vitamin b tabs. I know it can't guarantee i won't miscarry next time, or i might not even have the issues i have, i just thought it may help so why not.

 

[MellyH]

Yes, it's probably good to be taking either way! I wonder if my pre-natals have it.

 

[flou]

Now cd 34 which is 17/18dpo and no AF but also bfn . Normal lp is 14/15dpo. I tested with my second morning urine as i woke up and needed to pee at 5:15am but thought as long as my next one was in at least a few hours i would be fine. So I tested about 4 hours later after i had been back asleep. I've never gone this long without AF before. My bbs are still sore and y'day I felt so very tired. I get back ache which comes and goes. Its about in the middle of my back. No real cramping but sometimes the odd pressure pain in my abdomen. Feeling very irritable and I keep forgetting things. I just either want AF to show or a bfp!

 

[MrsDuck]

Aw sorry you are in limbo flou, I hope you get some answers soon, hopefully with a beautiful bfp

 

[hilslo]

Melly and buttrfly -sorry the witch showed. Hope you're not too bummed. I used a B vitamin to increase my LP as mine was really short at 8-11 days.

Flou - mysterious about no af and no bfp. Is there any chance your dates could be out? Hoping it's a slow burner and you'll get a bfp. What kind of test did you use - was it a frer?

Itsawonder - what the heck is a rutabaga lol!

 

[Buttrflyl553]

Thanks hilslo..I am bummed but what can I do except keep going. Did you have a scan? I see you are at 13 weeks!

I'm gonna talk to the doc about my LP when she calls. I'm annoyed because the SA results are back but still waiting for doc to call. I know they are busy but I want answers and nervous about it!

Sorry flou my doc said vit b could mess with my cycle so she didn't want me to take it ( I guess as hilslo said unless you want to lengthen LP?) .i really hope that it isn't just messing with your AF and that your BFP is around the corner. I hate limbo!

 

[flou]

I know vitamin b can mess with your cycles but i thought i would give it a try. After my bfn today i stopped taking it and thought if AF still doesn't show and i get a bfp maybe start taking it again. I do think i am waiting for AF as i have normally had a bfp by now if I'm pg. Going to wait until Wednesday before testing again if AF hasn't shown. If bfn and no AF i do have a doc appointment a week Monday if neither show up.

 

[MellyH]

Argh, I can't believe you still don't have your period or a positive test! That's just unfair, you want to know one way or the other

CD4 here! I just got home last night from a week away, and sent my husband off to the airport today for his week away. We'll have CD10 and CD11 together before I go away for another week away! Our travel is a bit mental this month.

 

[Buttrflyl553]

Hi ladies,
Have to get going to work so apologize for the quick self centered post. I'm slightly bumming ( can't wait until I stop saying that!) and I need some thoughts if any of you have been through this. DH's SA came back with mixed reviews. The main issue she saw is that the good spermies are being blocked by the bad ones so the good ones are having trouble getting through. She is recommending a specialist and IUI because of this. Now we want to do everything necessary but as I explained to her we can't afford to. I am still paying d and c bills without much success. She was understanding and next cycle I will start clomid day 5-9 and prog levels day 21... 2 or 3 cycles as she hopes maybe then we won't need to go further. So now I am thinking knowing this that this month will be a bust. I am hopeful for clomid but still worried because I wonder how this will fix his issues. If clomid fails ,we have to look at other options and she wants another SA done as she doesn't always trust one sample. Anyone have any thoughts on clomid and experiences they may have heard or gone through? I was hoping for other results but there is nothing we can do. I had forgotten to ask her about my lube based on results so I need to call her back and see today. At this point though it seems to be the only thing that helps with pain.
Someone please help me put a positive spin on what I am feeling.

 

[MellyH]

That's great that there are good sperm in there! Did she recommend any way for your husband to help improve his chances? Clearing out every day vs. every other day, vitamins, etc?

I don't have any clomid experiences sorry but BnB is full of clomid success stories, I'm sure you will find lots of advice.

 

[ItsAWonder]

buttrfly - sorry for the mixed test results.

1. Lube - there are only two on the market that are safe for ttc. Preseed is one and I don't know the name of the other. I found that using Preseed as I would normally use a lube was fine however, using the recommended amount was way too much. I never got pregnant when injecting it, only when using a limited amount.

2. IUIs are great b/c it gets the sperm where it needs to go. Clomid will make your ovaries more happy. I am not sure that Clomid will fix this problem but it's definitely worth a try. There are many talk groups you can find with families who cannot afford IUI and they use the old age turkey baster - for lack of a better term. You won't be able to inject the sperm into the fallopian tube but you will be able to get it angled directly at your Os (the opening of the cervix) which may help the good sperm get to where they need to be. It's worth a try. Between that and Clomid you will probably increase your odds.

Good luck!

 

[MrsDuck]

Buttrfly I'm sorry for the mixed results but at least you still have options. I know a few ladies who have clomid babies and like the others say there are loads on threads on here. You can take it either to have 'better' eggs or more of them, depending on when in your cycle you take them. The fact tat your hubby does have good sperm as well as bad then th increased amount of eggs might just do the trick and I'm sure will be cheaper than iui.

 

[Buttrflyl553]

Melly thank you so much. My brain didn't even connect to the fact that I said good sperm and I was only focusing on bad. I needed someone to say that. The doc called at 9:30 last night so I didn't have time to process questions. I left a message in the hopes of asking about supplements and all that.

Thanks itsawonder for the info. My issue is that I tried preseed and couldn't do it. Because of my pain issues the lube I use is the only one that ever brings some comfort. She said we would discuss after results and I forgot to ask. I heard about the method you are talking about it and will look into it further.

Mrsduck thanks I hope you are right that the clomid will help and that is what I need. My doc said to take day 5-9. Hopefully this will also regulate my wacky cycle!

Thanks for the positive vibes ladies! I needed it. I realize I need to be more open minded and positive myself it has just become hard.
Hope everyone is doing well!
Any news flou?

 

[MellyH]

Glad you're feeling better Buttrfly.

 

[flou]

Sorry buttrfly that you got mixed results but your DH does have some good sperms and it only takes one. I hope the clomid helps you get your rainbow baby.

AF finally arrived today at cd39, 8 days late! I phoned my doc a couple of days ago and explained that AF was very late but had bfn and also said I had been taking vitamin b. Doc said vitamin b should only lengthen my luteal phase by about 3 days and kept saying you sure your not pg. I knew i wasn't as i kept getting bfn but also i didn't feel pg. I was also concerned that i didn't feel pms either. I had really bad pms up to the day my period was due then nothing. He then said if i was sure i had ovulated but i had a blood test this month which confirmed i had ovulated about the time i thought i had. He then told me to wait until Monday to see if AF shows. Then suddenly today AF arrives, heavy and very painful and 8 days late. Just glad now that AF arrived finally! Don't think I have ever felt so good to have period pain!

 

[MrsDuck]

Aw flou I'm sorry the witch showed but I'm glad you are now out of limbo x

 

[ItsAWonder]

Damn that witch! Glad you can move onto your next cycle and hope this one works with you a bit better.

 

[flou]

I knew AF was going to arrive so I feel relieved that it did. However i am feeling a little low at the mo. Me and my DH are hitting the three year mark ttc. I guess I'm just feeling frustrated and despondent. I'm just wondering how much longer we have to wait to hold our little one.

 

[MellyH]

Three years. That is a very, very long time. You are so strong for keeping on fighting for what you want.