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[croydongirl]

Heart - I just checked in I can't believe your post! Praying hard for you right now. I know it's easy to say don't panic, but I am praying for peace over your body and mind and that this is NOT what you fear.

 

[heart tree]

Thanks Croy. I'm still on hold to speak to a nurse. I can't help but think this is bad news. The blood is dark red. The lower back cramp is also on the left side of my uterus. Not severe but definitely there. I can't imagine anything good.

 

[Mrskg]

praying for you xxx

 

[croydongirl]

I know there are many stories that have even heavy bleeds turning out to be nothing serious, but again, when it's your body it is so hard to believe it will be a happy ending. I hope you get a hold of someone very soon, and that they can fit you in today so you can know what's going on. Are the cramps bad? You could even go to the ER and see if they would scan you.

 

[heart tree]

They won't see me today. My husband is yelling at them on the phone right now.

 

[Mrskg]

oh no thats shocking! is there anywhere else you could go? ER like crodon says? surely if you just turn up they will have to see you esp with your history x

 

[filipenko32]

Heart, DONT PANIC! I was just reading my miscarriage book and the author was saying it never ceases to amaze her how much women can bleed and everything is fine on the scan. She herself bled in a meeting with 20 ob gyns and she was saying it was ironic as there was nothing they could do! Got a strong feeling your scan is going to put your mind at rest, you must be seen today though what are they playing at! x x x x x x x x x

 

[heart tree]

Yes, I could go to the ER, but often you wait hours and hours. My husband insisted to the nurse that a doctor call us to discuss. Part of the issue is that I can't pass this naturally. My doctor wants to test the tissue which means I need to have a D&C. If I end up passing the tissue tonight, we'll be at square one again. We need to test the tissue because I have a uterine abnormality. If the tissue comes back normal, we can make the assumption that my uterus has been causing my losses. Unfortunately the tissue from all my other losses was not tested. I need this tested. If it's my uterus causing the losses, we're probably moving on to surrogacy.

If the tissue is abnormal, we'll probably keep trying. The stupid nurse didn't seem to understand this concept. And my doctor isn't on call, so it's some other stupid doctor saying I have to come in tomorrow. My husband just yelled at the nurse and insisted that the doctor call us.

 

[Mrskg]

ah i see x well you def have to be seen today x i hope the doc calls you back soon x sending lots of positive thoughts your way x i am so sorry you are going through this x

 

[croydongirl]

If you went to the ER they could scan you to see whats going on, and they could collect anything that might be helpful too.
I know that the smaller hospital near us that has an ER is usually empty on the weekends. It isn't the emergency room most of the emergencies go to, so its quieter. I wonder if you could find a smaller hospital that has an ER, there might not be a long wait. I had a kidney infection suddenly flare up once and we went to that ER and there was no one in the waiting room and we were seen right away.
So sorry this is so stressful

 

[filipenko32]

That sounds like a good idea croyden

 

[heart tree]

Well, I didn't realize this, but the doctor is only calling back to schedule the u/s for tomorrow. My husband said they absolutely refused to schedule one for today.

Croy, I'm not sure if you have the Kaiser system where you live, but that's where I'm a member. I have to go to a Kaiser ER if I want my insurance to cover it. If I go to a smaller one, I'll have to pay out of pocket and who knows how expensive that will be.

I'm just not sure what to do. The bleeding stopped. The pain is still there. My symptoms have seemed to have disappeared. I know women bleed all the time, but combined with this pain in my left side, I just don't see a good outcome.

 

[filipenko32]

I think you're going to be fine i really do, remember you're measuring perfectly for dates with a good heartbeat and massively high and brilliant hcg numbers. All the signs say all is good, but I think you should be scanned today to get some peace of mind x x x x

 

[croydongirl]

I don't know about that system, but I understand how expensive ER visits can be out of pocket.
I am so sorry.
I hope you can rest up the rest of the day and get in EARLY tomorrow morning when you see only good things on your scan.

 

[heart tree]

I just can't believe this. I'm going to log off now but will keep you all posted with news. Thanks ladies. xoxo

 

[filipenko32]

Good luck heart will be thinking about you x x x

 

[petitpas]

Heart, I am so upset for you
I think you should get something to eat and head to your ER (the one your insurance covers). I've been in your situation before. Once in the US where I didn't have to wait long, had my scan and was in the OR for a D&C an hour later. Once in the UK where desperate for the test I asked them to check me but the doctor wouldn't. I passed the tissue on the toilet just before leaving the hospital so it was not usable.

I am hoping for you that this is not bad news. However, to prepare you if it is and you pass something at home, these are the directions I was given by my specialist to collect a sample for testing:
Do not let anything drop into the toilet. Use a bowl of some kind or cover your toilet seat with cling film.
Put any tissue that comes out into a clean bag such as a ziploc bag or sandwich bag or a sterilized jar. Put it in the fridge until morning and then get it to the lab as soon as possible.
Do not put the bag on ice!

I really hope you do not need my advice

 

[x_Rainbow_x]

Oh heart i really hope its not bad news...

I dnt feel its appropriate to update on my status now... i hope your ok heart and its nothing xxxx

 

[Jaxvipe]

Heart, I'm thinking of you

 

[Tititimes2]

heart- just logged on and saw your news. I am so sorry honey. I hope this bleeding stops. Are you heading to the ER? Every little bit of me is hoping and praying for you and the LO. Please let us know how you are hon. I am thinking of you. xxx