Party and people not turning up

[caz_hills]

I can't believe people wouldn't reply. I personally think that's so rude.

We have only ever had one pArty for our son and everyone RSVP'd. I always RSVP to all the invites as soon as I can.

I'm so sorry that happened. How sad x

 

[Kate&Lucas]

Yeah it's common at our school too. I don't mind so much if people don't RSVP and then don't come, I just assume that's a no. It's when they don't respond and then turn up on the day grr!
I threw a party for Lucas in May. I think I had about 6 RSVPs and about 15 kids turned up, though some of them were siblings. One woman brought her 5 year old, who was invited, and three siblings aged about 9-13, then left
Party planning is a nightmare! Never again

 

[JessdueJan]

Oh no, this thread makes me nervous I have just booked Lucas' party for January, the first I have let him have, I have a fear of him having a party and nobody turning up so I have always just done days out with fMily instead. But two years running he has asked for the same party so I gave in this year....I hope his friends turn up

 

[lovejoy]

I know it's naughty, but I over invite people as I've I had this problem in the past. The 1st party we had for our dd we hired a hall and invite loads of people. Everyone said they were coming,but it ending up being family and a few friends.I wouldn't have hire the hall for a 9 people. Frustrating and the kids get so sad when their friends don't show up.

This year my daughter started reception class in Sept so I don't really know the parents, but I think I invited 12 people but I only expect half to turn up and that's what happened. 2 didn't even rsvp, so I was over my limit on kids, it was soft play and food,but the venue was cool about it. The venue held 25 kids, I invited 35 I know dangerous but I don't invite them all at once. First I invite all the people who will most likely turn up and get them to rsvp, and the ones who can't make it or don't reply I invite someone else in their place (With school I asked the teacher to put the invite in the child's book bag). The week of the party do a text around(reminder etc) to get a good head count.
Also try and attend all the other kids parties.

So this year I pulled off a good party, but no more parties until she's 12 or something.

 

[vaniilla]

DS had a joint party with a child in his class and out of 30, 27 "officially" came but more showed up as we said siblings were welcome - 2 let us know straight away they couldn't, 1 parent didn't reply and just showed up anyway!

I don't think there is a good excuse for anyone to just not let you know (unless they're suddenly unable to), if you've gone to the trouble of inviting people the least they can do is say thanks but no thanks! I always respond to invites within a day or two.

 

[k4th]

This drives me insane! We had a party for dd last year and half the kids from nursery just didn't RSVP. So so rude!

I'm not always great at RSVP-ing immediately - sometimes I do it on the deadline day & then feel guilty that I didn't respond earlier. I don't understand how people can think it's ok to just ignore an invite??

We're doing a soft play party for dd in feb. She's just started at reception & I'm dreading this!!

Like lovejoy I'm going to over invite a bit. We're inviting 25 kids & I'm hoping about 15 attend.

Hope your little girl enjoyed her party laughoutloud

 

[Aphrodite]

My cousin's little boy invited his entire class to his leaving party as they were moving and only one child turned up 😞 I was heartbroken for him as he said he dreamed it would happen and it did 😢 so so sad

 

[alibaba24]

My cousin's little boy invited his entire class to his leaving party as they were moving and only one child turned up 😞 I was heartbroken for him as he said he dreamed it would happen and it did 😢 so so sad

That is so sad ! Poor child 😥

 

[Rhio92]

My cousin's little boy invited his entire class to his leaving party as they were moving and only one child turned up 😞 I was heartbroken for him as he said he dreamed it would happen and it did 😢 so so sad

so heartbreaking!

 

[k4th]

My cousin's little boy invited his entire class to his leaving party as they were moving and only one child turned up 😞 I was heartbroken for him as he said he dreamed it would happen and it did 😢 so so sad

Awwww - that's terrible. Poor little boy

 

[tommyg]

That is so sad. Its a while since DS has had any party invites but if I know I can't make it I will RSVP straight away. My issues is if its doubtful or I'm trying to juggle other things round and I end up forgetting and RSVPing at the last minute.

 

[mrswhite_123]

Yeah, That happens sometimes. If you want kids to enjoy your party you need to be a little bit more organized. My sister got fed up organizing parties so last time she requested me. I bought some medal and ribbons from Hoult Hellewell near my home in Toronto . I organized some games and treasure hunt. The winners got the medal of valor and ribbons. They were so excited and they really enjoyed it.

 

[LaughOutLoud]

Yeah, That happens sometimes. If you want kids to enjoy your party you need to be a little bit more organized. My sister got fed up organizing parties so last time she requested me. I bought some medal and ribbons from Hoult Hellewell near my home in Toronto . I organized some games and treasure hunt. The winners got the medal of valor and ribbons. They were so excited and they really enjoyed it.

It wasn't about organisation as everything was planned and the kids that did turn up had a great time. We hired mascots and DJs and party entertainers. I think you may have misread the original post.

 

[mammy2oaklen]

Aw I'm now really worried about my son's bday party that's in 2 weeks I've invited 20 from his class and 10 have said they are coming I said siblings welcome! I just hope people turn up he's new and has only been there a few weeks it would break my heart if no one turned up!

 

[R_x]

Omg just booked DS party and now I'm petrified no one will come.

 

[Natsku]

I hope the kids turn up at Maria's party! I saw one of the mums yesterday and asked if she found the invitation in her kid's basket at daycare and she sort of mumbled and walked away quickly - not a good sign I think

 

[kosh]

Same here! we're having DS party next saturday and so far only 6 replied. I'm constantly checking my phone to see if I get any new messages!
I do not understand why people do not reply?!

 

[bumpy_j]

Oh my god, the story about the LO who only had one school friend go to his leaving party nearly made me sob

See this is SO weird to me. I get really, really upset if I can't take Joel to a party, and normally I'll find someone else to take him if I'm not around. I love parties!! And I love seeing him at parties. It's weird to me that someone would get an invitation and go 'meh' and forget about it.

Joel's inviting his class to his party. It's going to be his only 'big' party for a few years, so we're pulling quite a lot out for it. I'm really nervous nobody's going to get back to us now...he's been talking about his birthday pretty much everyday for weeks. He'd be completely crushed

 

[CaptainMummy]

I hope there is a decent turnout for my daughters party next weekend! It is a joint party with her friend and they invited the 21 other kids in their class. So far, one has replied to say they cant make it, and we have heard back from 10 saying they will be coming. Saying that, most of the parties they have been to have had a pretty good turnout (about 15 from class) so hoping the girls aren't disappointed.

 

[Dragonfly]

It happened to one of my sons one year. No one turned up at all, no phone calls., no family. I had a big spread on and was heart broken. I started giving the cake out to neighbours as I had so much. I think its really rude. If you cant go and you are friends with parents, even family let them know. And dont say you are doing then not turn up. I remember being at parties as a child that was rather big, in restaurants. Every one was at them. I dont invite class as I dont know any of their parents and cant fit them all in, parents have to come with their kids they dont drop them off any more.