So frustrating when on top of a difficult situation there is also confusion with staff. I see your point having DH deal with it. I don’t know if I could be that patient, so that’s impressive I think on your part. Glad you are seeking counseling, it’s incredibly hard what you are going through. Hang in there
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Thank you. I know that no one else is going to see this as pressing as we do, but I'm really upset with the way the PA just shuffled him out of the door and tried to pass us on to the IVF center. The receptionist there said the only way they could help now would be if we wanted to use donor sperm, and that really pissed my husband off since he was only calling them because that's what he was told to do. He does want to do a consultation with them though, while I think it's premature, but I said I'd schedule it and he can handle getting back in with his urologist.
ETA: I got us a consultation with a RE at the IVF center for the first week in March. Hubby was surprised that they're booking so far out but I can't say that I am. I know a consultation is purely informational, but it feels so weird doing this... I never thought we might need help like this. I'm not opposed to it, it's just weird accepting that IVF may be our fate.
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LadyV thinking of you dear
Thank you. I don't know what to think. We went to the urologist this morning and he recommended doing a biopsy next to see if there are any sperm in there. A lot of what I've been reading is conflicting on whether or not it's best to do a biopsy or a Micro TESE and I'm just questioning everything. I feel so lost. The urologist made it sound like if the biopsy went a certain way that it would mean we pretty much have no chance. It was super upsetting.
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LadyV could always bring up to urologist pros and cons to both tests. I really hope he is producing sperm and you can have some good news.
Thank you. I'm assuming that he's not experienced with the Micro TESE since everything I'm reading is saying that it's better for the type of azoospermia that my husband appears to have. I actually emailed the surgeon who developed the method and he's pretty much confirmed that this urologist probably isn't the best fit for our needs. I just don't know if anyone in our area does do this so I need to search around more.
I feel gutted. With the way everything is going for us, it's a real possibility that we may not be able to have a child that is biologically both ours. I never in a million years could have anticipated being in this position. Everything feels so fragile... I wouldn't want the wrong procedure to mess up our chances.
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Hi, everyone! It's been a little while since I've posted in here but I also haven't had much to update until now. It sucks that everything about TTC revolves around waiting... when you add seeing specialists into the mix, things really get drawn out from appointment to appointment! I've been in a dark place for the last couple of weeks but after today's appointment, I'm feeling a bit more hopeful again.
We met with a new urologist that specializes in issues of male infertility after our previous urologist rubbed me the wrong way (cold, rushing out the door, and wanted to move forward in a way that didn't make sense). The new one is wonderful! Kind, knowledgeable, and thorough! He answered everything that I was going to ask before I had the chance to! And his success rates speak for themselves. My husband has an MRI scheduled for next week to rule out any obstructions and then we will plan for his varicocele surgery. We also have a consultation scheduled with the IVF center in a month and he had nothing but wonderful things to say about the RE that we're seeing. I am SO relieved. To get an idea of where my head has been, the last urologist wanted to do a biopsy and then depending on what it showed, he said there may be no point in doing the varicocele repair and that we wouldn't have a chance. That crushed me and really caused so much emotional distress. The new doctor is ruling out a physical obstruction rather than just assuming there isn't one and then moving forward with the repair due to the long-term health benefits in addition to seeing if it helps with sperm production. While we still have a long way to go, this feels like such a huge step in the right direction for us!
Also my SIL had her baby boy last week! He is precious. Wish they lived closer because we can't fly out to see them anytime soon.
Flueky - How are you doing? Your little one will be here in no time!
We met with a new urologist that specializes in issues of male infertility after our previous urologist rubbed me the wrong way (cold, rushing out the door, and wanted to move forward in a way that didn't make sense). The new one is wonderful! Kind, knowledgeable, and thorough! He answered everything that I was going to ask before I had the chance to! And his success rates speak for themselves. My husband has an MRI scheduled for next week to rule out any obstructions and then we will plan for his varicocele surgery. We also have a consultation scheduled with the IVF center in a month and he had nothing but wonderful things to say about the RE that we're seeing. I am SO relieved. To get an idea of where my head has been, the last urologist wanted to do a biopsy and then depending on what it showed, he said there may be no point in doing the varicocele repair and that we wouldn't have a chance. That crushed me and really caused so much emotional distress. The new doctor is ruling out a physical obstruction rather than just assuming there isn't one and then moving forward with the repair due to the long-term health benefits in addition to seeing if it helps with sperm production. While we still have a long way to go, this feels like such a huge step in the right direction for us!
Also my SIL had her baby boy last week! He is precious. Wish they lived closer because we can't fly out to see them anytime soon.
Flueky - How are you doing? Your little one will be here in no time!
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Lady, I have thought of you but didn't want you to feel pressure of if any updates. I remember telling some ppl I was ttc#1 and them asking if any news. It stressed me out. I'm thrilled that you have a caring urologist and is exploring possibilty of a blockage. I can't imagine what you are going through but I am glad that you seem to have the right people now to help you in your journey to a baby.
Hope you can meet your nephew before too long.
I'm doing fairly well. Starting my 9th month and you feel rough but I know it's all for a good reason. I just have a feeling though I'll have a February baby. I've got everything ready for her arrival.
Hope you can meet your nephew before too long.
I'm doing fairly well. Starting my 9th month and you feel rough but I know it's all for a good reason. I just have a feeling though I'll have a February baby. I've got everything ready for her arrival.
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i appreciate that, thank you
My SIL's baby did come two weeks early. She was hoping he'd be here on Valentine's Day lol She did have to have a c-section due to being too exhausted to push. I'm glad that you're prepared and ready for her! I hope this final stretch and your delivery go smoothly.
Good to hear from you LadyV. The new urologist sounds great. It’s so important to have someone caring. Hope the MRI can shed some light on what’s going on!
Flueky - good luck with your girl’s birth when the time comes! Looks like you almost reached your 37 week goal!
Flueky - good luck with your girl’s birth when the time comes! Looks like you almost reached your 37 week goal!
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Thank you! I'd be surprised if the MRI showed an obstruction, but I'm glad that we're ruling it out before moving ahead with surgery.
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That's so kind of you!
I was waiting until we got the results to post an update: My feelings are all over the place! The MRI didn’t show any obstruction, which was what we expected. Our urologist wants to do the varicocelectomy (not sure if I spelled that right) along with a biopsy in one procedure while I do an IVF cycle! Ah! 10% of the biopsy will be used to diagnose what's messing with his sperm production and the remaining 90% will go to the IVF center to harvest sperm. While his FSH is elevated, it’s low enough that the urologist thinks that there’s a good chance they can find sperm. But it is a toss up. Our next step is our consultation with the RE at the IVF center, which is in the first week of March. Our urologist has worked with him for 30 years and they have a great relationship, which makes me feel better about things, but I’m a ball of nerves! Ah!
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Congratulations, Flueky!!! I can only imagine how amazing it feels to finally have her in your arms
