*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[lilesMom]

hopeful the cards often have that effect on me too it releases something, it does make me cry but its a relief kind of cry
i booked my scan for sat which i should be 8w6d so hoping its reassurance for us
i have exact same symptoms, feeling nauseous loads but not throwing up thank god, really tired all the time and sore boobs. good and bad

smiler ur def headin in right direction, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Oh that's great news you're getting another scan so soon Lilesmom Fingers and toes crossed for you

Today I am feeling pretty low!! I don't know why. It might be the clomid I suppose, just can't shake off a miserable feeling! So much for thinking positively haha Have taken offence at being invited to a christening too - a tad unreasonable!! I hope I don't offend anyone here but why christen your child when you're not religious? Personally I don't understand why you would do it

 

[lilesMom]

its aprivate one hon, we wil be paying for it but worth it defo
sorry ur not feeling so good hon, prob is clomid , i presume it plays with ur hormones? anything that does that can throw u off big time xxx hope u feel better soon sweetie.
hope this is ur last month needing clomid and u get ur bfp xxxxxxxxxxxxx
christenings and baby things not good when ttc and pissed off, i know the feeling sweetie xx
um im prob one of those people smiler
i dont go to mass but i do pray every day and belive in god, i wil def be getting my child christened though
i will take um to mass when they can understand it too, i think it gives u a good start and they can make their own decisions then later
i do consider myself religious cos i pray and try to live properly but i dont really think organised religion is right in everything , hence the lack of belief in priests .
im no holy joe, i think lots of church goers r great big hypocrites.
i think living right is more important.
ive gone rambly , soz
u made me qs why i def want christening , ha ha xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Oh no sorry lilesmom I should have explained, they're not religious at all, the dad doesn't even believe in God. Their families aren't religious either and they never, ever go to church or pray or anything. And the people who are godparents are the same. DH reckons it's just for attention and presents and am inclined to agree. I think since you do believe and you pray and you have the intention to teach your child about your religion, even if you don't go regularly it's different as it actually means something to you. Sorry hun I should keep my opinions to myself!!! But yeah anything to do with babies on a bad day makes you extra emotional eh xxx

 

[lilesMom]

i wasnt cross i was pondery ha ha new word
oh i see what u mean now, i have a fear that priest will refuse us cos we dont go to mass r something my mom and dads place, the new priest is well weird he would if he felt like it
pretend ur goin and on hte day text and say u r throwing up xxxx
dont go if it will upset u and u know it doesnt mean much to um anyway , besides a day out xxxx
have all opinions u want u never upset me , u r a sweetie xxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Hehe I like your new word

Yeah I politely declined the invitation as we genuinely do have other things on. They didn't give a lot of notice. I think it's good that you at least have the intention to take your children to Mass and to educate them whereas I know my friends do not have this intention at all.

Anyway I will stop going on about it!

I just got 15 OPKs in the post today, will start using them next week. The instructions were pretty bare...any advice, anyone? Is it just once a day you do it? Does it matter what time, how long ago your last drink was etc?

 

[lilesMom]

most people do them once a day , some people do 2 around when they think they Ov to make sure they catch the surge. best time is around 2 o clock in day , i dont know why.
if ur doin second around 6 ish in eve then. dont drink too much and hold ur pee a bit before (not to the point of pain or kidney infection ) these are tips form my sil who swears by opks
smep says start um on cd8 i think but double check that for urself
best o luck hon xxxxxxxxxxxx fx for u xx

 

[lilesMom]

and u can often get a nearly pos, mine nearly always had a second line on um but it has to be darker than the control line to be a pos , xx

 

[Smiler82]

Ah right, so it's not like a pregnancy test where everyone says "a line is a line!" It must be darker than the control line to be positive. Ok. Thanks!

I think I will stick with 1 a day for this cycle and see how it goes, and use 2 next time if I need to. I only bought 15, and I think with my long cycles I will need to use them for 2 weeks. Unless I get some good news at my scan tomorrow and she says ovulation is looking close! Please please pleaaaaassseee....

Yeah I looked at the SMEP before and with my cycles the way they are, to start on CD8 would be way too early. I think probably starting from around CD15 would be okay for me.

 

[lilesMom]

yeah most people only use 1 a day anyway should be perfect
fx for good news on ur scan and then lots o BD xx

 

[Smiler82]

Doc thinks I am going to ovulate very soon!! I can't believe it!! In fact, until I get a temp rise I don't think I will truly believe it. I'm CD12 today, it is so not normal for me to be thinking about ovulation already!! Usually at this stage I'm saying to myself "only two or three weeks til you might ovulate!"

Eeep The follie was 17mm and apparently they grow 1-2mm per day and anything over 18mm is good for ovulation. FX!!! It might be a bit late now, but I'm going to have a bash at an OPK later. Couldn't get home in time to do an afternoon test but I read some people say they take theirs at about 6pm so I'll try.

Lilesmom what time is your scan tomorrow? How you feeling about it hun? I hope everything is looking great, let us know xxx

How is everyone else? xx

 

[lilesMom]

smiler thats fab news sweetie xxxxxx bd like a mad thing
woo hoo, catch ur perfect little eggy
so happy u got good news

scan is tomor at 1.30. i wont be home for a bit so i wont be on here till eve but i will let ye know as soon as i come home xxx thanks
hurray for ur good news again xxxxx

 

[Hopeful335]

Smiler that's great! I've opk'd for all 3 pg now it's the only way I could cos I ov late. There fine once you get the hang and by this one they just confirmed what I knew from my own body!

So glad ov is close, crossing my fingers for you now. Get bd'in!!!

Lilesmom I wish you the best of luck for today. Thinking of you and the best news ever! Mine is Wed-getting nervous again already. Symptoms got a bit better. Wish they were worse-I feel better then!! Trying to stay pisitive though-it will be good news!!! Take care x x

How's everyone else doing? x x

 

[lilesMom]

hi guys , im in a rush butjust to let ye know scan went very well, strong hb and she put me at a day behind my own dates, hosp pout me at 5 days behind last time so i was afraid maybe baby wasnt growing as fast as he should but its all good xxx
best o luck wed hopeful xxxx

 

[DiscoRia]

Hello Ladies,

I am glad to hear you're all doing well!

Hopeful, I can understand your nervousness, but I am sure after your last scan that this next one will only bring more good news to you

Lilles Mom, it's great to hear that your scan went well and that your earlier fears were squashed. Also goes to show that dating via scans isn't precise, so try not to worry too much hun xx

Smiler, awesome news about ovulating!! Did you take the opk in the end?

I have had una settimana di merda! Also known as the week from hell. It's been super stressful with a colleague out sick all week and training and meetings meaning I've been home late nearly even day this week. SO EXHAUSTED but I've spent nearly all of today in bed, so can't complain too much any more

I've still had mild cramping, it's been just over a week now. I've also had quite a bit of cm, sometimes creamy, sometimes more watery and there have been days when I've felt very aware of my downstairs region as if it were pumped full of blood. So of course, I've been getting excited as these are new symptoms for me.

If you add in the nausea I've been having, you'd think I'd be hopeful right? Well, I'm not. The nausea could be a tummy bug going around, but is more likley stress related to be honest.

The cm and crazy blood engorged gentials... no idea!

Then the cramping, because it's been on and off and also so light, I've had various theories, but yesterday I had sharp pulling and stabbing type pains and had some light brown spotting when I wiped this morning. My first, irrational thought was IMPLANTATION, but then I thought back to my cycle with the super long spotting, and of course, my first thought that mont was the same.... seeing as AF isn't due until Thursday, I'm not getting my hopes up, but preparing for either days of crappy spotting, or early arrival of AF.

I feel like the stress I experience at work is not helping our ttc journey, but I'm really not sure how to better manage the difficulties we experience that are largely produced by a gap in culture. Sigh.

Guess I've got to keep positive, that even if AF does arrive, it just means that we have had another month to tweak our ttc approach and next month will be jam packed with meditations, relaxing hypnotherapy and even more sex! haha!

I hope everyone enjoys a lovely weekend xx

 

[Smiler82]

lilesmom that's brilliant news so pleased everything is looking so good! You must be so relieved. What is your due date?

Hopeful good luck for your scan on Weds. How far along will you be by then? Are you having a private scan like Lilesmom did?

I've done 2 OPKs now. Yesterday I think I did it pretty badly; I'd only held my pee in for about an hour and I'd had a coffee, which always makes me desperate!! It was very diluted, I could see that. So I got a faint line yesterday, wonder if it would've been darker if I'd done it properly? Today's line was darker than yesterday's so hopefully it'll carry on getting darker. I really can't believe the doc thinks I'm to O so soon, totally alien to me!!

Sorry you've been having such a crappy week Discoria Hope you've caught up on some rest!! Life can get stressy at times and especially with work sometimes there's not a lot we can do about it My sister worked in Italy for a while and I remember her getting so fed up with the way things were done (or, more like, didn't get done). So you're what, about 9dpo or something today? So the right time frame for implantation bleeding but I guess it's best not to get your hopes up too much based on past experiences. Will you wait til Thursday to test, or earlier/later?

 

[DiscoRia]

Smiler, I'm not sure what I'll do about testing. Will probably end up testing on Monday... or at least before Thursday. I'm not a saint and with all those pg tests in my bathroom, I don't think I'll hold out for long. But that is assuming AF doesn't show between now and then.

Spotting has almost disappeared and was barely noticable this evening. Will just have to wait and see

As for the opks, I read somewhere on the vast expanse that is the internet that it is recommended to drink nothing or very little for 4 hours before testing and that around 2pm is a good time to test (something about the levelling out of hormones, so that you get an accurate result?!). Good Luck with testing and OV'ing

Am going to hit the hay Good Night Ladies xx

 

[lilesMom]

disco ria hope work gets better and fx ur symptoms are bfp sounds promising xxxx

smiler the other girls on my other thread who opk all d time say that it usually gets darker like that and then one day pos catch that eggy sweetie xxxx

im gonna have the nicest sleep tonight , i finally belive im having a baby xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Hopeful335]

Lilesmom that's ace I'm really pleased. I bet it does seem real now!

Smiler keep opk'in you'll know to be honest I've never had too much of a prob with what I drink etc but if I do one in the am that looks like its registering something (cos when ov not close they look totally neg) I might do another that day or if I do it in pm registering something I'll do one next am if that makes sense??

No it's not a private scan hospital just said they'd do another as I was still early and after when mmc happened it was later than that scan do it could happen again that I'd get to 12 weeks and not know. Not sure who far I am. Hosp dated me half a week less than I though I was but by my dates 8 weeks so by there's 7 1/2 hopefully, fingers crossed. I'm praying and doing my angel cards loads!! They make me feel better.

Discoria stress is a tricky one. I swear it doesn't help. My job can be si stressful. People don't believe working with children can be but it is! Keep your head up and heart sting (Ben Howard song -I love it). Take care and keep trying. Hold out if you can but we're all weak I tested early every time!!!

Withlovemom anything happen yet?? Thinking of you x x

 

[Smiler82]

Hopeful that's great the hospital want to scan you again ahead of 12 weeks. I have got everything crossed for you that this scan also goes well xx Keep going with the cards

Lilesmom I hope you slept well How far along are you now?

Discoria good luck if you decide to test in the morning! I often start to test from 12 dpo am def no saint either!

Thanks for all the help re OPKs guys I was bad again today as although I did wait 4 hours from my last drink, it was only 2 hours since I last went to the loo. I just can't hold it that long!! But the line looks like it is getting darker so that's good. Sorry if TMI here but my cervix doesn't quite seem to be in a fertile position yet so I can't imagine it's going to happen for a few days yet. But as long as it does happen!!