*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[lilesMom]

Lilesmom don't be silly of course you can talk about being pregnant! You're not moaning, you're just anxious because of everything you've been through before. I totally understand how you are feeling, I remember it well from my 2nd preg. Sorry that there have been too many reminders for you this week, that must be hard xxx I know it's not what you need to be thinking about right now. You and I need as much PMA as each other, it's just for slightly different reasons at the moment I hope to be joining the nervous nellies very soon!

AF is well and truly here, sat here with a hot water bottle I'm kind of glad though, I was worried the spotting could go on for a few days, and once I knew I wasn't pregnant I just wanted to get on with my next round of clomid. So I can start it up again tomorrow now, yay

thanks hon, i stayed busy and out of the house for the eve and was better, i had my 2 yr old nephew, u literally cannot be sad around him , he is just too funny , he is a sweetie
stupid af , sorry she got u chick. xxxxxxx
fx clomid works this time, u r goin on extra arent u? fx xxxxxxxxxxx
plenty tlc for urself for few days now xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

hopeful thanks hon xxxx

thanks discoria, im the same scaredy cat wise, i know i would break a leg r something.
fire and hot choc sounds just fine im envious of ur job, i know its hard work but can be fun too im waiting on redundancy in my work, they say they r coming but not when and then i will get my change

withlovemom hi and xxxxxxxxxx

to all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Hopeful335]

Smiler not sure how I missed af starting post before? Don't know what happen as I read previous posts-really sorry honey, rubbish! X x

 

[Smiler82]

Lilesmom....sending you massive hugs today, I am thinking of you sweetie. Tons of PMA to you xxxxx

No worries Hopeful! It can be tricky keeping up with all the posts eh TMI here ladies but AF is heavier and more painful than usual...the last few years my PMS symptoms disappeared, AF got lighter etc so now I am thinking the clomid has increased my progesterone levels, so despite the extra pain & discomfort I'm trying to see it as a positive thing!!

Yeah I increase to 100mg starting today, fx...

Discoria hahaha yeah the scantily clad ladies! Sooooo funny! It totally is Eurotrash Sorry to hear you've been having a tough week at work and feeling a bit emotional. I hope things are starting to settle. How long til ov for you? Spotting a long time before AF isn't too great, have you had it checked? I have read a lot of people on here and other boards saying taking vitamin b6 can help with this, if you've not tried it already.

withlovemom hope you're feeling ok today xxx

 

[DiscoRia]

Smiler, it used to be 2 days of spotting, one cycle it was for 4 days and it really worried me. Normally it's one day of spotting before red blood, it does worry me a little (because I'm a worry wart), but my last cycle I had less than a half a day of spotting. I've dabbled with various supplements, but I just feel like they end up counteracting each other in the end and when I stopped taking pre-natal vitamins I stopped spotting so much. Go figure?!

My cycles have changed a LOT in the past year too, which worries me a little, but I'm going to give it the recommended 12 months ttc before actually worrying for real. For now I am just drinking red clover infusion every morning, trying to eat healthfully, be as stress free as possible and stay positive

 

[Smiler82]

Discoria that actually doesn't sound too bad, try not to worry! I spot one day before AF too. Perhaps that cycle where it was 4 days was just some random hormonal thing that sorted itself out. As long as your luteal phase is long enough before you start spotting you should be fine. If you're usually regular, some supplements like agnus castus can end up delaying ovulation. That's weird about the prenatals though, you'd think they'd be ok. I just ordered some!! Doh!

What does red clover do? I think you're right to not let it all get to you just yet and hang on to the PMA

 

[lilesMom]

Lilesmom....sending you massive hugs today, I am thinking of you sweetie. Tons of PMA to you xxxxx

No worries Hopeful! It can be tricky keeping up with all the posts eh TMI here ladies but AF is heavier and more painful than usual...the last few years my PMS symptoms disappeared, AF got lighter etc so now I am thinking the clomid has increased my progesterone levels, so despite the extra pain & discomfort I'm trying to see it as a positive thing!!

Yeah I increase to 100mg starting today, fx...


withlovemom hope you're feeling ok today xxx

that is agood sign hon even if it is painfull xxx
my af s after d and e were more like i used to get when younger too ina way which i thought was a good sign too xxxx

hurray for extra clomid , this is def ur month hon xxxxxx fx so hard for u xxx

well guess what, i am a dumbass, i was worrying for nothing
my baby has a heartbeat, yey. i reckon im 7w2d and she said it looked more like 6.5 weeks, im still trying to figure out hows that but a few of my sis got told the same at their 12 week scan, they were told dates were out and by 20 week scan they changed the date back to original.
oh and i forgot i have tilted uterus they said last time, so could make it seem smaller, anywho.
most important thing is it has a good strong heartbeat xxxxxxxxxxx
to all

ill catch up now xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
im a bit flighty today from excitementanlack of sleep

 

[lilesMom]

i wouldnt worry too much about that disco ria, most people dont have full on flow straight away i once skipped 2 afs and the docs couldnt find any reason why weird, i was freaked but they just came back themselves at hte right time on the third month. and i was def not preg, i did 6 tests and doc did bloods

 

[Smiler82]

YAY Lilesmom this is great news I'm so pleased everything went well today I wouldn't worry too much about exact dates, esp with a titled uterus. Everything is so small right now it is hard to tell. I remember my sister's due date moved about 3 times, it's just too hard to be precise about it.

But just such great news Hopeful FX for yours tomorrow too xxxx

 

[Hopeful335]

So so so pleased for you Lilesmom! That's wonderful news. I was thinking about you all day at work!

Discoria don't worry about short/light Periods I had 1 1/2 -2 days some times doc said not a problem and once I'd figured out my long cycle and ov date diff to 'the norm' ie I ov around cd21 we got pregnant 3 times (though I've miscarried 2) but still got pregnant!

Smiler rubbish is all I can say. This time last yr I was despairing as I'd been trying months and not dropped on, at least you know you can get pregnant and you will again! I know it's just hard right now, all I can say is at the minute I am pregnant and although a step closer it's just as hard in different ways-I'm terrified and what if it goes wrong -for a third time! What then? Can't I keep a child? Itll be investigations, doctors etc I just can't face it and the time length it'll be months, maybe years before I can be pregnant again-I'm so scared!!

Cross your fingers for me tomorrow! I'm so nervous. DH worried about me and bubba as he wreckons I'm prob making it distressed by being so stressed myself but not sure how to stop. I over analyse every symptom or fading symptom I compare to last 2 times I'm so so scared-more than ever. I want this more than anything I've ever wanted! I just don't know how I'll cope if I have to go through anothe mc!

 

[Smiler82]

Hopeful deep breathes sweetie xxx I know I'll be overthinking etc next time too, totally understandable but we're all here for you hun I know there's not much we can say to stop you worryingm everything you say about more lisses test etc is something I worry about a lot too.

I think the onl thing we can do is try to work on our minds. I really think the idea of meditation etc is a good one. Is that something you might do?

Thinking of you hun got arms legs fingers &toes crossed xxx

Excuse typos fat fingers on phone! X

 

[lilesMom]

oh hopeful , im so glad ur app is tomro, i know the agony of waiting , i even had sneaky why am i putting myself through this thoughts even though i know i really really want my baby. xxxxxxxxxxx
i had slight crampy feeling yest and i think it might have been me worrying myself into it but then again most women have those feelings and dont think anything of it cos its a normal pregnancy thing too. thing is i dont know what is normal cos all i know is my last preg which didnt work.
it took a long time to sink in today that this one can work
i had a little cry and all in the car after just from relief, xxxxxxxx
u will too tomor chick, il be thinkin bout u till then and keeping my fx soooo hard.
but u have already made it further havent u than before and no problems so far this time? so no reason why u cant get same news as me xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

YAY Lilesmom this is great news I'm so pleased everything went well today I wouldn't worry too much about exact dates, esp with a titled uterus. Everything is so small right now it is hard to tell. I remember my sister's due date moved about 3 times, it's just too hard to be precise about it.

But just such great news Hopeful FX for yours tomorrow too xxxx

thanks honey xxx
yeah im gonna forget she ever said it, selective amnesia
she did say that its a hard time to date it cos its tiny
its 8.6 mm today

 

[Miss cat]

hopeful how r u chick?
miss cat and b2b r ye gone ? xxxxxxxxxx

I'm still here, just going to bed really early these days so never have chance to come on here. I've got my 12 week scan tomorrow and quite nervous. Don't know where the time has gone... Maybe I've been asleep! How are you all?
Hopeful, I see your pregnant again, well done x

 

[lilesMom]

hi sweetie, wow 12 weeks, thats great let us know how u get on, u should get a good pic tomor i know im sleeping like mad too hon, but im still not back i work so im gettin a break that way, xx best of luck tomor , it will go great xxx

 

[DiscoRia]

Sigh. I am so fed up right now I just wrote a huge long reply and lost it to the internet

Liles Mom, I am so happy that everything went well with your scan! You're not a dumbass for worrying, your fears are real and we have to remember, we are only human

Hopeful *hug* I know how difficult this is in practice and I can't even being to imagine what you are going through, but your worrying about what ifs will only stress you out further. I am not saying that you should ignore these feelings, or feel bad about having them, your fears are real, you should accept them, listen to your heart and do what you need to to move on. Dwelling on negative feelings is only going to hurt you further hun.

And worrying about your stress distressing the baby? You definitely can't think like that, it only serves to stress you out even more. If there something you can do to unwind a little, for your sanity's sake? A good book? Soothing music and candle light? A funny film? A foot or back massage? You definitely need some extra tcl *loads more hugs*

Smiler, Red Clover is packed full of vitamins and minerals and has lots of general health benefits, but it is also meant to help balance the hormonal system, calm the nervous system and um something else good for ttc. Aids circulation I think? I do know that I hated it the first couple of times drinking it, but now I really enjoy my little chilled tea ritual in the morning

And thanks for your supportive and reasurring words everyone, they really mean a lot (especially when an overactive obsessive worrying mind starts to work overtime!)

 

[lilesMom]

i hate when that hppens ria
if it happens again try goin back into the page and click into the empty reply box and press ctrl and z together, works sometimes, v handy xxxx

 

[DiscoRia]

Thanks for the tip Liles Mom!

Ladies, something is definitely happening down there today! Maybe OV?

I had some achey pains in my right side, where I would imagine my ovary lives, then had some general pains, like super light, dull achey pre-cramps. It could just be bowel related, of course, the two are so close together! But I've got loads more cm than usual. Not egg white, but really watery. My cervix feels pretty open too. Maybe tonight is THE night?!

WOOOOO!!! We're going to make us a baby!!! (hopefully )

How is everyone doing today?

Hopeful, how did it go today?

Sending lots of positive vibes to everyone xx

 

[DiscoRia]

ps, there should hopefully be lots of little sperm waiting there too. Hope my cervix let them in!

 

[lilesMom]

best of luck hon, when they say egg white dont they mean raw egg white, which is transparent and watery ? best of luck hon x