*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[lilesMom]

it is so hard to wait and syptoms spotting gives us something to do while waiting.
but it also wrecks our heads like u say smiler loads stuff overlaps so could be preg r something else causing it, fx for lots more bfps xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Hopeful335]

Fx for you ladies in tww. Symptom spotting is both good and bad. Gives you something to do but also can stress you out.

Try and keep busy keep your mind on other things-easier said than done I know! Lots of baby dust!!!!

How's everyone else? I'm okay having strong symptom days and weaker ones. Main thing is I'm so knackered still-never like this before. Is that normal or could that be to do with the ech? How are you Lilesmom how many weeks now? x x

 

[Smiler82]

ech? What's that? Sorry if I'm being dim! Being exhausted is totally normal With my two pregnancies I actually fell asleep at work haha Your body is doing so much and working so hard on developing your baby it just wipes you out.

Am trying not to get myself too excited this 2WW but I'm still hopeful. I have to remind myself though that at this stage last cycle I was cramping and thought it was a good sign, so I shouldn't read anything into it. Heartburn is starting to kick in too, but again I got that last cycle. But my temps have gotten higher much quicker so I hope that means something!!

 

[lilesMom]

im the same hopeful. im wrecked all the time. i just got up and tidied my house for labout half an hour and it gave me a headache i do have a bit of a sore throat thingy as well, but im always knackered anyway
i have sicky days and not so sicky days too hon, think that is totally normal but feels crappy and then u be worried if too good
no winning with me
im a bit emotional too but nothing major xxx
how far gone r u now again hopefull. around 7 weeks? sorry my keeping track of time is crappy xxx
oh and il be 10 weeks tomor

oh smiler that would be soooooo great . fx for u xxxxxxx
when u testing again hon?

 

[Hopeful335]

Sorry ech is extra chorionic haemorrhage -wasn't sure if it would do anything so i searched the Internet and found loads on sub chorionic haemorrhage but not extra and reading Internet descriptions and hospital leaflet one not sure they're the same. Think sub chorionic are more to worry about as (from what I read) they're attached to placenta or sac etc where is mine is just near it???

I'm around 8w 2/3/4 days. From conception 8w2d but last scan put me at 8w1d on Wednesday, but baby may have grown a bit ahead as was not behind last time!! I'm emotional, gassy, constipated, nauseaus, sicky, v tender boobs and exhausted but apart from exhaustion generally not all at once but I feel less nervous when I've got a symptom! 10 weeks yey v exciting!!!!!!! I'm just as bad Lilesmom I'd lost track of how far you were-then I noticed your ticker-daft of me!!! I'm usually on my phone at min so no tickers for me!!

Smiler temps being high have been biggest sign each preg. Non preg they get to 98 just preg they get to 98.5/6! Each time that's what made me question & test!!

I truly am crossing my fingers and sending you dust!!! In fact sending you all baby dust and hugs x x x x

 

[lilesMom]

im lookin forward to 2nd tri better be nicer to us
although havent got it too bad really xx
im gettin excited for smiler xxxx

 

[babybemine]

No missed AF but I couldn't take the waiting anymore and got a BFN. Not due for the AF yet so there is a little hope just yet but I am doubting.
I have been cleaning/organizing alot the last week. DH says I am nesting.

 

[Smiler82]

Hopeful I have no medical knowledge or understanding of the ech but I would've thought it would only make you tired if you were actually bleeding, and only then if you were losing loads of blood. I may be wrong, but I really think being exhausted is totally normal and is nothing to worry about. But I know if I were pregnant, ech or no ech I would be worrying about every tiny twinge so I'm a bit of a hypocrite!

Wow lilesmom, 10 weeks! That's fantastic! Time flies eh! Or at least it has done for me since it's not my pregnancy

I don't know when to test. We're going to see my parents just around the time that I could test, and I think if I am pregnant I will be quite emotional about it, so might be better to wait til we get home. If I'm not pregnant then I should get AF the day before we go to visit them, so by waiting I prob won't test til 18 or 19dpo, assuming AF stays away....

My temps were higher last cycle too, I just checked I think it's the clomid leading to better ovulation, thus higher progesterone levels. So I'm not sure it means anything!

Babybemine how many dpo are you, is your ticker accurate?

 

[lilesMom]

babybemine, hope u get bfp today , not the xxxx

smiler u have nerves of steel how can u wait that long, ha ha
but u r right prob better to test in comfort and privacy of ur home, i just wouldnt be able to wait but thats me being impatient
in one way the 10 weeks has gone fast, the first few didnt but last few have since i satrted to relax looking forward to tri 2.
i think il be goin back to work then too but i might see if they will let me come back part time for little bit to ease in, my job is very physical. im on my feet and lifting and pulling for 8.5 hrs and have an hours drive there and an hour back. part of me wants to go back to be more normal but im afraid in case me and bub arent up to it. xxxx

 

[lilesMom]

do u remember when i went to doc to confirm my pregnancy and i came out very upset, she basically told me that i shoudlnt be preg again and that my copper levels could have caused my mmc and implied they could do again. i cried all the way home. anywy she was wrong and talking out her ass as usual, im so tempted to go in tomor and complain, the more i think of it , the madder im getting. do ye think i sohould r should i just try and avoid her and got to the other docs that r there? but the other docs r only there on tues and fri and the one i trust the most is the fri doc i need to go soonish anyway to figure out what to do about work to go back r what?
anywya i mean do ye think i should confront her or am i wasting my time and money by thinking about her and dealing with her thanks
i have to go there tomor anyway t pick up work certs but i oculd drive both days , it isnt very very far from me , what do ye think ?

 

[Hopeful335]

Yeah I might be tempted to complain. No one should make you feel like that. They should be there to help and reassure! How would you feel about comlaining? If you'd bechappy to i'd maybe just let them know it's not acceptable what she said! Are you ready to go back to work also? How'd you feel about that? After mmc I went back way too soon!

I'm having a horrid day. Feeling so negative and scared today. Went on another thread and this lady's used her doppler and heard her baby at 8 1/2 weeks and I can't! Them I opened it up and they were on about mmc and when baby goes compared to what it measures and I got panicky! They said if you find out at say 10 weeks but it measures 6 basically it went at 8 cos it shrinks then I got worried cos with my first I found out at 11 1/2 but it measured 6w5d so effectively id have got to 8/9 weeks -now. I cannot go through that again!

I'm sorry to moan just having a scaredy day. Symptoms seem mild today and that always worried me. I'm sure it's okay, growing ok but if it's not I guess there's nothing I can do and will find out a week on Wed. I need PMA don't I but it's gone at min!! X

 

[lilesMom]

arrrrrrggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh
i had a really long post typed, my comp went bananas and deleted it, arrrggghhhhh
gist of it is:
im not gonna bother complaining again, it would only upset me and i dont think it would change how she treats people anyway
not sure yet whats the story about work, il have to talk to doc and work,
i wanna go back but ony if work make some allowance for me and doc says i can
but i donno if work will cooperate.

its hard not to worry hon, but i read that post too about baby goin back wards,
i think its bull, i know the person who posted it believed it but she only got it off the internet and i never read it anywhere else r heard it anywhere else.
and i read loads last time, i had spotting with lile at 7.5 weeks, 3 weeks later i had d and e at 10.5 weeks. when i was waking up form d and e, they had my notes open on my feet and were talking about me, i kept my eyes closed for a little while and heard them say pregnancy measured 7w4d, the exact day i had spotting so i dont think it can be true.
i know id it goes too long the baby and sac can start to be broken down by ur body and be distorted but i dont think it measures earlier and shrinks, it just begins to breakdown and look different.
sorry if this sounds clinical but i just dont want u believing u r still not past point u lost last time and hoping it helps u. xxxx

 

[lilesMom]

oh and hopefull i think its the same thread
she tried to use her doppler day before too but couldnt find hb
it still very early and obvs not easy do , cos they day dont use doppler till tri 2 at least for this very reason . she looked up a different way of doin it on youtube which she posted a link to on the thread and only after following this and a whole day later was she able to hear it.
did u see the thread warning people not to get doppler till after 1st tri cos it panicks loads o people, she was aslo more far gone than u r.
hospital will never lsiten for hb till much later cos its unrealible xxxxxxx
honey xxxxxxxxxxx

 

[DiscoRia]

Wow, I missed a lot of action this weekend!

Babybemine, tww symptoms are so tough right? How is it that during any other time in our lives we just haven't noticed SO many little things going on inside our body and especially in the region of the lower abdomen. It's as if ttc suddenly increases all activity in that area Have you tested again? I really hope you see your BFP this cycle!! Fingers crossed for you xx

Smiler, it sounds like you've REALLY got your bases covered, good luck with the tww, it's such a b*tch, but I think we learn a lot about ourselves during this sometimes desperate period! Plus I have lots of hope for you as I'm sure lots of other people do too, fingers crossed and when that just isn't enough we'll be here to analyse and reassure you along the way

LilesMom, that doctor sounds like an ass. I have often found that people with clinical training tend to lose their people skills along the way *hug* don't take it personally, she wasn't trying to hurt or upset you, she just said something she thought was correct to say at the time and had no tiny idea of how it might affect the lovely person she was saying it to. *hug* I would just try and avoid her as much as possible!

Ten weeks is so exciting! I can imagine how eager you are to get settled into the 2nd trimester. Before you know it baby will be here! Are you going to find out the sex or keep it a surprise? Have you thought of names? Ok, I know I am getting a little carried away, but it's such an exciting time! xx

Hopeful *big hugs* for you It's so normal to have those scary days, to feel so out of control and worried *hug* Although I don't know as much about the stroy as LilesMom, I agree with what she said and it sounds like rubbish to me too. As for not being able to hear the hb with the doppler, it is still really early hun and as LilesMom said, dopplers aren't recommended for this reason and more. I know you are scared and just want to know that everything is ok with your baby, it's ok to be worried and scared, it's totally normal, we're here for you and I hope you have people in real life to give you hugs and support too, because these are the times when you need to call on your loved ones to help you through the darker patches It will get better hun And as I said to LilesMom, before you know it, you'll be holding your little one in your arms and these difficult days will seem a lifetime away xx

 

[DiscoRia]

So... now for my mega marathon update. Are you ready ladies?Got a nice warm cuppa nearby?

SO, I started spotting cd27, super light brown tinged cm. It continued all the way through to cd31... sometimes got a little heavier, sometimes got lighter, almost disappeared in the am but never got red. Ever.

I figured it MUST be a late implantation or breakthrough bleeding or something? Nope. I still haven't had a period and it's cd34! I don't remember when I started testing, but I went through way too many cheapies (2 different brands), 2 frers, and a couple of genereic mid flow pg tests. After a couple of days of pg tests, I decided to throw opks into the mix as they also pick up hcg and I figured it might help me decipher what the heck is going on with my body.

So, the opk seemed to be getting ever so slightly darker, which could be an increase in LH or hcg, but I didn't think much of it and then didn't test yesterday.

This morning as I got up from bed to pee, I felt as if I'd alreayd peed myself! I wiped before peeing (so as not to contaminate my pee specimen, haha) and had loads of ewcm, more than I've seen in MONTHS. I dipped various sticks into said specimen and lo and behold I'M OVULATING!!!! My cervix was high, soft and very open too and I predict OV should be happening somewhere between 12 and 48 hours after test was taken this morning.

Needless to say I went upstairs and seduced my sleepy husband, which was no easy feat due to having guests sleeping on the floor below us in the mountain house that had no internal walls or doors except for the bathrooms. In the end I put a dvd on low volume and practically forced him to do the deed, haha.

I am confused, shocked and so excited to know that I'm OV'ing Maybe I didn't OV earlier in the cycle? I am really happy that I decided to opk too, otherwise I would have thought the ewcm was just a freak peak in oestrogen

Thanks to having guests, we hadn't bd'd in 3 days, so TMI he had plenty of sperm to go round. DH wanted to bd again tonight, but I think I'd rather wait for him to replenish his troops and go again tomorrow night. Fingers crossed we'll catch that egg!

I feel strangely exhiliarated and hopeful about this strange turn of events, as if this was just meant to be... I don't know how better to explain it than that So, I'm going to continue to monitor my signs of ov and can't believe I'll be starting another tww after just finishing one!

If only we ovulated more often, then there would be less waiting around like this and more waiting around like this ... maybe that's just in my world!

I hope you all enjoy a lovely deep Sunday Sleep and have a refreshing and hope filled Monday xx

 

[lilesMom]

hey disco ria how r u feeing hon?
thanks for ur lovely words xxxxxx
yeah i think avoiding her is a better option and at least i do qs what she says, i f i was someone who believed 100% in doc, i would still be blaming myself without checking out if its true good thing i know she is a dumbass , ha ha
have few poss names but might not use um , finding it hard to agree with OH
boy : liam, jake, sean
girl: katie , lainey, eva
i like all of the above, OH seems to agree on boys names but not girls names, um......
i def wanna know hte sex, i havent asked OH if he does but im gonna find out anyway
they do get it wrong though. it is exciting time, im just kinda gettin excited now startin to believe it, i cant wait till 12 week scan, well 12.5 week scan

hows work goin now? any better?

 

[lilesMom]

i just read ur post i would go for it again tonight hon, the first time i got preg , it was from just one day at right time BD twice in one day , morn and eve cos i was goin away for few days next day. woohoo sounds promising

 

[lilesMom]

maybe that was ur af, it was just a funky one , it was 5 days of light 'flow'
could be early Ov rather than late?
either way go for it

 

[lilesMom]

if it was af it would now be cd 8, pos opk is usually day r 2 before Ov so u could Ov around cd 9 or 10 maybe?

 

[babybemine]

Having the most excrutiating cramping this morning. I can not remember a time when it was this bad. Spotting as well.