*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[Hopeful335]

Wow ladies your ace. Thanks Lilesmom you make me feel so much better! Just having a real wobbly day today must be hormones. Just got so scared. Felt symptomless for most of day which upset me as had loads this preg. Then got worried it was like first mmc where they'd started to fade and... Oh you know th rest, doppler, posts by others. V silly! Thank you for making me feel better! Dh tried but not the same.

Cramps came back this evening -yey!!

Discoria weird cycle. I'm a late ovulater do know what the long wait is like! Bd at the right time, like Lilesmom said it only takes once! That's all we did it this time and pregnant. I had months doing it every other day or everyday for 5-6 days round ov and didn't work for me but well timed bd-bam!

Baby be mine-cramps, how far along cycle are you, is your ticker right? When's testing?

Hugs to you all!!!! x x

 

[lilesMom]

thanks hopeful glad i could help, i know htose wobbly days very well xxxxxxxxxx
great big xxxxxxxxxxx

babaybemine, seconding hopeful , where u at? is it testing time? xxxx

 

[babybemine]

So much for this month. Nasty has arrived. Least I am now on day 2. Anyone know a good OPK. Used one last month that I had to waste over half the box. Happy for the positive ovulation I got with it....but maybe there is another way that is not so wasteful.

 

[lilesMom]

oh no hon, sorry she got u xxxxxxxx fx for this month xxxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Hi everyone

sorry had the inlaws up this weekend so a bit out of the loop!

Hopeful - glad you're feeling better You are totally allowed to have wobbly days, completely understandable I remember when my sis was pregnant with her first, she also bought a doppler but her midwife told her not to use it til 2nd tri to avoid unnecessary worry. I forgot that. I think if I get pregnant I will follow that advice too. Main thing is you're feeling better, and I agree with Lilesmom all that stuff about a baby shrinking - have never, ever had that and can imagine cr*p like that pops up on the internet written by idiots.

Discoria - wow that was a bit of a weird cycle then hey? At least you haven't missed ovulation though, good thing you decided to crack out the OPKs! Do you temp as well? Temping made me feel better since I wasn't sure to believe my +OPK was because of true ovulation or if was just my body trying and failing. But yeah it does kind of seem like it was meant to be, you spotted it in the nick of time and got to work on your OH haha Good luck!!!

Lilesmom - a bit late to the conversation for this but I think if you haven't the energy to argue with the doc then don't do it. I would try and see another doctor if you don't like her too much, but if you have to stick with her then I don't see the harm in letting her know that you found information conflicting with what she said. It doesn't have to be an argument, it can simply be a statement that you make when you're in a calm state of mind, if you see what I mean. But the main thing is you know you have got accurate information now and you're not unnecessarily worried xx

babybemine - so sorry AF turned up Which OPKs were you using? I was thinking of switching to the ClearBlue digital ones https://www.clearblue.com/uk/clearblue-digital-ovulation-test.php
Just because they give you a smiley face, plain and simple. No worrying about is the line dark enough or not. Either you get a face or you don't! They are more expensive though, but if it gives you peace of mind then it's worth the investment.

As for me - 6dpo today. You know I really do appreciate all the support on here, I don't know what I would do without all you lovely ladies xxx It's so nice to know that people on here are behind you and hoping for the best. I am starting to lose confidence now, don't know why. 1-3dpo I had this strange sense of "this is our month" but that feeling is going away The excitement of having an early ovulation is wearing off and the usual 2WW nerves are settling in!!! But really does help knowing you lot are here to vent to xxx

 

[lilesMom]

dont lose hope smiler, there is no reason in the whole world why this cant be ur month honey xxxxxxxxxxx
fx for u xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
that always happens in TWW, all optimistic for a bit after bd cos u feel proactive,
then with time on ur hands , the doubts creep in
this could totally be ur month and im keeping my fx that it is hon xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Thanks lilesmom You're right, it's all the time we have and knowing there's nothing else you can do! Obvs I want this too but I really want to make DH a dad, he would make the best father ever.

Oh dear, getting a bit emotional haha xxx

 

[lilesMom]

thats a good sign hee hee xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

didnt ur cards say good surpise in nov

 

[Smiler82]

Yes, well remembered! I was told a timeframe of Sept - Nov for conception. So we're right at the very end of that limit... MIL was here this weekend but didn't ask her to do my cards in case she didn't see anything to do with pregnancy. So silly!

 

[DiscoRia]

I would love to have someone read the cards for me!

Smiler, the doubt is so normal, I swear every 2 to 3 days I alternate between believing I'm pregnant to just knowing that I'm not. You did everything in your power to make this cycle count and LilesMom is right, there is no reason why this isn't going to be your month

I do temp Smiler, but my temps were a bit crazy earlier in the month due to sickness. Am keeping a close eye on them now. The opk is showing negative this evening and my cervix is still high, but firmer and less open... I just need to see that temp spike to confirm OV. Fingers crossed for the bazillionth time this month

Babybemine, as smiler said, the clearblue digi ones seem like a good option. They are more expensive, but if we don't get a bfp this month, I am going to start using these. A lot of people have success with various types of opk, I guess it just depends on what works for you. I would rather go with the foolproof option now that we've hit the 6 month mark

We ended up dtd last night and I'm planning on going at it again for luck tonight. EEP! I really hope this was real ovulation! I don't check my cervix regularly, I am trying to remember to check it more often, but I have NEVER felt it as open as I did yesterday. I hope all those tiny little swimmers found their way in

On that strange but happy note I'm going to wish you all a lovely night xx

 

[Hopeful335]

Wow busy day ladies! I also use the clear blue digis -expensive but alOng with Internet cheapies I've only had to use 3/4. I use Internet cheapies to see line getting darker then Clearblue to confirm/unconfirm. To be honest it's worked well and the 3 times I've used I've got preg!!

Sorry your out babybemine-crap! Smiler we are all rooting for you!!!! You too Discoria!!! Fx and baby dust!!!!

Back tO work today. Children were delightful which was nice. I now have a bizarre pain in my tailbone/coccyx though but I've not done anything to it-very strange!! I was sick this morning, did not make bathroom so sick on cream carpet-nice!!

Baby dust x x

 

[lilesMom]

hopeful oh no hope u and ur carpet r ok xxxxxxxxx xx

smiler, nov is still here, its not wrong yet xxxxxxxxxxxxx

disco ria fx for u hon xxx

 

[Smiler82]

Oh dear Hopeful! Hope your carpet has recovered haha Hmm, mentioning cocyx pain is ringing a very faint bell for me....think I may have had this with one of my pregnancies. I think is it that the pregnancy hormones make all your tendons and ligaments relax, so everything can start to stretch? I think that is a good sign

Discoria you seen a temp rise yet? If your OPK has gone negative and you've DTD the last 3 nights then it sounds like you're pretty much covered Have you seen the SMEP? I tried to follow this this cycle - it says to BD every other day, then once you get a +OPK, do it 3 nights in a row, 1 night off, then 1 more night for good luck. We did the 3 nights but not the extra 1 since my temp had risen so I was confident I had O'd, and quite frankly couldn't be bothered anymore haha

Discoria I would offer to read the cards for you but I don't think I'm experienced enough!! Lilesmom is the card reading queen

Lilesmom how are you feeling? Have any decisions been made re work? If you have to do lots of heavy lifting etc, are you worried about it? Do work know you're pregnant, could they make allowances?

AFM- 7dpo and the days are crawling by. I really thought this would be a quick 2WW as I o'd so early. I think DH is getting more and more confident we did it this month, but then it just scares me as I really don't want him to be disappointed. He isn't usually like this, he is normally very relaxed and 'que sera sera' about it all! My boobs always get big around O and during the 2WW so that's nothing new, but he says they are bigger than normal, and this month he can see veins on them which he can't normally. He is my boob expert haha

xx

 

[lilesMom]

oh smiler that sounds promising , the verdict from ur boob expert
fx
im wrecked today so i cant type loads, im goin for a nap.
il write properly later xxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Ah bless you Lilemom, have a good sleep xx

 

[lilesMom]

i slept for 2 hrs, im still not shaking my coldy thing, i think it was that knocked me out.
had weird sleep last nt too, full of absurd yucky dreams
my doc just rang me , she wants me to go to a dietitian about my liver, i told her i know what i should do to lose weight i just wasnt doing it il go anyway , in case she has a magic secret for me or in case im so embarrassed it scares me straight
i had slowly been puting on weight agai and then after mc i put on loads fast, whoops.
silly lols , oh well, ive lost it 4 times i can do it again and keep it off this time for my little bub

 

[Smiler82]

Lilesmom I put on a lot of weight after my mc's too - partly from the general pregnancy weight gain but mainly because of the comfort eating The dietician may at least have some recommendations for food that are particularly good for pregnant ladies Are there any gyms near you? Mine runs a class called 'Fit to be Mum' and it's all exercises designed to be safe in pregnancy. Hopefully I will be joining it soon Would be a nice way to meet other mum-to-bes in the area too.

 

[lilesMom]

my doc warned me not to take anything up before 12 weeks cos of previous mc, so i stuck to walking i have my treadmil in the house so its good for me, i go on it with my book and i dont even notice the time goin on it
after 12 weeks im gonna hopefully go back to aquafit and preg yoga as well.
so i should be fine i havent been over eating for the last good while but i havent been super good either, i am eating good things but the choc is sneaking in too
i live in the country so gyms r pretty limited around me, but i work in the city so i could go to something on way home from work (when/if i go back ). but my work hours vary so its hard to find something that is pay as u go cos i could be working till 8.20 some nts and no preg class is on that late il figure something out when i am allowed to there is a lot i can do from my home anyway, i have a treadmill, xtrainer, gym ball and weights.
losing weight while preg isnt the best idea anyway , i just dont wanna gain much if i can and make healthy choices xxx and make my liver healthy
nutritionist might tell me some super foods for liver detox that is safe for me now, so its no harm to go anyway
i just had my meditation class , it was sooooo nice, it is really lovely
ifeel lovely nad mellow and happy after it

discoria i have more energy tonight so il pull some cards for u now. im gonna do it in seperate post in case m comp goes bananas again and diappears it

 

[lilesMom]

for disco ria
1) relationship: your primary relationship is with urself and with god, to heal any relationship u need to nuggle more closely to ur loving creator. as u feel safe and loved within so shall other realtionships heal and bloom. you r entering a more positive phase in your relationships. send light , love and angels to ur current relationship

2) perfect timing: now is the perfect moment for u to act on ur inspirations., the doors r open while u walk through with help and support on ur side. dont delay or procrastinate , all of the ingredients are right for ur success. everything is on ur side supporting ur pos outcome . take action now and this situation will work out well.

3) ground urself : although its pleasnt to float heavenward , your attention and work r needed on earth., we are helping u balance the spiritual and the material so that u can enjoy a fuflilling earthly life. your energy and attention need to be grounded. if u have been feeling spacey and confused this is why. be down to earth and authentic in ur realtionships.
hope this makes sense for u hon