*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[lilesMom]

thanks girls ye r right, its better they find it and fix so i dont have problems when i do concieve, im ok again, it just peed me off today for a while
im obviously meant to wait a bit, lets hope its a small thing and be fast to fix.

u cant keep a good girl down hee hee

smiler it could mean any number of things but i do have hypothyroid and allergies so could relate to them r could be flukey thing . id nearly prefer if they found something and fixed it cos then i be better off but not something serious obvs
ive lived 31 yrs without a baby , i can survive some more time im glad it happened now while im stronger and not when i was in the middle of bad sadness


lets hope it doesnt set me back too much time

 

[Smiler82]

Well it's good to know it's nothing serious But I totally understand why you would be peed off at the news you need to wait. How long til you get tests and treatment? Hope you don't have to wait around too long. You might find the wait does you some good - just speaking from my own experience since it's been 18 months since my last miscarriage, tho waiting this long is getting really frustrating, I think last year at least it gave me the space to sort my head out and I'm actually grateful for that time now, I feel stronger for it

 

[Bump2Baby]

Soooooo tired of waiting now so I get why a set back would knock you sideways.

Children grow up too quickly, the later in the year we have our babies the smaller they will be for longer

 

[lilesMom]

i got a date for consultant of sep 27th , if not for this new crap, we start ttc start of august, im so upset, its ages away . ive already waited 2 months .
otherwise i go private and it could cost loads .

 

[Smiler82]

Oh lilesmom I'm so sorry. It's rubbish it takes that long to get an appointment. Have you investigated private fees?

I know you must be feeling pretty down about it. let's try and get some PMA going here...what kind of stuff do you like doing? Write a list maybe and see what is feasible/affordable for the next couple of months. When we started our break, I joined a book club, a writing group and took up photography after my FIL donated his camera to me I went on a couple of overnight trips with a friend too, that was really good. If you can't TTC then think about YOU and just be selfish for a bit. When we do have our little ones, we won't have 5 minutes to ourselves xxx

 

[lilesMom]

thanks babe , im prob starting achild care course in sep, i hope anyway so i can have something to occupy myself.
i rang today to try and see how fast private would be, if it was faster i would take that option, but consultant is on hol for 3 weeks and her secretary is off for july, they have some jobs there is someone taking messages in their office but only on mon and wed eve so il ring again mon and see, fx

 

[Bump2Baby]

I hope you get it sorted hun and can start trying ASAP

I made the most of the end of limbo getting tipsy at an Ann summers party last night - now bring on aunt flo lol

 

[lilesMom]

u get some toys for BD at ur party ha ha

 

[Smiler82]

Haha hope the Ann Summers party was fun!! Always good to spice up the sex life so it's not all about TTC

lilesmom that's cool you're doing a course in September Is that to be a private childminder or to work in a nursery?

Did you ring the office again today? Hope you got some more info xx

 

[Eternity]

Hey, hope you're all well?

In need of PMA at the moment, not feeling too good about this cycle.
We only dtd 2 and 3 days BEFORE I Oed. I know there is a small chance of catching but very very small!!

And I was so hoping for an anniversary bfp!

 

[Smiler82]

I fell pg both times with about 3-4 days between DTD and ovulation so don't give up hope hun

Just looked at your chart though, you sure you def ovulated? There is a big drop at 2dpo and today your temp is to your coverline, and they're all discarded temps as well! Are you still DTD just in case?? Mybe you're still in with a chance xxx

 

[lilesMom]

hey, smiler im not sure yet i would like either , just depends where i could get work. i think there are redundancies coming up in my work at end of yr , im gonna take d leap cos i have wanted to for ages and want a job i really like
ive gotten serious about exercise and losing weight now too ( the right way , not the wrong way), i aim to be the healthiest i have ever been next time round for baby and me
im also reading loads again too , i couldnt concentrate on it till lately , kept gettin distracted by racing mind so im ocupying myself in a good way
how u doin now?

eternity it isnt a small chance at all, its a good chance. his swimmers can live for 5 days so u have every chance, best of luck sweetie , il keep my fingers crossed for u, xx
its hard to have pma all the time but when one of us slips hopefully the others r in a good zone to pull us back up take care honey and dont lose hope, u still have every chance xxx

 

[Eternity]

Thanks ladies. Yep I'm sure I Oed, had the sharp twinge in right ovary the day before temp rise.

I temp orally which is a real pain as the coldness in the morning is effecting my temps, think if I'm not successful this cycle I need to consider temping vaginally instead for clearer results.

Keep getting weird cramps and twinges, plus other symptoms - but they must be in my head as it's too soon lol.

 

[Smiler82]

Eternity - yeah there are downsides to temping orally eh, the months I've been driven crazy by not being sure, but then I do have stupidly long cycles. I keep thinking I should try vaginally but can't quite bring myself to! It kind of feels like the final nail in the coffin of sexiness to be doing that in front of DH every morning haha I think you're right to try not to read too much into symptoms at the moment but hopefully you'll see some really good temp rises this week and more symptoms

lilesmom sounds like you are ahead of the game which is good Sad news about the redundancies; I was made redundant a while ago which was not good at the time but has worked out for the best in the end I think. You should def do what you love if you have got the opportunity

What exercise are you doing?? I need some help there!! I've lost all motivation

What are you reading at the moment? I love reading I'm reading a Philippa Gregory at the moment, quite enjoy her historical fiction And I read a great book last week but it is very dark...prob not a good idea to recommend it on the PMA thread

 

[Eternity]

Lol smiler, I know what you mean although hubby wouldn't see me do it because I always get up first, but it's still not a pleasant thought. But the thing that really puts me off is the thought of doing it while the witch is here!!!

It's trying to decide the lesser of two evils, clearer temps but a bit icky, or just orally but then temps all over the shop!!

 

[Bump2Baby]

I temp vaginally but its still all over the place, having a temping break til next cycle lol

I got lots of toys already so ordered some more dress up from the party lol

How are you girls feeling today? xxx

 

[Smiler82]

Eww Eternity I don't think I would bother when AF is in full swing haha! But I see you ov quite early so see why you need to keep at it so that the software has enough data to draw the crosshairs. I usually break from temping CD1-12ish. The earliest I've ever ov'd is CD 25 so it's not like I'd miss it

Bump2Baby I bet your OH was pleased with your purchases! Sorry if this is getting a bit TMI but mine has got such a thing for stockings. Which is good for when I haven't shaved my legs haha

Having an ok day...talking to DH about how much sex we need to have this week! I'm on CD19 so from here on in it's wondering and waiting for ovulation and hoping we don't miss the chance... tho it's only10 days til I see the doc about clomid too so getting nervous/excited about that

 

[lilesMom]

its good news for me about redundancies, they r voluntary and ive been waiting for them , so fingers crosse my dep is allowed take them, they havent been announced for sure but it has been on radio that some will go.
when people were talkin bout temping i always assumed it was orally, never occured to me it could be different ha ha. i would have to be trying a long time i think to do it but i def would if i wasnt suceeding and i thought it help. but maybe give up for af
i have a treadmill, xtrainer , weights , gym ball and dance central for xbox. ive only just started gettin back into it, my weight changes by a lot, ive lost 4 stone 3 times , i now have 3 and a half to lose really. im gonna lose as much as i can while we cant ttc now when i get in the zone i can be very good for ages, think im there now but its very easy lose motivation

im reading ahem fifty shades of grey not exactly quality stuff but i had to see what all the fuss is about ha ha. every1 in ireland on about it at the mo

fx still crossed for u eternity

hurray for toys b2b

 

[Bump2Baby]

Im full of cold today and feeling like poo, af didn't show yesterday either so I'm still waiting!

I wrote down my dreams and wishes last night on the new moon

Anyone else done anything positive???

 

[Smiler82]

b2b is there a chance you could be pregnant? Sorry I have forgotten who is where and what stage, who is and isn't TTC etc. Sorry you are feeling rubbish That is cool about writing things down, I hope they all come true very soon xx

Things I have been doing is mainly not letting the negative thoughts in. It's easy to think that the clomid isn't going to work etc etc but as soon as I start down that track, I just stop myself and start thinking about WHEN it's going to happen, not if, and how happy we will be This is a big step for me, I'm such a negative nelly! And it's all down to this thread, thank you so much for starting it

lilesmom wow you lost a lot of weight eh! Good luck for all the training you're doing now. I know exactly what you mean - I am good for a while then something happens to interrupt the routine and then I don't go back to it for ages. I've told myself I just need to go to the gym once this week, that's all. Small steps back to a full-on routine...
That's good that you actually want to be made redundant so I hope you get in with the voluntary ones!! My SIL really wanted to take voluntary so she could change career and work with animals, but then they didn't make it optional and they wanted her to stay! So whilst it's good she's got a job it's a shame she's stuck there for the moment because the course fees are too expensive. Fingers crossed for you though - any idea when you might know what's what?