*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[lilesMom]

smiler i didnt go to the open nt on childcare but i have till next mon to enrol anyway, i was wrecked again tonight and couldnt face gettin ready to go. im gonna check it out more online first and prob enrol then online
i dont know why but something is telling me now isnt the right time and i dont know why. im a little afraid that if my thyroid goes down again (which can easliy happen ) then i wont be able for it properly , i dont wanna pay 300 e unless i know i can give it proper energy. im feeling bit better again tonight so maybe i will. i have a week to decide anyway
glad ur midwife didnt give out to u, not that she would have been right if she had, aspring does no harm when ur healthy and could do loads of good
when should be ur next scan now? we live wishing time to hurry up dont we
smiler could u get extension on ur work rather than hand it back to um ?
if u explain why maybe they befine about it xxxxxxx

oh mommylov could totally be implantation xxxxxx fx xxxxxxxxxx
comon bfp xxxxxxxxxxx
when i got my bfp , it was with fmu, but i tested again that eve and got faint line too xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx remember stil early, i so think and hope u are. xxxxx
i lit a candle again for everyone todya , i always light 3, one for my family, one for my b and b family (aka all of ye ) and one for the world

 

[mommylov]

Awww thanks Laura!!!! You are such a doll!

 

[KATYJAITCH]

Hello everyone! I really need some help! I'm still so worried and nervous, what doesn't help is that I'm crying all the time, think this could be hormones? I was expecting to be full of joy but the tears just don't stop! I'm worrying at every little thing. Just need some reassurance x

 

[Smiler82]

Oh Katy Even when you want to have a baby it can still be a bit of a shock to get a bfp and it is totally normal to take a while for it to properly sink in. Then add on all the crazy hormones and you're bound to feel emotional. There was a small period of time with this pregnancy I was starting to think perhaps I had antenatal depression because I was feeling pretty low and totally disinterested in just about everything. I couldn't stand for DH to touch me and I just didn't feel happy at all. Pregnancy, unfortunately, isn't all roses Hopefully the tears will pass once your system has gotten more used to your hormones. My low time thankfully only lasted about 5 days then I seemed to get over it.

Re worrying - I think everyone does! Basically impossible not to. I'm sure it prob doesn't help you chatting to neurotic people like me who are panicking all the time...also when you've not been pregnant before and don't know what to expect then it's natural to worry. You just have to take a deep breath, take one day at a time. You just have to try to remember that twinges, cramps etc are all totally normal. Your hormones are working to relax all your ligaments etc, so you will get twinges, and your womb will feel crampy because it is growing. Will you be able to get a scan soon to ease your mind?

Lilesmom - if you don't feel that it's the right time to do the course then maybe it's best not to. Your intuition is usually pretty good And thank you for lighting a candle for us all that is so lovely xx Are you having a scan on Jan 24th still? I just rang the private clinic and they booked me for the 24th at 10:30. Pleased to be having another scan but I suspect this time next week I'll be getting a bit jumpy!

Yeah I don't know what to do about work. I keep having to tell various people that I'm pregnant and I feel bad that these people are finding out before family. So if I told this client I'm pregnant and need an extension that's yet another person before my own brother and sister! I need to decide soon though, I know it's not fair on the client otherwise. Sigh!

xx

 

[KATYJAITCH]

Smiler, I see the Midwife in 5 weeks but I've booked into see a doctor in a week just to have a chat. It's alright the OH saying its all ok but I need to just speak to a doctor. Like you said, first pregnancy, don't know what to expect but you've helped a lot. I suppose until the 12 week scan I will just continually worry. But I will relax after that, as I know everything is ok. I'm trying to take it all lightly but it's so hard. The OH is saying I should be happy. But like you, I feel really depressed. But I suppose that's just my hormones. Thankyou for the reassurance. I'm so nervous! How are you getting on?

 

[Smiler82]

I think often us girls are a little more realistic than the blokes...despite our history my DH is really excited and keeps telling me to try and be more positive but I can't help but be cautious and not want to get my hopes up. It's good you've booked an appt with a doc for a chat hopefully that will help. Like I said in my last post I booked in for a private scan - maybe you guys could do that if you wanted? Mine is costing £80 which ok is a little bit pricey however the peace of mind is invaluable. I guess you could try fibbing to your doc and say you don't know your dates and weren't tracking AF then he may send you for a dating scan.

If you still feel depressed next week def mention it to your doc. I just saw the midwife yesterday and she gave me a leaflet about antenatal depression and was keen to let me know it is ok to come in for a chat because they can help you. I'm sure it is to do with the hormones for the most part, but keep talking too as that helps x

I'm getting on ok thanks, symptoms are easing up which on the one hand is nice but on the other it is worrying. But we had a scan after the symptoms started to go, so that makes me feel a bit better. I'm starting to get bad back pain which I had with both my other pregnancies but this time I'm going to see a chiropractor instead of just suffering with it x

Discoria I can see you're reading the thread How are you? What news? xx

 

[mommylov]

10dpo neg hpt this morning... feeling out

 

[Smiler82]

10dpo neg hpt this morning... feeling out

10 dpo is still early. I think Lilesmom didn't get a bfp til AF was a few days late??

 

[lilesMom]

Hello everyone! I really need some help! I'm still so worried and nervous, what doesn't help is that I'm crying all the time, think this could be hormones? I was expecting to be full of joy but the tears just don't stop! I'm worrying at every little thing. Just need some reassurance x

this is all totally normal and is hormones honey xxxxxxx hugs xxxxxxxxx
indmyself gettin teary at the silliest things.
early on when i was sick, i could eat only at nt, one nt i decided the only thing that would make me feel better would be a cream cake, but local shops were closed and i couldnt jusify 20 min drive each way for chance of cream cake so i started bawling, i knew i was being a child but i couldnt stop anyway thats just one eg , there have been lots more chick xxxxxxx
it does pass, its very rare i get a teary day these days, its just ur body gettin used to all d hormones , big hugs xxxxxxxx
and worry is also very normal partly hormones, partly nerves
hits us all hon xxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

amy ur soooo not out hon, i wasnt late smiler but it wasnt till 12 dpo and even that is really early, first time i was preg it was day af was due , but lots of people dont get bfp till week after af, amy so long as ugly hasnt shown up, ur in xxxxxxxxxx
being emotional could be a great sign sweetie, xxxxxx


smielr we wil be same day so hon, yup i stil have appointment on 24th , they better not try not scan me, il scream , ha ha, i want a potty shot xxxxxxxx
its nto far away for us now thank god.
hon tell ur client, ur family wont know they know
and its different , its not like ur telling lots of friends and leaving out ur family, its necessary to make ur life go more smoothly, which helps ur bub

My Sil had op today but they werent sure if it was cancer (the old inconclusive test result s) or not but thank god it all went well and she is out of the op
my poor kitty was ina cat fight a t the weekend and got really nasty scratches on his eyes, they were all swollen and weepy, i think he got cat flu too, i went to vet and got him antibs yest and after 2 days he is so much better, poor little guy,
evil neighbours cat!!! my kitty only has 3 legs cos he was knocked down when small and had to get one chopped off . i know its silly to people who dont love cats but i love him to bits , i hate seeing him sick, he is on the mend thank god.
the iron is making me sicky but its worth it for what it does for me and bub,
overall feelign much better with extra meds,
happy lols can come back again.
when thyroid is low so is my mood , its yucky xxxxxxxxx

hi and hugs to all xxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Oh gosh Lilesmom that's terrible you thought your sis may have cancer but am so relieved for you all that she is ok And sorry for your cat too! Have to say I'm not an animal person myself but DH and his whole family are and I know how much they have loved their pets in the past and been so worried when the pets have gotten ill.

Glad to hear your mood has improved that's good Shame about the side effects of the iron but it's def best for you and bubs.

Yeah I think you have a good point about it being different telling certain people about your pregnancy before you tell family. I think I may have to email tomorrow :/ DH just told me to 'man up'!!

 

[lilesMom]

hey smiler it was my sister in law, but she is in our family ages and is lovely
she actually kept it pretty quiet till recently, i only found out on sunday , she went into hosp on mon and op today so i didnt have too much worry time before i found out thank god im really glad it turned out well for them all
yeah i woudlnt see anything wrong in tellin um hon, if it helps in ur work. xxxxxxxx
ur Dh sounds like mine not lots o sympathy there , ha ha xxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Oh poor her it must've been so stressful, just so pleased everything is ok

Ha normally DH is quite sympathetic, but I think he's worrying about money a little bit. I told him how much I would earn for the whole project, and that was when he told me to 'man up' But I just spoke to him again and said I'm going to ask if they can find another freelancer to help out, so I should still earn at least half of what I thought I was going to earn, which I don't think is too bad. I just think it's better not to get myself stressed out with too much work

 

[lilesMom]

smiler good choice hon xxxx
best of both worlds, u stil get paid , with less stress xxxxxxxx
i was only messing about lack of synpathy, if its serious thing i get it off Oh , if its something he considers not major i get mocked but to lighten up the mood , not to annoy me if u know what i mean xxx

hope everyone is well xxxxxxxx

i feel heaps better, its great, i managed my hour walk yest and all, i had only been managin 20-30 mins which isnt enough but i genuinely was too dizzy and crappy.
i woke up myself with no alram , having finally had enough sleep. . and only 9 hrs , as opposed to 12 -16 and still be tired, hee hee
life is good again xxxxxxxx

 

[mommylov]

11 dpo, negative hpt. I went to the restroom this morning and wiped and saw a few spots of bright red blood. Wiped a few more times and didnt see anything and it was clear so I dont know what to make of it. Went to the bathroom just now and nothing. Its too early I think for AF but I think too late for IB. I dont know what to think...

 

[lilesMom]

amy could stil be implantation but if it is u prob get late bfp xxxx
implantation is 7-10 days after Ovv so could very easily still be xxxxx fx xxx

 

[mommylov]

Im hoping... just dont ever remember having it before and scared that it was a tinge of red not pink or brown. Been in the bathroom a few times since and havent seen anything so idk.

 

[lilesMom]

anything i got different this time i took as a good sign, i know waiting is soooo hard but its all we can do , wait and hope xxxxxxxxxxxxxx fx for u xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[babybemine]

Pos on opk yesterday. Bd in am then had to spend the whole day in hospital with mil who had. suspected carcinoid of appendix. They thought they might have to remove parts of the colon and the appendix. Thank God she just had a laproscopic appendectomy and everything else is looking good. Bd today in am and then had neg opk. Are we done "having" to bd or do we need to keep going? For how long...what is the window?

 

[lilesMom]

id keep going for 2 days or so to be sure
also some people keep doin the opks in case of a second surge, not common but can happen regularly enough, xxxxxxxx
fx for u baby be mine