*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[withlovemom]

Hi ladies..

So my last AF had started on 8th Jan..
Now i dont really use OPK..but i use this online calender which gives ur approximate date of ov as per ur length of cycle etc.. Based on that
I was supposed to OV by 17th Jan.. so we started BD on 16th onwards without protection..but on 17th hubby got stuck in work & was out of town for the same hence we could not BD that day ( my poor hubby..he said sorry so many times for this..i love him to bits )..so we BD tonite ( 18th Jan)..

but does that mean v hv lost this month's chance???

I just needed some experienced opinions..

I know this is a PMA forum..but i got lil down coz things did nt go as i had planned & it has already been a really long wait for me..

 

[Smiler82]

mommylov how are you doing? Any news on AF or BFP? Personally for me, I always spotted before AF however I've read so many ppl on here saying that they had a light period at the time AF was due, but still turned out they were pregnant

babybemine I agree with lilesmom, keep going just in case

withlovemom don't worry about not feeling the PMA, that's why we're here to keep each other smiling Are you paying any attention to things like EWCM and ov cramps to help you pinpoint the date of ov? Online calendars are ok if you are totally clockwork, but they're only going on stats from past cycles and any cycle anything can happen! Sometimes O can be early or late, you just don't know. So I would say if you're not 100% sure if you ovulated then you should keep on BDing in case it happens in the next couple of days. But even if you did OV on the 17th, having sex on the 16th still puts you in with a chance

 

[withlovemom]

Thanx smiler

Well i do keep track of CM & i did have EWCM on d 17th..
What is getting me more worried is today ( 18th Jan) my cm is again thick & sticky & cream in color ( Sorry TMI) basically it is not like EWCM.. so i hope my "environment" down there is still sperm friendly..

Keeping my fingers crossed..

 

[Smiler82]

Hmm well to be honest your cm doesn't sound like it's fertile anymore But, as I say, you did make love on the 16th - did you have sex any other times before then? Even if you didn't, you are still in with a chance as they do say it's better to have sex before ov rather than the day of ov. Do you normally get a lot of ewcm or not really? I never really got much, so started using PreSeed.

 

[lilesMom]

Hi ladies..

So my last AF had started on 8th Jan..
Now i dont really use OPK..but i use this online calender which gives ur approximate date of ov as per ur length of cycle etc.. Based on that
I was supposed to OV by 17th Jan.. so we started BD on 16th onwards without protection..but on 17th hubby got stuck in work & was out of town for the same hence we could not BD that day ( my poor hubby..he said sorry so many times for this..i love him to bits )..so we BD tonite ( 18th Jan)..

but does that mean v hv lost this month's chance???

I just needed some experienced opinions..

I know this is a PMA forum..but i got lil down coz things did nt go as i had planned & it has already been a really long wait for me..

no way have u missed it sweetie xxxxx u be fine, its more important Bd the 2 days before Ov than after, but u cant know for sure what day u Ov, its only predicting and u Bd a good few times around the time u should Ov so u will have lots of :sperm: in with a chance of catching ur egg xxxxxx hugs hon.
u will be fine , u have it covered xxx
did u ever look up SMEP, the sperm meets egg plan ?
i did my own version of smep without the opks too.
i started Bd this time day 12, (cos we were waiting for liver test results, would normally start day10, skip day 11) , we Bd 3 days in a row and then went to every second day for a bit. it worked thank god
but dont worry bout skipping a day cos sperm can live up to 5 days in good conditions xxxxxxxxx

 

[mommylov]

Smiler, af came this morning . Dr wants me to start clomid on monday (Ive never taken it before... never thought it would get to that point ) and wants me in for an ultrasound on the 29th. Im just numb at the moment. I love my husband to death but when I say Im numb.. I just feel like Im going through motions at this point i.e. work, store, home, clean, sleep, etc. BD is the last thing on my mind. Just so tired of the dissapointment.

 

[lilesMom]

hugs amy xxxxxx
please dont give up, i really think its gonna happen soon xxxxxxx
why clomid though when u have been able to get pregnant twice fast urself, i dont understand why doc thinks u have to take clomid hon, would u give it one more month with prog and folic ???? xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
love and hugs hon, i hate to see u down when ur so sunny normally xxxxxxx

 

[mommylov]

I'm not sure why, maybe they aren't telling me something or they think its a quick fix?

 

[lilesMom]

i donno hon, they have to tell u stuff about u dont they? i reckon the woudlnt be allowed hold back info on u , xx if they think it will help sure it cant do harm but i dont think u have problem Ov and i thought thats what clomid did, maybe i have a simplistic view of cloimd , it could do lots i dont know of xxxxxxxxxx hugs xxxxxxx

 

[withlovemom]

Hey Mommylove,

Hugs to hon....

I know how it feels..But like they say..the night is d darkest just before the dawn....
We just have to keep going ahead..& whenever u feel down emotionally, this bnb group will b there to make u feel better..

Take care & stay hopefull dear..

Lord almighty has got something beautiful planned for us..

We just have to trust him

Will keep u n all d wonderful ladies here in my prayers..

 

[mommylov]

Thank you so much. That's very sweet. I know thus too shall past but I guess this is all happening at the worst time. My edd fir my first lo was 2/13/13 I'm hoping the clomid works and everything goes smooth. From what I've been reading it helps with the size if eggs. Since I ovulate just find on my own I'm hoping it will help me get a sticky bean.

Hope you all have a good weekend

 

[lilesMom]

i just came on to say hey, im a bit ratty today so il keep quiet ha ha
no proper reason really , just lots of little ones .
hugs and to all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[DiscoRia]

Discoria I can see you're reading the thread How are you? What news? xx

Hello Ladies, Smiler is right, when I have some spare minutes, I come and check for updates on my phone, but I HATE writing replies from there, so have been silent

My update will come shortly... xx

 

[DiscoRia]

I'm pregnant!

Congratulations!!! xx

I am sure it's only normal to be nervous Katy

Just remember that we can only truly live in the moment and right now, right at this moment everything is just how it is supposed to be xx

Happy and Healthy 9 months to you xx

 

[DiscoRia]

It seems there have been lots of ups and downs since I last posted!

I hope you are doing ok LilesMom ((hugs)) to you xx

MommyLove, if you feel it's the right move for you, go with the Clomid, if you're not sure, speak to your doctor and ask questions maybe they can better explain the decision so you at least are better informed and can make a decision together? I understand your feeling tired of the disappointment (((hugs))) just remember that each cycle is bringing you closer to meeting your little one xx

WithLoveMom, I agree with what everyone has said, it's more important to bd before OV day so you haven't missed your chance this month. Keep your chin up and GOOD LUCK! xx

Smiler, I think you're making a good decision. If you are worried about the stress level of work, I would do whatever I can to keep that to a minimum. Sure, money is important (especially for men, what with the role of 'provider' plonked on them by society), but it is not everything, health is WAY more important, so what is right for you all in the bigger picture, whatever that happens to be xx

Babybemine, did you get any more bd in? How are you feeling about this month? Good Luck! xx

Sorry if I missed anyone, I am thinking of you all xx

 

[DiscoRia]

...As for me, AF is just settling in.

Both me and OH are pretty bummed out. He even said this morning that this was the first time he felt really down about it, that he feels like it's about time we had a baby already... that just made me feel even more love for him and finally like I'm not going through the monthly disappointment alone.

This cycle we bd'd loads at the right time and were both feeling pretty hopeful. I have had spre boobs for days now and I had really strange cramp type feelings on 7dpo like I've never felt before and was really hopeful for implantation.

However after having sex this morning I'm spotting reddish pink and have had af type cramps all day. Sure, I'm not out till I get real AF, but I'm under no illusion here, I'm not pregnant this month.... so onto another cycle!

I guess if there was a blastocyst and there was implantation that something just wasn't right and it wasn't meant to be. This thought is so much more comforting than the idea that we've never EVER conceived in this whole time. Never having seen a positive test, I am slowly losting hope that I ever will :\

On the flip side I went through my app last week, looking over all my temping and bd'ing data and realised that out of the past 9 cycles, there were 2 of them that were complete misses (no sex near OV day at all, one of which I seemed not to OV either) and 2 cycles that we bd'd 4 days before OV but no closer, so that makes me feel a little smidge better about the situation.

I think that after a total of 12 cycles of 'real' trying i.e. evidence of ovulation from temping and bding at the right times, I want to take a break. Not for long, just to stop temping, stop opking, stop stressing because as much as I try to relax, I want a baby so much, it makes it hard NOT to think about it constantly! Especially as I work with small, adorable children.

Anyhoo, I am already feeling more positive about next cycle. It is our 8 year anniversary on the 8th of Feb and I may be ovulation around this time. Also, if by some miracle we conceive this coming cycle, baby would be due around the same time as DH's birthday! Either way there is going to be plenty of BDing this month

I wish you lovely ladies a great weekend xx

 

[lilesMom]

hi disco ria, that was a good update
im grand , was just a bit cranky im fine again babe xxxxx thanks
sorry af came honey, xxxxxx hugs
if u had 6 cycles out of 9 that u reckon u didnt Bd near Ov then it isnt too bad u havent got bfp , i mean as in there most likely isnt some reason for it other than bad timing.
now u know and r totally tryin u should catch soon, fx for u sweetie xxxxxxxxx
hope all else is well with u xxxxxxxxx

hi to all.
i left myself logged in all day by accident, i havent been lurking i just didnt log out properly,

 

[Hopeful335]

Hey all,

Just a quick hi to let you know all good with me . Had my 20week scan -all great. We didn't find out the sex-having a surprise in June which will be nice.

Been trying to keep up over last few days but just on phone these days rarely on comp so not been replying-just lurking. You are all keeping PMA so well!

Discoria, withlovemom, mommylov, babybemine it WILL happen for you all! After 2 mc (one being a mmc) we only bd ONCE the month we got preg with this sticky bean-we'd done it loads some months but we said if it was mean to be... And it obviously was. We'd been so down I cannot say anything to really make you feel better ppl couldn't to me but just try to keep strong and keep PMA. When it's mean to be your baby -it will be!!

Smiler how are you?? How many weeks now? Thinking about you honey lots!!!!!! Crossing everything!!!!!! Katy how you doing? Any symptoms??

Lilesmom all good? 20(ish) week scan soon-it's lovely. My lo wriggled but was so well behaved-thought it would be longer than 12w scan as that's what we were told to expect but in all right positions do v quick!! Wonderful though! Cannot wait for June!!! Think I've just started to feel baby move in last few days

Baby dust and big big hugs to all x x x x

Ps

 

[withlovemom]

lilesmom,smiler,hopeful,discoria,mommylove,babybemine..

i just wanted to say that i draw a lot of strength from u all & all d ladies on this forum....

n i pray that all of us get our little miracle soon..

big hugs to all..

 

[lilesMom]

hopeful thats great , alls well
mine is on thurs , even though i be closer to 22 weeks,
its nearly here anyway, first appointment im excited more than nervous for
i porb be nervous nt before but i dont feel the dread this time
i can feel him/her movin away but only a few times a day, bub seems to sleep lots, may be good sign for when bub is born , ha ha xxxxxx glad alls well with u sweetie xxxxx

withlovemom , aw thanks hon xxxx
u too. ye all have been a great support to me as well xxxxxx
hugs and to u hon xxxxx
hows all with u? xxx

hi and hugs to all

im so much better today , had a bit of a cranky day yest, im blaming hormones
hee hee
i walked for 2 x 1 hr yest , im keeping up my fruit and veg , the iron and thyroid tablets have kicked in, so i feel way better again thank god, its great