*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[lilesMom]

ps i really cant get over in a few days il be third tri, im being weird ,
i actually feel happy in second tri and third is making me edgy a little
i better go do my hypno cd

 

[mommylov]

Hi girls! Hope everyone is doing well today

Laura, I cant believe 3rd tri is just around the corner! I cant wait for bubs to be here!

Smiler, hows your Friday going hun?

AFM~ Saw the workman's comp doc and he said that it was a deep muscle strain but nothing serious and should resolve itself in a few days which is great! Also had a follow up folli scan today. I am on CD 13 today and folli was at 18mm and lining at 9.5 which is good. No + opk yet so dr thinks I will over a day later this time (cd15). If I dont get a +opk by monday morning, they want me to come in and might give me a trigger but we'll see. Still keeping my fingers crossed that this will be the month!

 

[lilesMom]

all good results amy fx for u this cycle xxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Lilesmom you are 3rd tri tomorrow?! So exciting I can't believe you're there already. But totally understand the nerves. Sorry if this is too soon to be asking but have you given any thought to the birth? I'm really keen to give hypnobirthing a try, since the meditation helped me during TTC and recently have been using other meditation to help me sleep.

But anyway, yay for 3rd tri

mommylov I have got everything crossed for you SO tightly!!! At least you've got a couple more days to get in some DTD, and even if you end up on the trigger you should be able to time it perfectly.



I'm not normally online at the weekend but I am today as am supposed to be working, haha. Got so much to do at the mo, the next few weeks are going to be CRAZY. Can't wait for these projects to be over and can have a little rest. But am feeling fairly happy - it was really strange yesterday because all day I was just feeling and looking normal, like a bit round in the tum but more fat than bump. Then just before I went to bed I was stood there, absent-mindedly stroking my tummy and I looked down and was like "argh! Where did that come from?!" My belly literally seems to have just popped out in a matter of hours! So weird. And last night was my first night in about a month where I haven't had to get up to go to the loo

On the downside I do have a UTI and thrush at the same time, but hey ho! TMI hehe
xx

 

[lilesMom]

smiler ive thought hypnobirthing since day one
for lots of reasons
i dont want my bub to be sleepy and not be able to feed when born , i think both pethidone and epidural do this.
also i dont want my liver and body exposed to anything i dont have to be and bubs of course
plus and this is gonna sound mad and il prob regret it later, i wanna know im strong enough to do it myself and know what the experience actually feels like rather than be doped up and numb

i could be praying for doped up and numb in 3 months time but for now this is how i feel

also im afraid of epidural a bit needle is ridiculously long looking and it can go wrong and does lower percentage i know but risk is still there and i dont wanna take it

if for medical reaosns i have to i will but other than that i think no.
i wont rule anythign out though 100% cos im talking in the dark
if i have really long horrible labour il prob be begging for um
i think hypnobirthing and tryin to stay calm will help me a lot.
il have gas and air too no probs if i need it .

i could be back in 3.5 months goin girls, have the works ha ha
il be ur guinea pig for hypno smiler
are u doin the cds now? not too late to start at all but more u do um and earlier u start the better xx plus they help with sleep and other preggy symptoms

ha ha skitting at ur tummy popping out
loads on second tri asking when did ur bump pop, mine didnt
mine has looked roundy forever i donno why
but at one point alright , i just woke up one morn and bub was higher and no more loo pressure for few months was great mine is creeping back as bub gets bigger and when he moves positions but nothing to complain about yet
if ur like me , u r coming into the nicest patch pf preg now so i felt so much better and had more energy after this happened, its like bub is no longer interfering with stuff in ur body, he has room now to play around without affectin ur organs
and its lovely rubbing ur rounded bump
when my bub moved up, we hadnt Bd in a while , we did nt before and next morn he had moved up, i was thinking he needed that nudge to move up ha ha
bub was totally sideways till recently too, the other day i had my nephew on my lap, hard to do with bump he was off to side a bit but bub started to turn, it was like he was being nudged outta the way by my nephew
think im gonna have a nice lazy baby
sorry u have UTi smiler, they r a bummer but least u caught it and r gettin treated xxxxxx
my OH works weekends now and im findin um so boring, ive no dosh to go out and do things and i dont have him for company any more , boo.
i do have him home on mon, tues and wed instead but mon is my doc day, tues is a swim day, wed is visit parents day, one of many , I had a nice rhythm goin to occupy myself

hugs and to all.
hope everyone is well xxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

I'm obviously not working too hard today am I hahahaha

I have read so many amazing birth stories from ladies who've done hypnobirthing, I can't understand why it isn't encouraged more. Pretty much everyone says they didn't need any drugs, apart from maybe some gas and air and some ladies didn't even need that. They also all said how relaxed their baby was when born and slept brilliantly practically from the word go. I just want it to be as chilled an experience as possible and yeah, agree about wanting to experience it fully and know I can do it myself. If anything goes wrong then yeah I would go for whatever the doctors recommend, but even ladies who ended up having emergency c-sections etc all said they were still glad they did it because it helped them to keep calm and in control.

Apparently it feels similar to an epidural - I've seen a few episodes of One Born Every Minute and the ones who have epis say the contractions feel more like pressure rather than pain. Everyone who wrote about hypnobirthing say their contractions felt like pressure rather than pain. Think of how much money could be saved if hypnobirthing was promoted more!!

Hark at me, hypnobirthing advocate already and not even bought a CD haha. If I have to come on here in August and say I had every drug available I will be a bit embarrassed

Tee hee I love how BD made bubs move up! We haven't in a while and DH was hoping to this weekend (bless him, he is v frustrated!!!) but because of the UTI etc I don't want to. He doesn't mind, he's so understanding but I do feel bad. FX the really good days are around the corner! I am feeling better but still got a touch of nausea some days and not quite buzzing with energy yet but am getting there

Aww sorry you're bored Lilesmom My DH used to work Saturdays and I didn't like it much. Do you have any hobbies that don't cost much, like drawing, painting, writing?

xx

 

[lilesMom]

yeah i think hypnobirthing sounds great
there is one relaxy thing on the cd where u imagine u are wearing a glove of icy silver mist on ur hand , it numbs ur hand down so u cant feel it, then in ur mind u can transfer this numbness to any area u feel pain, i had sore ankles the second morn i did it and imagined myself touching my ankles with the glove , the pain went and never came back i know it was mild pain but if it can do that for me then i trust it to work for me when time comes
i know what u mean, i will be a bit sheepish if i come back saying i had epi and stuff too but sure feck it we will try our best and wait and see how we get on xxxx
i promise after to tell the truth but not be scary or dramatic about it all

i love readin and have my treadmil and kitty cat with me so no fear of me really, i just miss work a bit sometimes wish i had a job that i could do now, but least im allowed my doc to stay out and look after bub and me
i did get a keyboard to learn it and never have , was only thinkin yest now is perfect time for it

i just had the yummiest lunch if i do say so myself had roast chick and onions with brown rice carrots and really mild fruity curry , yum
im not normally curry person espeacially not fruity curry but it was yum!!!!!

i think u r right about no BD with uti , i wouldnt just in case,
i wish OH was interested in bd , i think now the bub is real in his head he doesnt wanna , doh!!! admittedly last time we BD wasnt great cos it is hard to find comfy pos that doesnt squash bub i couldnt relax and OH knew that so um......
il wait till his days off, when he is rested and try again
he works 11 hr days with 1 hr drive to work and 1 hr drive back so i cant blame him for not having energy to when working

 

[lilesMom]

oh and i read somewhere that hypnobirhting is discouraged cos with it ur meant to avoid sweeps and intervention as much as u can, which is fine by me.
but hosp like to be able to control when u go and if labour is slow , they like to speed it up with drip, hypno advocates allowing nature take its course.
it makes it easier ina way on hosp if u have no ideas about what u want urself cos they dont have to allow for u
im gonna try and stay home in bath as long as poss
im gonna get me some lovely smelly candles , dim the lgihts and wallow in my bath with my cd booming at me

 

[lilesMom]

oh and another ps, u can tell im not too busy either
(i know u r busy but nice to put it off sometimes )
ive woken up last 2 mornings with OH cuddling me with his hand on bub it

 

[lilesMom]

im looking up spa packages for end of march i still have 50e voucher left from my xmas pressie and i want something lovely to look forward to

 

[Smiler82]

Oh I didn't know if you did hypno you have to avoid sweeps (not that I know what a sweep is??) But yeah I think if you do it then you're able to stay at home a lot longer. The only thing that does worry me about it a little is that many of the stories I read, they would get to the hosp and the midwives not believe they were very far along at all, and want to send them home, when actually they were practically fully dilated and ready to go! One lady I read ended up giving birth in an office in the hosp as there just wasn't time to get her on a bed

Ooh yes def start to learn the keyboard! I haven't played for a long time, but used to play the piano and is nice to sit down and do it. Then you can play some little ditties for bubs when he's here

Yeah I said to DH he may not want to BD when I'm really big, I think some men find it a bit off-putting in the sense that it's such an obvious sign that there's a baby in there and suddenly there are 3 of you in the bed not just the 2 of you But that is so so lovely about you waking up with his hand on your belly, bless

 

[lilesMom]

im not entirely sure what a sweep involves, but the docs do it at the end to try and get things moving,it involves poking aorund down there
my sisters and nieces have had um and from what i can gather its like a rather rough smear test , kind of probably a crap description, i should just google it
its apparently quite uncomfy, if not sore .
docs believe it brings on labour, id prefer to try curries, warm bath, BD and raspberry leaf tea , ha ha , i dont mind OH poking around down there hee hee
hypno doesnt believe in rushin birth other than by natural methods if possible,
obvs if u go too far over and nothing doin, it changes things
yeah i have it in my head that il be so serene i may have it at home in the bath
or in the car on way there, so long as alls well i wouldnt mind having it at home in bath, cool story for bub
tad naive maybe ha ha
at the mo my keyboard is stuck behind a lot of stuff in bubs room (OH been making shleves and eveyrthiing is all over the place ), his stuff is too heavy for me to shift so on mon when he digs out his stuff outta my way, um gonna dust off my keyboard


to be honest bub turns me off BD a bit now too, he kicks in a weird way after , im not sure if its, i like that weird or a WTF weird

 

[Smiler82]

Hahaha I think I would find that a WTF weird

Yeah it kind of makes me lean a little more towards a home birth in a pool, but I don't know. I'm kind of scared to stay at home in case something goes wrong. But we're quite lucky that we live fairly close to the hospital...although thinking of moving. Just saw a gorgeous house and emailed to see if we can arrange a viewing. Is so lovely, I bet it'll be gone already!

Yeah, get tinkling on those ivories! Can you read music already?

 

[lilesMom]

i don think id even be allowed home birth cos of distance to hosp. it was never mentioned to me anywhere, it was always assumed hosp. i suppose i if really wanted to i could but id say id have to pay myself and would be a little nervous in case i need hosp help.
thats cool u saw fab house, fx for u its stil there
when wil u know? hope its there nad is nice as it looks, is it far to move?

i can read music but very badly in the same way a 5 yr old can read a book
very slowly and running fingers under it
i think il just find or translate to actual notes and try few songs that way, il be glad i if get that far hee hee
learning some nursery rhymes would be really nice

 

[Smiler82]

Ah yeah if we were far away I wouldn't even consider a home birth. Right now we are literally a 5 min drive, and even if we moved to this new house it would only be 10 mins max. Well I emailed the letting agents just now so I hope they'll give me a ring on Monday. Shouldn't get too excited about it because really we're meant to give this landlord 2 months' notice, and the new house is available in 1 month. Plus DH isn't sure because all the flooring downstairs is marble, so could be cold. But I reckon if we just got a massive rug for the lounge it'd be ok Hopefully can at least get a viewing, even if we decide we don't want it it's all helpful.

 

[lilesMom]

oh ur nice and close to hosp so, we r about an hours drive from ours.
if something god forbid was wrong an hour is a good bit , although there is an ambulance centre about 15 mins drive from my house

um marble floors would be cold unless they have under floor heating
but ur right a lovely huge rug would make it nice. marble floors for when bub is on the move may not be the best idea though . def be nice to go have a look anyway

 

[lilesMom]

haivng said that my bro has marble floors downstairs and 4 kids, nothing major yet on the bumps and falls front

 

[lilesMom]

im gonna log off and go on my treadmil chat soon xxx

 

[Smiler82]

Yeah I said there might be underfloor heating, that'd be nice Yeah I thought about baby falling over etc but most people I know have hard floors in dining rooms and kitchens, so there's a chance for accidents in most places. One friend always says to let the kid hurt themselves then they'll be more careful next time But a nice big rug would be a definite yes for the lounge!

Have a good walk! xx

 

[lilesMom]

at a certain age yeah on the let kid hurt themselves but up to about one they dont learn lessons really , they would keep on hurting themselves
my bro and Sil have a cool thing, its a long gate that u can have round in a circle (like playpen) or u can have it in a line, so u could section off a corner of a room by puttin it wall to wall. then u could have that part with carpet or rug anyway, u would figure all that out later
hope house is nice