*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[Smiler82]

Oh sorry to hear that babybemine let us know how the appt goes.

I'm struggling a little today!!! I'm not feeling it. I don't think I am pregnant this time. I know that is very bad PMA but feeling a little like it'll never happen. I can't picture it at all. Was thrown by yet another FB announcement just now so hopefully it's just me being silly and jealous and I'll get over myself pretty quickly

 

[lilesMom]

babybe mine sooo sorry hon xxxxxxxxxx
hope app goes well for u xxxxxxxx

smiler honey , stupid fb xxxxxxxxxxxxx
fx for u xxxxxxxxxx
i didnt put anything announcing mine on fb for this reason cos u never know who is goin through what we r and did go through xxxxxxx
it actually pisses me off, all the people who post about being preg every 2 secs too.
it kind of demeans the baby a bit in my eyes nad i have no idea why!!!
i know it is just someone being excited but i think it make it less speacial a little . silly way for me to think but anyway xxxxxxxxxxx
fx for u sweetie xxxxxxxxxxxxx
hopeful, disco ria hi girls xxxxxxxxxxx
hope alls well xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Hopeful335]

Smiler I'm so sorry your not feeling PMA ive been there honey and all I can say is keep going! You WILL GET THERE!!!!!! Babybemine, I am so sorry AF got you rubbish sending you lots of big hugs!

I didn't announce it on FB for same reasons Lilesmom said you need to be sensitive to others! Plus there's ppl there I don't want to announce it to! I'm 14 weeks today so in second tri now I think! Very constipated! Gonna see dr if it keeps up over weekend! Not much happening with me except dh being selfish now I'm feeling less tired (less not totally fine) he's reverted back to how our life/he was before going for drinks from work etc cross with him but not getting stressed by him -me thinks a big chat is in order this weekend!!!

Big hugs and baby dust to you all x x x x x

 

[Hopeful335]

Oh forgot to ask how's work and the stretching Lilesmom? x x

 

[lilesMom]

hi hopeful xxxx
have u tried dried apricots and little peeler oranges for the constipation, they work
or try a fruit smoothie with lots of berries xxxxxxxxxxx
everyone swears by prune juice but i could only make myself drink it if i was very bad xxx
silly dh , big chat sounds good xxx

work is fine hon, im tired after it but it feels more normal for me
3 days was def a good idea of my docs cos i wouldnt be able for 5
i stll have hte strecthing pains a bit but not bad, but m tummy changed shape over the 3 days i had the worse pains so maybe it was combo of that and wrk.
i had wed off and pains went away, then i was working thurs , by thurs eve they came back a bit but not as bad . but i asked a friend of mine at work who has a 2 yr old and she said she used to get the same so im pretty sure its fine

 

[Smiler82]

Thank you for your positive thoughts ladies! I really don't think this cycle is going to be our lucky one but I'm ok with that At least it means I can have a few drinkies over Christmas and not worry. I just hope cycle 4 or 5 of clomid works. I'm on it for 6, but the last time I went for a scan she said to come back if I wasn't pg by cycle 5

Yeah, stupid facebook! I agree Lilesmom there is something not very special about it. For hundreds of people you're not really true friends with anyway to know all the intimate details of your scans, your morning sickness or whatever is strange! Also when the babies are born so many people I know have got literally thousands of photos up there of their kids. I know they're only kids, but I kind of think they don't get a say in where their own image ends up and that's not really fair...I think if my mum posted photos online of me sat on my potty I'd be pretty angry about it now!

Aww Hopeful, sorry about the constipation! Yeah, try eating more fruit. Apricots are great, and figs. I made some healthy muffins the other day - packed with dried fruit and not being constipated was a side effect haha I always get like that after ovulation, because of the progesterone. But I was way worse when I was pregnant, I feel your pain!

Oh dear good luck talking to your DH! He probably just isn't thinking, they often don't

Lilesmom I hope the pains ease up Are you getting a little bump now then? Just take it easy. If it gets too much can you drop down to 2 days?

xx

 

[babybemine]

Appt went well.
DH and I had blood work done. I had an ultrasound done (nurse said looks good minus one small fibroid which they don't see as interfering with anything)
Scheduled my HSG for the 14th, and a repeat ultrasound for the 17th. Will be able to find out at the end of the month.

 

[lilesMom]

smiler its often when u give up that u get bfp, im hoping that happens this time for u xx
im more likely to have to increase my hours cos now they say i prob have to take hols for it instead of take at my own expense and i dont have the hols to take.... our hols go april to april so wont have new hols till then. if i could just stay a few months workin id be happier but if i cant , i cant xxxx
babybemine glad ur app went well honey xxxxx
i have small fibroids too but they didnt trouble me at all while preg, i dont even get the pain they usually cause me which is great xxxxxxxxx

 

[Hopeful335]

Had to tell ppl (sorry if not news but excited) used my Doppler again today (not tried to since Lilesmom said lo might not like it) but found hb (briefly it clearly doesn't like it as moves away from it!) nice and strong at 155bpm kinda reassuring as apart from constipation a a little tiredness no symptoms. Belly growing a bit though but they were like a security blanket for me-kind us the unknown - scary!! It's the first year I've ever wanted Christmas to be over!!! I'm desperate for it to be June!!! Normally I'm like the opposite of Scrooge I love it but not this yr just so looking forward to June x x c

How's everyone today -weekend yey!!!!! x x x

 

[lilesMom]

hoepful thats great honey xxxx
ive been limiting my usage too, but wil use it later today xxxxxxx

ive stupid kidney infection, my stretchin pains werent just stretchin pains, i knew i felt funny but thought it was just cos of work and stretchin. doh . on antibs now.
i also have a touch of vomiting bug, stupid hospital !!!
one of my friends came into work with the bug during the week , she knew she had , why didnt she just stay home!!! she gave me hug and kiss and welcomed me back which was nice but 3 hours later told me she had been puking for days and was goin home sick, i dont understand some people , she knows im preg and works in a hospital where v bug could kill someone who is already sick , rant over
i dont actually feel hideous , should feel worse considering but im just glad my pains werent from my bub

 

[Smiler82]

Oh Lilesmom that's terrible! That was so stupid of your friend. People just don't think sometimes. One of my friends had a little boy who was in special care for 2 weeks. When he came home, friends visited and one of them said she thought she had norovirus! Um, STAY AWAY!

So you are off work sick? I'm so sorry you are ill, so rubbish

Hopeful that's lovely you heard the hb again Don't worry about symptoms going away, you are in the 2nd tri now and your body is getting much more used to the hormones etc so it's totally normal. They say you are supposed to have a period of feeling really great during the 2nd tri, before the 3rd tri hits and you're just too big and tired to feel anything other than knackered But I totally understand what you mean. I think if I ever get preg again I will just want the whole 9 months over asap x

AFM no real news. 11dpo now which I'm quite surprised at, this 2ww has gone quicker than the last one. AF due Weds or Thurs. I have no symptoms or anything so looking doubtful. Am going to let myself have a glass of mulled wine today with Sunday dinner! I said I wouldn't drink at all this 2WW but one drink in an entire fortnight won't hurt xx

 

[lilesMom]

thanks smiler i feel better today again, felt pretty rubbish yest eve, i always get worse for a little bit when i go on antibs first .
i was off fri, sat sun anyway so il just go back tmor unless i get worse in meantime. doc said i should be fine but if not she wil cert me out .
not everyone gets sypmtoms at this stage hon, fx here for u still xxxxxxxxxx

 

[DiscoRia]

Babybemine, I'm sorry that af arrived, but it's good that you're underway with the doctor already. I hope you get the answers you're hoping for xx

Liles Mom, that is really inconsiderate! I am glad you are feeling better. I hope you are feeling on top of everything as soon as possible!

Hopeful, I second/third what the lovely ladies above have said. 2nd tri is known more for feeling great and happy and sexy etc. so try not to worry too much about lack of not so nice symptoms *hugs*

Smiler, your tww has flown by! No symptoms can also be a good thing, but you know your body better than anyone else. A glass of mulled wine isn't going to make a hurt

Yesterday was my birthday and got my first ever smiley face on the digi opk. I was really excited and tested again today (even though the instructions say you don't have to test after the first smiley face) and yep, another smiley face. So we'll be dtd later today even if it means forcing myself onto my not-so-unsuspecting husband. He has been informed of his duties, even if it means tearing himself away from reading game of thrones for a bit!

My positivity is likely due to a 3 day weekend and the happy hormones OV brings with it, but I am feeling hopeful for this cycle. We've been really on top of dtd every other day so I feel like we have a good chance this month.

I am trying not to get too excited, but af is due around the 22nd of dec, so I am secretly planning how I'd tell dh if we get a bfp for xmas. Every month I get excited and every month so far I have nothing to warrant my excitement... but I can't help it!

I hope you ladies are all doing well and that your weekends have been more productive than mine! xx

 

[lilesMom]

disco ria, happy bday and happy Ov day,
have fun Bd
fx for u this month xxxxxxxxxxx
would be best xmas pressie ever. xxx

i really donno if il be able for work tomor, i feel shocking again and all ive done is brush the floors adn made chicken broth. doh!!!
hope i wake up sooo much better tomoro cos i really dont wanna have to ring in sick.

 

[Smiler82]

Aw Happy Birthday for Saturday Discoria! And congrats on the +OPK! I don't know why they say to stop testing after one positive. So many ladies on here seem to get +OPKs for 2 or 3 days. I personally carry on testing because I like to see it go negative again so I know the surge is completed. But anyways, FX! A Christmas bfp would be so lovely Haha my DH is a massive Game of Thrones fan too, he read all of the books in about a month and I got him the first series on DVD for xmas

Lilesmom how are you feeling today? I really hope you are feeling better but if not please please stay off work til you are up to it!! Sending you lots of get well soon vibes xxx

AFM I'm pretty sure this is not our cycle. I just don't feel it. Also I just read my cards and I got the "time to go" card which is about 'cycles' coming to an end 12 dpo and my temp doesn't seem to be doing anything amazing either so I expect it will start to drop tomorrow

 

[lilesMom]

i went to work but after an h drive there and an hours work , i was fecked again adn had to come home, im out til fri and i go back to my doc on fri.
i think i may have to stay out. il see what doc says but im only back a week and i get gastro, kidney infrection and bleedy sinus thingy is back so maybe its tellin me something ........

smlier xxxxxx time to go could be end of cycle without kids too....... xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Oh Lilesmom I'm so sorry, I know how much you wanted to get back to work. But if you're not well it's not worth it. I didn't realise you had such a long drive to get there - I used to drive to work and was 1.5 hours each way. I was cream-crackered every night and I wasn't even pregnant!

The sinus thing sounds awful (and made me feel a bit sick lol). I hope your OH is looking after you well!

Aw yeah I guess you're right about the card Lilesmom. I was just feeling a bit low yesterday and I immediately interpreted it as not only am I not pregnant now, but I will never get pregnant EVER and it's time to move on to a new stage in life. Drama queen or what?!

13dpo today and getting a bit nervous. Sometimes I start to spot at 13dpo but sometimes it's 14dpo. I know that I'll be put out of my misery by Thursday but right now that seems an awfully long way away

 

[Hopeful335]

Ah Lilesmom I'm sorry your having such a rubbish time! But do stay off work if you're not right.

Smiler keep the PMA and like you said you'll know soon!

Discoria I'm reall glad you got a smiley I use to like them for that reason -mad me feel better!

I'm okay but of a squishing feeling but been to docs and he says it's nothing -he thinks it's just round ligament pains! Hope so, hope it's nothing else?

Baby dust to all x x x x x x

 

[Smiler82]

Hopeful I don't have any experience of pregnancy beyond 12 weeks so don't know about the squishing feeling! But everything is growing and moving so much. Your belly will pop out soon I bet Just keep an eye on it though and if you feel like something is wrong then don't take no for an answer

Am finding it hard to keep the PMA! Had some sharp cramps this afternoon so pretty sure it'll all be over tomorrow

Can I ask you ladies a question? Slightly off-topic but I always think about this because we're ttc! It's about the dreaded in-laws!! Do you like yours? Do you get on? Do you live close? I like mine well enough but I do find them rather suffocating at times. They used to come and stay with us for 1-2 weeks at a time which was hard going for me. I'm quite private and they're really not! I had to talk to DH about it and now when they stay they only come Fri-Mon which is still a little long for me, but an improvement! They just take over the house a little bit...they have the best intentions and they're not nasty people or anything, but as I say, I find them suffocating. I like people to feel comfortable in our house, but they take it one step too far at times, to the point I feel like they think it's their house and can do whatever they like here. They live about an hour and a half away and I just know that when we have a baby they're going to want to stay for 1-2 weeks at a time again! I can't handle it! We won't be able to stay with them anymore as their house is tiny, no room for a travel cot or anything. So they'll be coming to us all the time, I just know it.

It really stresses me out! I know I sound so silly but it's on my mind basically every 2WW and I don't think it's doing me any good!

Just had to get that off my chest! Thanks!!

 

[lilesMom]

smiler fx for u sweetie xxxxxxxxxxx tww nearly over, i know tww is really yucky, hoping u get great news soon xxxxxxxxx hugs xxxxxxxxxxx
hoepful i feel like my tummy is bruised r something too, was wondering about it but apparently its normal, combo of stretching and bub moving away inside xxxxxx
smiler i do like my in laws (common law inlaws ha ha) , but at safe distance ha ha
drop it into conversation to them at some stage when u do get preg that u love visitors but when u come home form hosp , its time for just u, dh and bub. try and say it as a general thing and hope htey take d hint, if not just have dh explain to um that u need space for few eeks to settle into routine.
my mom had 12 of us and she reckons first 6 weeks r d biggest adjustment and after that is ok xxxxx
when i was oreg last time with lile , my inlaws tried to make us get married, they r quite dissappointed we arent married and i feel it every time i talk to his mom. she dpesnt get me at all , i have always felt she just doesnt know how to deal with me., she likes things done by the book and all proper ,
whereas i think marriage is a bit of paper and after 11 yrs together i dont think being married is gonna make us stronger
so yeah i feel a little awkward with the inlaws sometimes.
they were both teachers too and love having proper hobbies, like gardening etc, whereas i love nothing more than a spa day, a book or a gossip which they dont seem to get.
we r just very different, they r really really nice but i have nothing in common with um adn i feel like they always find me lacking somehow