*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[DiscoRia]

I am good, thanks for asking ladies i'm currently 6 dpo and secretly convinced that this is the month!

I know it's silly to be so hopeful and it's actually out of character, i'm usually quite the realist... but something inside me is saying just be peaceful and wait and you'll see... maybe it's because, after 8 months we finally managed to bd 'on plan'?

I've actually got a sore throat just in time for the weekend, so a little miffed, but I feel it's not going to escalate, so ill be fine. i'm supposed to get my hair cut this afternoon, but not sure on style etc. I know I want to go shorter though!

I hope you ladies enjoy a fabulous weekend, it's covered in snow here

 

[lilesMom]

babybemine thats fab hsg was clear, i presume u know that ur chances of concieving go up for 3 months after xxxxxxxxxxxx yey xxxxxxxxxxxx

hopeful, sorry dh is being a big baby xxxxxxxxx
like u dont need company now while u r cooking his bub xxx
guys really dont get it, my oh thought it was funny to call me fatty yest , first time i did find it funny and laughed , mistake cos he did it again later so i thumped him with my pillow xxxx he said what i just mean ur bump xxxxxxxxxx but hasnt said it since xx
ive only put on 2 pounds ha ha xxxxxxxx

smiler i agree with hopeful i had loads of crampy feelings this time and hardly none last time so i had come to that conclusion too that it sbetter to feel crampy xxxxxx

disco ria, keepinf fx for u, bfp be lovely xmas presie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

My Sil had her bub, a lovely baby girl
im so glad that all i feel is happy for um, i thought it would upset me with Lile's edd tomro.
but thank god i just feel good for um was afraid i wouldnt be able to be properly happy for um but all i felt whem mom told me was joy, thank god xx
im also glad she wasnt born on liles day, i want lile to have her own day
the doc reckons my uti is gone and that my pain is bub pressing on something, not sure but have to believe him ha ha suspicious me
he also said he doesnt know about work and i have to make the choice, im gonna stay out but i feel guilty doin it and i dont know why, i know its better for me and bub but i feel bad regards to work and i feel lazy!!! which i know is weird since i do actually wanna work, silly lolsy

 

[Smiler82]

babybemine that is great news about your HSG coming back clear Yeah you are more fertile the 3 months after...when I had mine done the doc was like, get to it! But we had just decided to go on a break as we had a holiday booked and I didn't want to be preg on holiday

discoria it's good you're feeling calm this 2WW. I felt so nervous last 2WW but this one was much easier to get through (except the last couple of days!) so hopefully it is a good sign I just had my hair cut too! I had a bit of sideways fringe put in if you see what I mean. Worried about tomorrow when I have to wash and style my hair myself I never get it as good as the hairdresser haha

Thanks for the reassurance re cramps. It has actually helped. Everytime I feel it I think that's right, get comfy baby! They never last long. I can't remember if I felt cramping this early with my other two. Sorry for the TMI here but I def have more cm than I did with the other two so FX it's all a good sign the hormones are doing the right thing.

Lilesmom I'm really pleased you feel ok about your SIL giving birth It's great news mum and baby are fine. I know what you mean about dates though, I was terrified my friend was going to give birth either on the EDD of our 2nd or 1st anniversary of our 1st loss, because those dates are in the same week. So I'm glad that Lile gets her own day

I think you're doing the right thing by not going back to work yet. It is hard though if you want to be working and can't. It's not your fault. How long have you worked for your company?

Hopeful and babybemine - sorry you are both having problems with your DHs Sometimes they just don't get it do they. Have you had a chat? xx

 

[lilesMom]

ive been with um 8 yrs and they r fine about it , they know im not taking the piss i think, i did try goin back and came down sick almost straight away so cant risk it really , thanks chick xxxxxxxx
im glad things r good with u honey xxxxxx
i def had more cm too , still do, some days way too much!!! sorry tmi but true

 

[lilesMom]

also glad my bro and sil disnt use any of my names ha ha

 

[Smiler82]

Oh wow well if you've been there that long then they know you well enough to know you're someone who likes to be at work. I always think if you've given a company a few years of your life then you're entitled to special treatment when pregnant xxx

Haha glad they didn't use any of your names! I have plenty of girls names that I like but we can only think of one boy's name. Not that we're getting ahead of ourselves right now, but we've talked about it over the years both when preg and not preg xx

 

[lilesMom]

nothing worng with a head start, ive lots of penciled in plans in my head ha ha
went to see my new niece she is gorg

 

[DiscoRia]

Somehow I missed your good news babybemine. I had to look up what an hsg is, but now I am wiser and understand how awesome it is that everything came back clear!

I am happy that you are feeling more secure Smiler and also that you had such positive feelings toward your new niece's birth LilesMom.

I feel like everything is almost alright with the world

As for OHs being arses, there is always plenty of that to go round, we can't live with them, can't make a baby without them

Take Care lovely ladies xx

 

[lilesMom]

glad things r good with u dsco ria keeping my fx for u xxxxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Hey everyone, hope you've all been having a nice weekend No real news from me, I am having a lot of trouble sleeping at the moment, which I think can be a pregnancy thing? I'm not sure. Probably partly my brain just whirring!! Last night I was trying to plan how we would rearrange the spare room, what would we do with the futon, should we buy a sofa bed...argh! Getting SO far ahead of myself! I am finding it hard not to be excited...we always said we'd take it day by day and not let ourselves get our hopes up, but it's hard not to. However this time we haven't given the baby a nickname, which with the others we did that immediately.

Time seems to be going so slowly too! I just want to be further along already Got all my xmas not-drinking excuses at the ready

 

[lilesMom]

nice to see u excited hon nothing wrong with it, i was trying to remind myself to enjoy this cos when bub is born id feel so bad if all i did was worry while preg and i know i would kick myself for not enjoying it and u cant get it back then
and god forbid anything went wrong for us at least we would have had some happy time with bub and not all worry. xxxxxxxxxxxx
fx for all to go well for u hon, xxx no reason why it wont xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
happy planning xxxxxxxx
im the same, rearranging furniture and wondering about my cats reaction to bub , ha ha
bit of a way off yet but its nice wondering anyway

 

[lilesMom]

ps i like looking at ur flashin bfp on ur signature, third times the charm xxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Tee hee thanks I like looking at it too

Yeah I totally know what you mean, when you don't know how things are going to turn out it feels important to try and enjoy the time you do have being pregnant. I don't want to worry the whole time and you're so right, if it does all turn out happily in the end we'd be sad we didn't enjoy the pregnancies. I'm just really hoping I make it to the 2nd tri ok. Was considering talking to DH about getting an early scan privately - did you do that? I seem to remember you mentioning it x

 

[lilesMom]

yeah i did babe , i had 2 early scans one in the hosp at 7w2d but that was 2 days befor e i spotted with my last pre so i went for another privately at 8w4d both well worth and gave me peace of mind for a bit anyway, the further i got from the scan the more i worked mydelf up again , i didnt have proper peace of mind till after 12 week scan, but they most def helped xxxxxx
and now i have my doppler, (well my sil's doppler ) xxxxxxxxxx
i know it is so hard to be positive but do as much as u poss can, it makes it easier for ourselves xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

we r bound to worry its only natural, my sis said to me that she had no mc but she still worried all the time and now stil does about how she is doin as a parent and how her kids will turn out xxxxxxxx

 

[Smiler82]

Aw yeah I know everyone worries no matter their circumstances. My sis said much the same. I'm just not sure how I feel about waiting for the 12 week scan on the NHS. The first baby we lost at 10 weeks and the 2nd all my symptoms disappeared around that time, so I'm wondering if it would help me to have a scan around the 10 week mark. I'd still worry til the 12 week nuchal but it would still help I think. And I wonder if you go to a private scan place they would have more space for those that don't get good news. At our local hospital they put people who've had a loss in a teeny tiny room with 2 crappy chairs and no window, it was like being shut in a box

I will talk to DH about it, I looked up the closest place to us and it's £80 for a viability scan, the financial part of my brain says just wait the extra 2 weeks and get it for free haha

I'm doing pretty well at being positive at the moment, I think it's just when I reach the 10 and 12 week stage I'll get stressy xxx

How are you feeling hun? xx

 

[lilesMom]

book the scan hon, if im anything to go by that extra 2 weeks will kill u , xxxx book it for the day after u had ur first sign of trouble last time. that is when i found mine most reassuring, the one before that was good but i still had my dooms day date in my head, even though thank god things were fine xxx
maybe 10w1d or 2d xxxxx
yeah we were sent back out to the waiting room with the other people and then a person came up to us with a survey to fil out for miscarriage study!!!!! i was so numb i took it and filed it out, Oh was hopping mad, calling her a vulture but if it helps them understand mc more than i suppose its ok, but they could have sent it in the post later r something
my second early scan in hosp was in the same place and the same woman came up to me with same study survey but now its called womens health study, someone must have complained about it xxxxx
so yeah def go ahead and book it, its a small price to pay for peace of mind and they def have more time and space for u xxxxxxxxxx
i barely got to see my bubs hb at hosp scan, i got to see it loads at private one xxxx

 

[lilesMom]

oh and i thought same a su, i should just wait and get it free but i couldnt after

 

[Smiler82]

I think you're right Lilesmom, thank you for your input I was worried DH would not want to pay for a private scan but he was totally up for it. He basically said anything that makes me feel better we can do, bless him. I said it would be close to our wedding anniversary so it could be ruined if it was bad news but he said if it is bad news then he will just take me away somewhere. Love him. So yeah I think we will go around 10w 2d or something xx

Lilesmom I cannot believe they gave you the survey to fill in, I think your OH is right to describe them as vultures!! At the very least they could have waited to ask you in private and let you fill it in at home if you wanted to do it. I agree I'd prob want to do something useful and if the answers helped them learn more about mc then that's a good thing, but there really is a time and a place. So sorry you went through that

 

[lilesMom]

glad ur Dh is with u on it, it def is worth any money for peace of mind xxxxxxxxx
r they gonna monitor u extra or anything babe? i did get one extra scan off d hosp so maybe if u push u could get it from hosp rather than private?

i rang my doc today to get notes for work and they said they would give me one for this week and then review it. what r they playing at?
one day im told yeah its ur choice cos we cant tell the future and only i can decide blah blah. then they r saying we will review it!!!
there r 3 docs there and main one is on hols so maybe that is why.
i go see her on wed when she gets back anyway.
they r doin my nut now cos i hate not knowing
i had a lovely day today, i went to killarney with my mom and did some shoppin and went for dinner. i am perpetually starving last 3 days so im making up for 5 pounds i lost they r nearly back already
my boobs and bump r gettin really big now, eeekkkkk, im only 4 months. im gonna be huge !!!!