*** Positive Mental Attitude TTC - Anyone joining us? ***

[KATYJAITCH]

This caught my eye, definitely in need of positive thinking. TTC #1, on my second cycle. I really am nervous! Hope your positive thinking works out brilliantly for you all!

 

[DiscoRia]

Hi Katy, good luck with your journey xx

LilesMom, I'm so excited to hear you're getting big now, I wanna see your bump pic!

Smiler, I'm glad you and oh agree about the private scan, your oh sounds so sweet!

Hopeful and babybemine, how are things?

After all my hopefulness, I feel out now :\ 9dpo, my temp took a dive this morning, have had really mild cramping on and of for a few days, (but could be bowel related, I am constipated, thank you progesterone!), my nipples are so sore it's unreal, and I just don't feel it anymore... What ever it was making me feel so sure and so positive before has fizzled out. I'll just have to wait and see!

only 3.5 days left of work before the holidays and I'm flying home to London on Saturday I'm so excited, it's been 2 years since I spent xmas with my family, it's going to be awesome

Have a lovely week everyone xx

 

[Smiler82]

Discoria I don't want to get your hopes up but sometimes a dip on a chart around 7-10 dpo can indicate implantation. It doesn't always, but it can do. How many dpo will you test, or you just going to wait and see if AF is late? Aw that sounds great about your family Christmas, if we don't hear from you before I hope you have a lovely time!

Hello Katie The PMA def helps. FX for you

Lilesmom your docs sound pretty disorganized!! Hopefully it is just because the main doc is away and she will straighten everything out when she gets back. Aww I love that you have a bump already, I agree you should post a pic

AFM I am struggling a little with the PMA (again)!!! I have been a bit tearful the last couple of days, the 12 week mark seems like light years away, I don't know how I am going to survive it. Even going for a scan at 10 weeks seems far too long away. I had a text last night from a friend saying she is 20 weeks!! I was stunned - they are gutting out a house at the mo and she said kids weren't on the cards for a few years yet so it was a real surprise. And even though I am pg too I got really upset - I'm just jealous she is at a point where I want to be. I don't know how she could have hidden it for this long, she must have a bump by now. I don't live near this group of friends anymore so it makes me wonder am I the last to know. I know this sounds uber-paranoid but I really feel like since my miscarriages these friends have shyed away from me because they feel uncomfortable. I don't know. I know I am overthinking this far too much and it's not good for me. I hope it is partly the hormones but I cried a lot last night and can't seem to stop this morning! Stupid Smiler

Lilesmom I don't know if the NHS will offer an early scan. They did last time, but it was around the 6/7 week point and everything was ok then, but I miscarried at 12 weeks anyway. The GP did mention it, and I told her that so she was like "oh, you won't mind if you don't have one then" which at the time was fine but I'm not sure now. She is writing to the hospital for me because they have to when someone conceives on clomid so they might ask me to go in. If not then I think I will go back and ask for a 6-7 week scan anyway as I'm just really worrying myself

Wow how self-absorbed am I! Sorry ladies xxx

 

[DiscoRia]

Smiler I'd be inclined to agree with your hope, but I also had a dip at 7dpo, then a rise yesterday, then a smaller dip today. My chart looks like the himalayas!! I was thinking about testing tomorrow, but feel deep down it's to early. I was going to wait until we got to London, but that is the same as waiting for AF I dunno, might end up testing tomorrow anyway to get it out of my system!

You don't need to apologise smiler, we're all here to listen and support each other it is a hard job you have now, waiting and trying to remain positive. I have no idea what you are going through, but I'm sure other ladies on here can give you better advice. For now, I can only give you a huge hug, remind you that you are so lucky and so loved and so is your tiny baby growing inside you right now and that everything will work out alright for all your wobbly moments, we are always here xx

 

[Smiler82]

Discoria are you charting with Fertility Friend or something, are we allowed a sneaky peek at your chart? I think you are right not to get your hopes up too much and to manage expectations. You always seem like a pretty level-headed person But good luck if you decide to test tomorrow!

Thank you for your virtual hug I certainly need it Tears won't stop today! I feel a tad childish admitting this but we have a small cuddly gorilla in the house that belonged to my grandmother. She passed away a few years ago so I kept it as a little keepsake. Now DH insists that I cuddle the gorilla because my granny would want to help! This is making me cry even more because I still miss her. She had miscarriages too, it would have been nice to be able to talk to her about it. But I just have a gorilla accompanying me around the house instead. So silly xxx

 

[lilesMom]

katy welcome and thanks xxxxxxxxxxx

disco ria all that u describe could be preg too, dont lose hope xxxxx

smiler its so totally natural to be up and dip down , i was like that for yonks !!!
we have had losses , its only normal we worry rextra xxxxx hugs xxxxxx
smiler i had ascan at barely 5 weeks, it was a previously shceduled gynae scan that i decided to go for anyway , she could see bub was in right place but that was all.
i had my early hosp scan, then my early private scan and then my 12 week scan so u dont have to limit ur self to one extra if ur very stressed xxxxxxx
better to spend a little money and be less stressed xxxxxxxxx
smiler after my mmc , my Oh had to go away for 5.5 weeks to work in america, i started sleeping with my childhood teddy again so cuddle away xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx hugs sweetie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

disco ria, best o luck xxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[DiscoRia]

I'm sure your granny wouldn't think it's silly that you want to keep a little part of her closer during this difficult time I'm sure she wants to help you too xx after your experiences, it's only natural that you'll worry. I'm sure even people who've never lost a baby worry too. you don't have to feel bad or silly for worrying, you care so much about this tiny life inside you I hope you're feeling better today, but if not, that's ok too, your fears are real, don't push them aside, but don't dwell on them either *hugs*

I used to use ff to track, but it got on my nerves, so just use ovu view app on my phone now.this means no chart to share, sorry.

My temp is still low and my nipples are miraculously ok now, so I'm expecting AF to show soon. I feel really sad about it... For all ths obvious reasons, but also because this was the last cycle of 2012 and I really hoped we would be pg this year. Also because the 12 month trying mark is drawing near and also because I feel genuinely down. Tomorrow it will be 11 years since my dad died and it always kind if takes me by surprise, how I feel ok about it all then BAM, I feel like I'm falling apart and everything feels a little hopeless.

I know it's normal to feel like this, there are also lots of other things going on in my life that only add to the stress, I just need to give myself a break. It's a good job the xmas holidays are nearly upon us!

I hope you all have a wonderful Wednesday xx

 

[babybemine]

Life has been good for me. Had the HSG all clear. Went for repeat ultrasound and follicle was present and nurse said I was due to ovulate in a few days. Asked nurse if she had any answers about my labs and she said from what she could see all was looking good. Been EOD. Did not track with OPK but have clear stringy cm. Had one day with a couple brownish/red dried clumps like the glue that attachés the credit card to paper. So I think I am either ovulating or a few days into ovulating. My tracker has been pretty accurate.

At the moment been cramping a little and feeling a little achey. Have not been sleeping well either. But I know I am way early for symptoms.

 

[KATYJAITCH]

Thankyou. You're all so welcoming! I'm ovulating at some point this week so I'm keeping my fingers crossed and a lot of positivity. This could be the one! I'm so nervous. It's lovely to read everything on here, there's definitely a lot of support x

 

[Smiler82]

: Oh, Discoria I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. Anniversaries like this are always hard, no matter how many years have passed. I hope you manage to get through the day ok but it is ok to be sad and have some quiet time or whatever it is you need to do

It's crappy that the 12 month mark is approaching but it doesn't mean it's not going to happen naturally. Perhaps if you get a doctor's appointment booked for the new year it will make you feel better that you're taking some action. Are you guys taking any preconception vitamins or anything? I really think having DH on them had a hand in it for us this time.

Lilesmom it makes me feel a lot better that you also turn to your teddy for comfort! I feel a little childish with it but there is something about it that makes me feel better!

I decided to try taking low-dose aspirin for this pregnancy. Some docs say you can try it just to see if it helps. So even though my GP said she wouldn't recommend anything without having tests after 3 losses I just don't want to wait around for something to go wrong. If I were to get to the clinic and be told I should try taking aspirin then I would flip out.

babybemine that's great news, FX you catch that little eggy.

Katie same for you! Have plenty of !!

 

[lilesMom]

disco ria i agree with smiler , it can still totally happen for u naturally, i know u r prob sick of hearing it but it could just be bad luck too so far honey xxxx fx for u this month and if not. fresh start in 2013 and u will catch fast xxxxxxxxxxx
the break for the hols may give u d relaxy time u need to get preggers, it often does really stirke when we dont expect it , fx xxxxxxx
hugs for ur dad anniversary too xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

babybemine glad ur doin good sweetie, fx for u this cycle.
i told my Oh htis time after only a day r so i was sure i was preg, he told me stop being silly i couldnt know, but i really felt like i was and i was
but if u dont feel like u r dont lose hope cos it doesnt happen that way for loads o people. smiler u didnt think u were did u? but thank god u are

katy best o luck with Bd and u r totally welcome here, we all love the extra support and chat xxxxxxxxxx

smiler, when im sad i totally revert and it does me good for a while xxxxxxx hugs xxx
aspirin is a great idea, i prob told u before but my Sil who had 3 mc used it and swears by it , xxx could make all the difference. xx
she had one child , then had 3 mcs and then got new consultant who even thought my Sil didnt show up clotting prob lems on tests, put my SIl on aspirin, she now has 2 healthy smallies. xxx so i think its a great idea xx

 

[lilesMom]

i went to my doc today, she is sending off pee sample to make sure i dont have uti still cos i feel like i have. she also said she doesnt think its good for me to go back to work so il be staying out sick for rest of preg. thank god my own doc came back from hols and she coulld make the decision.

 

[KATYJAITCH]

Smiler, I've got it covered! Fingers crossed. Hope things are going well for you!

 

[Smiler82]

Aw lilesmom are you ok? I know you wanted to get back to work. It is for the best to stay off, but I know ut's not the news you wanted to hear. Sorry for the uti they are a pain xxx

Do you know when your sis stopped taking aspirin? Some ppl say stop at 12 wks and others 36!

No I did not think I was pg this time! Am so used to AF showing up I just couldn't imagine her NOT showing this time. So you never know discoria xx

Katy have you O'd now?

 

[KATYJAITCH]

Smiler, yes I have. So I've got everything crossed. I hate this waiting part! This is my second cycle, I struggled mentally last time after having no idea how hard waiting is!

 

[Smiler82]

Smiler, yes I have. So I've got everything crossed. I hate this waiting part! This is my second cycle, I struggled mentally last time after having no idea how hard waiting is!

Hurrah! Yeah it is hard when you first get into 'proper' ttc My advice is to just try and plan stuff and have a bit of fun to keep your mind off it, for the first week of the 2ww at least anyway. You don't know how long it's going to take so it's easy to waste 2 weeks of every cycle obsessing!! Not to worry you but we've been at it for 3 years and just think what I could've accomplished if I hadn't gone mad on here so much haha

Love your constant changing of feet photos

 

[KATYJAITCH]

Smiler, yes I have. So I've got everything crossed. I hate this waiting part! This is my second cycle, I struggled mentally last time after having no idea how hard waiting is!

Hurrah! Yeah it is hard when you first get into 'proper' ttc My advice is to just try and plan stuff and have a bit of fun to keep your mind off it, for the first week of the 2ww at least anyway. You don't know how long it's going to take so it's easy to waste 2 weeks of every cycle obsessing!! Not to worry you but we've been at it for 3 years and just think what I could've accomplished if I hadn't gone mad on here so much haha

Love your constant changing of feet photos

You don't know how much you've helped me! I felt like I was going crazy, and talking myself into symptoms. But I think I didn't know what was going on. Ahh 3 years? But at least you've not let it get the better of you and you've kept trying. My hat goes off to you! I know it's early in my TTC journey but I'm so excited. This is such good support! How are things with you anyway!?

Thankyou, I have no idea why I take pictures of my feet!

 

[lilesMom]

smiler i donno how long she took it for but when i see her il ask her xxxxxxx

hope alls well with everyone xxxxxx

im fine about not goin back to work now,. decision is made and if its best for bub which it is, then its fine. ive readjusted d goal posts xxx

 

[Smiler82]

Thanks lilesmom it would be interesting to hear what she did. I'm pleased you are ok about not going back to work I guess at least you now know for certain and it's over and done with. Hanging around not quite knowing is such a pain in the backside. How are you going to fill your time?!

Katy I think we've all talked ourselves into symptoms at one point or another It is hard not to, especially because PMS and pg symptoms are so similar. All I can say is I didn't really have any symptoms at all this cycle and even now at 5 weeks not much is going on! It's good to be excited and to stay positive but we all know it can take its toll sometimes. I think I appreciate more now how hard it can be for people who haven't been trying for as long as me, but have regular cycles. I have PCOS so was used to waiting 30+ days for ovulation so the 2WW didn't always seem so bad in comparison. But once I was on clomid and started having regular cycles, it all seemed so quick! The disappointment of getting AF is barely gone before you have to start DTD every other day again! It was tiring!!

How is everyone else? I'm off this weekend to start all the Christmas visits so not sure how much I'll get to come on. Hope you all have a lovely Christmas xxx

 

[lilesMom]

smiler today is my first day all week ive stayed home and im glad ot be at home, id say me time will fil up alright
im gonna look for a nt course for a day a week anyway, not sure what yet must see whats available around me.
im gonna start preg yoga or pilates too and prob start going to the pool, im gonna make myself the healthiest i can be in next few months
im lucky i have lots of my family living really close and not all of them work either so i wont be short of company when i want it.
im gopnna meditate every day too, im gonna be zen and healthy
i went for Iet again yest and it was the best yet!! it was amazing . i loved it
glad u dont have morning sickness yet r anything hon, u may be one of the lucky third of women who dont get it at all, xxxxxxxxxxxx