Pregnant AGAIN!!! How do I tell my parents... Please no judging...

[ColorMeFamous]

Okay so I am a 19 year old paramedic student. I live with my parents but I pay rent and contribute to whatever they need like gas or the phone bill or whatever. I support myself and my daughter. I have known I am pregnant for a little over 2 weeks now and I really want to tell my parents but I don't know how. The father is a different father from my daughter. I told him but he didn't believe me so basically told me to fuck off and blocked me from everything. He said I was lying because we used double protection. He has since unblocked me from everything but hasn't asked about anything. I think he will come around but I think we are both in extreme shock. I may give this baby up for adoption, but I would like the support of my parents. It took them a year to even tell my daughter that they loved her so I'm not sure how they will take this. How can I tell my parents? When should I? I was thinking the 12 week bump in case I miscarry again or for sure after Christmas so I don't ruin that for them...

 

[lil lovey]

No judging will be happening around here. This is quite a tough situation. I think its best to tell them soon as possible. I know it won't be easy but have someone(my a cousin,a friend or even the baby daddy) to be there with you when you tell parents. If you really can't do it, likE you said wait for christmas to go by first and tell them. congrads on you pregnancy and good luck

 

[aalz]

Ok, by double protection, dyu mean 2 different forms (eg. the pill and a condom) or 2 condoms? Bcoz if it was 2 condoms, the friction between the 2 can cause them to tear, which makes 2 less effective than one. He should eventually come around but you and him are going to need to seriously discuss your options. Don't force it, just wait until you've both chilled a bit and you're ready.
As for your parents, I wouldn't know, I'm not so good with parents but I think you should wait until after christmas to tell them.
Good luck

 

[ColorMeFamous]

Okay thanks!! Yeah it may be best to tell them right away... that way it will give them time to warm up to the idea of me carrying another baby... Thank you!!

Yeah like pill and condom haha!! Doubling condoms is just stupid haha! Yeah, I haven't really ruled out anything. I don't want to have an abortion though. I think I should too. Thank!

 

[xforuiholdonx]

No one here will judge you! Congratulations. As for telling your parents, do it when ever you feel comfortable. It's your life, and your body. If you ever need to chat, you can pm me!
I'm Lisa, 20, ad my DH and I have a two year and one on the way.

 

[ColorMeFamous]

Thank you! Would it be too late to tell them after the baby is born? I just want to focus on my schooling right now without the drama and by the time it's over for the year I will be popping this little guy out! Congrats to you as well!!

 

[MrsBabyBump]

i wouldn't wait that long.
they would probably be even more pissed if you didn't tell them throughout the whole pregnancy and then all of a sudden was just like 'hey, i just had a baby' they'd have no time whatsoever to warm up to the idea.
and if you do decide to keep this LO then it would seem really awkward around them for a little while, as they didn't even know LO was in there for 9 months. lol
good luck!

 

[ColorMeFamous]

Haha probably :/ I just think if I give it up then they don't need to know. I'll tell them after Christmas maybr and see how it goes :/ I'm so nervous... they are already dealing with so much and they don't need this shit. I don't want them to have to deal with this too.

 

[missmiylove]

Maybe you can write them a letter & tell them. I don't think you should wait til the baby is born. You may want to keep it once you see how beautiful it is
& wow it took your parents a year to tell her they love her? they must be really tough characters.

 

[littlebabyboy]

just wanted to send some hugs. x

 

[ColorMeFamous]

Yeah maybe I could do that. I want to keep it but I will not let another baby go without a father. Yes they are. She was a tee mom and she knows how hard it was so I mean it makes sense.

Thank you!!

 

[haydenmummy]

At the of the day u shouldn't make a baby suffer just caue the dad don't wanna know you should do the best thing foor you and your child there are loads of single mums and I say they do just as good as a job on their own without the dad its their loss xx

 

[ColorMeFamous]

I would like to keep it. I mean I'm not going to abort it but I may give it up for adoption. I don't want the effects of my actions to affect my children. I sent the father a message today to see if he wanted to come to the ultrasound. We shall see what he says.

 

[xforuiholdonx]

Sweetheart, If you want to keep your child, keep it. A child does not suffer without a father, and you shouldn't have to do that because he's being an asshole. That's what court, DNA tests and child support are for! I hope things are going well for you today.

 

[ColorMeFamous]

Awe thank you!! yeah I'm getting excited for my ultrasound!! It's in less than a month!! I'm getting a 4D one! Yay!!

 

[oox_tasha_xoo]

I don't normally post in teen pregnancy anymore, but reading this I felt I should say that I'm a young mum and I have 2 children. Although they have the same father and we live together, his job hours mean I infact do everything myself, it is possible. It may not be easy but watching my children bond is the most rewarding thing ever! Good luck

 

[Stevensmummyx]

Hun if the only reason is that the baby won't have a father around that you are considering adoption because the father may not be around then I personally don't think that is the right choice firstly because all the child needs is love and support! Whether that's by one parent or two and I'm sure you are a great mum already since that's what you are worrying about! 2, I'm sure down the line you will meet a lovely guy who will be more than happy to be around your kids, being dad isn't about making a baby its being there and loving them and bringing them up!

You seem excited about the us so I'm assuming deep down you don't want to go through with adoption, I just want to say don't jump into making desicions too early that you may regret.

As for your parents, they will eventually come round, whether that be a few weeks or a few years, there's worse things in the world than a new baby !

I hope you make the right choice xx

 

[MrsBabyBump]

totally agree with stevensmummy!

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

Sounds like you're in a very difficult situation, but what is done is done, and from what you've said, you were being careful with using protection, but these things do happen.

I found it very hard to tell my parents about my second and third, even harder than the first because I knew how they reacted previously. But they did come around. I wouldn't wait too long, it's just going to end up eating away at you and be harder to tell them. I wrote my parents a letter for my second. I hope they support you, no matter what you're decision

 

[ColorMeFamous]

I don't normally post in teen pregnancy anymore, but reading this I felt I should say that I'm a young mum and I have 2 children. Although they have the same father and we live together, his job hours mean I infact do everything myself, it is possible. It may not be easy but watching my children bond is the most rewarding thing ever! Good luck

Awe thank you! Yeah it will be so hard! I mean I'm a single mommy yo one, pregnant, and going to school and even that is stressful haha! If my second is anywhere near as colicky as my first I think I may break hahs! She was so bad! I do want my children to know each othed so I will try my best to keep it but if iy gets too hard I'll let it go :/ I have a lot to consuder before I make my fina decision!

Hun if the only reason is that the baby won't have a father around that you are considering adoption because the father may not be around then I personally don't think that is the right choice firstly because all the child needs is love and support! Whether that's by one parent or two and I'm sure you are a great mum already since that's what you are worrying about! 2, I'm sure down the line you will meet a lovely guy who will be more than happy to be around your kids, being dad isn't about making a baby its being there and loving them and bringing
You seem excited about the us so I'm assuming deep down you don't want to go through with adoption, I just want to say don't jump into making desicions too early that you may regret.

As for your parents, they will eventually come round, whether that be a few weeks or a few years, there's worse things in the world than a new baby !

I hope you make the right choice xx

Thank you! I am worried about that but I'm also wortied about how I'll deal with veing a single mom to two children while I'm in college... it will be so hard. I just don't want to give it up and in a year be like wow, if I had sucked it up for a year I would have gotten through my paramedic program and been financially set to raise these kids by myself. Like one year isn't that bad and people do do it. I may talk to someone and see if counciling can help me make a decision!

Sounds like you're in a very difficult situation, but what is done is done, and from what you've said, you were being careful with using protection, but these things do happen.

I found it very hard to tell my parents about my second and third, even harder than the first because I knew how they reacted previously. But they did come around. I wouldn't wait too long, it's just going to end up eating away at you and be harder to tell them. I wrote my parents a letter for my second. I hope they support you, no matter what you're decision

Thank you! I hope so too!! I may write a letter. Might be easier.