raaaaaaaaaaant.

[tamithomas]

It's official, as of yesterday I no longer have shame in deleting people from bragbook once they've come out with their BFP announcements. If they wish to know why I deleted them,they have my number...if they really care that much they can just call me. I keep on getting told I'll regret it once I get my BFP but truth be told, no I won't. I won't because I knew what had to be done to keep me sane. If people have to delete me from bragbook if I ever get BFP then fine, I'll at least be understanding about it and won't shame them for it. So sick of most fertile women not understanding! A "friend" of mine just announced being BFP with their 3rd child, just like clock work it was on the 4th month after giving birth. Am I jealous, ya damn right I am. I have a right to be, We started TTC before she even announced her first BFP which to add insult to injury she was still living at home with her mom. 3 years later, she's got a 3rd BFP while I'm still empty cradle.

After getting my ear chewed up because I dared tell her "first time I could understand why you didn't give me a heads up, you didn't know my situation. The second time it hurt I let it slide as well..but a third time you blow up my news feed about being BFP without an advanced warning? No, I won't take it anymore..we're done! You have no sensitivity and do not care about any ones feelings but your own!" I no longer feel any guilt in deleting people over it. If protecting myself and doing what's needed to not prevent myself to get to the point of needing to seek professional is considered selfish and b***y thing to do then so be it, I'll be selfish with pride. Screw fertile people who don't understand, screw people who look down on us bitter women and men, we have a right to be bitter dammit!

 

[uwa_amanda]

That's exactly why I don't do Facebook. The way I see it, if my family or friends want to know oh so bad how I'm doing, they can call me. Besides...facebook is too much trouble to keep up with. I have enough to do as it is without having to update my facebook all the time. JMHO

 

[tamithomas]

That's exactly why I don't do Facebook. The way I see it, if my family or friends want to know oh so bad how I'm doing, they can call me. Besides...facebook is too much trouble to keep up with. I have enough to do as it is without having to update my facebook all the time. JMHO

Haha I wish it were that easy for me to just give up facebook entirely but it trully is a lifesaver for me and my long distance phone bill. I like it for my family and close friends, but as for the rest I seriously have no shame anymore in admiting what I really think. If they don't like it then tough, I ain't putting on a fake smile anymore. lol

 

[Madgirl]

Well said! I deleted my whole stinking account over this very thing!

 

[Kimiw]

I know exactally what you are saying! It seems like everyday one of my friends is annoucning a pregnancy. they post pictures of their pregnancy tests, sonograms, and pregnant bellies! I feel the same way you do! I am sick of all those fertile myrtles out there who get pregnant at the drop of a hat. OMG and to top it off a couple of months ago I had a friend who had her tubes tied and burned after she had her 3rd child tell me that she is PREGNANT! WTF?! a woman who had her tubes tied and burned got PREGNANT?! Aparently one side didn't fuse right but STILL!!!!!!! All my tubes are open, I have eggs, and a uterus, my DH have great sperm and I Can't get a BFP??

 

[Chatnoir]

I removed 90% of all my FB "friends" recently as I had enough as well!
But now, when friends comment on other friends ultrasound pics, it comes up on my feed! Why does that happen?!

 

[RKW]

Hi ladies,

I have changed all my settings. I have people I simply can't delete due to work reasons, so I have made them invisible to me. Nothing they post or comment on comes up. You can also hide it when friends comment on other people pictures. This keeps me sane but also allows me to keep on touch with friends xx

 

[Kimiw]

Hi ladies,

I have changed all my settings. I have people I simply can't delete due to work reasons, so I have made them invisible to me. Nothing they post or comment on comes up. You can also hide it when friends comment on other people pictures. This keeps me sane but also allows me to keep on touch with friends xx

I never really thought of doing that, thanks! I can't delete certain individuals either for the same reason. I think I will do that although, I would probably have a handfull of people that I could see lmao.

 

[HappyLady]

WOW!! I am honestly so glad that I found this thread!!! I have this problem on a regular basis. I am so sick and tired of people posting that they are pregnant on facebook there ultrasound pictures and the countdown til baby is born. But what makes me the maddest is when I have friends that say they don't want to be pregnant and why did this happen to me?!? Honestly?!? Anyways I just had to get that out because this is a daily struggle for meBut everytime I delete facebook I ALWAYS reactivate me account. I don't know why though maybe it's just to addicting to me.

 

[uwa_amanda]

WOW!! I am honestly so glad that I found this thread!!! I have this problem on a regular basis. I am so sick and tired of people posting that they are pregnant on facebook there ultrasound pictures and the countdown til baby is born. But what makes me the maddest is when I have friends that say they don't want to be pregnant and why did this happen to me?!? Honestly?!? Anyways I just had to get that out because this is a daily struggle for meBut everytime I delete facebook I ALWAYS reactivate me account. I don't know why though maybe it's just to addicting to me.

I don't even have a facebook page! lol

I never really got into the myspace/facebook stuff whenever it first got big. I just got into twitter last summer. That is about all the social media I can handle.

I know exactly how you feel about the ultrasound pics, the "I'm pregnant!" declarations, and all that. My husband and I had been trying for six years before we decided to take a break for several months. It had gotten to me so bad that I had to stop. We went through 8 cycles of clomid, which were awful with me in regards to the side effects. We decided after his not so stellar SA results (his third and worst of the bunch) that we were going to take a break and refocus on each other. I had become crazy about ttc, timing intercourse, and all that goes along with it.

It has been a difficult and trying journey for all of us. Hopefully we will all be the mommies we so badly want to be. to everybody!!!

 

[tamithomas]

WOW!! I am honestly so glad that I found this thread!!! I have this problem on a regular basis. I am so sick and tired of people posting that they are pregnant on facebook there ultrasound pictures and the countdown til baby is born. But what makes me the maddest is when I have friends that say they don't want to be pregnant and why did this happen to me?!? Honestly?!? Anyways I just had to get that out because this is a daily struggle for meBut everytime I delete facebook I ALWAYS reactivate me account. I don't know why though maybe it's just to addicting to me.

totally feel you hun! I'm forced to keep bragbook for business reasons, if I didn't it would be slammed shut so fast. I'm so sick of seeing ultrasounds on facebook (whoever started that stupid fad would hear it from me because no one wants to see a tiny bean, there's no point to it). Yes I understand that pregnancy is a very emotional event but just like everything else in life, not everything has to be put on blast..heck I never even understood the pictures of peoples lunches. Plus , I always had this view on ultrasounds even before TTC. It should be a personal journey between the family on close friends. But that's just me, people are gonna do what they want. If they share everything on facebook, what is there to celebrate and have as special moments at home with the DH? I look forward to if I ever get the chance to share those special private moments... no one needs to know that your DH is rubbing your belly all the time or the movement in your belly. There are websites with blogs for that lol. So in a sense, it's not my bitterness talking it's just how I've always been and believed.

 

[tamithomas]

Sorry if that came off rude and didn't mean to offend anyone who posts bean pictures in advance. It's just my personal opinion, people can post what they want. I just don't see the point in bean picture posting considering you've already probably announced the BFP as a status, the bean picture ain't gonna do much more than just confirm it. I just find them totally pointless and takes away from the wow factor. Sharing ultrasound pictures later on in the pregnancy that I can understand, but bean ones? nah...

 

[HappyLady]

I couldn't have said it better myself!!! I feel you pain and I am so sorry this is happening. Our day will come sometime. We just have to have faith. In the mean time I think its personaly fine to rant and rave about the things that bother us!! It personaly makes me feel better to get it all out!! Baby dust to all you beautiful ladies.

 

[moose31]

i know what you mean..i have unsubscribed to soo many threads of preggo friends ( 3 of them are pregant with #2 and concieved #1 around when DH and I started TTC )

 

[bonniessis]

I feel like such a bitch for feeling the way I do but glad I'm not the only one. I only actually have 80 "friends" on Facebook and about 20 of them are knocked up! Wouldnt sound so bad but of the 80 about 40 are male, 10 are mature (nice way to describe the oldies) women and a few are just young girls (cousins of 14, 16 ect).
Not great when all that is on my newsfeed is that stupid babygaga countdown timer that EVERYONE has.
Two of the uptheduffers are my best friends who know everything I've gone through, give them their due, after telling their partners I was the first person they told as they didn't want to hurt my feelings.
One had only just come off the pill (mid cycle might I add) and got preggo straight away with her 3rd lo, I always did say all she had to do was wash oh's boxers to get knocked up, plus we were actually away on a girls holiday for a week of that month too, WTF, how is it possible to fall so easily???
So not fair.
Other best friend is due this month and has asked me to be at the birth, quite excited about that although think it was a sympathy invite, never mind, I'm going anyway.
The icing on the cake was the txt off SIL this week to say she's expecting now too.
I am happy for them but all of the above have kids already, it's my effin turn. Sorry, didn't realise this was such a long rant, feels better having written (typed) it down tho. Xxx

 

[hunni12]

Just a pointer, if you have someone you can't delete for certain reasons you can unsubscribe from their updates

 

[tamithomas]

oh my goodness haha just found an awesome website, it's called https://www.stfuparentsblog.com/ and it puts parents on blast that over share too much on facebook. It's confirming my suspicion when it comes to oversharing but having a good laugh about it too at the same time! lol

 

[Armywife84]

Another one who deleted her FB! It's so refreshing not to be dreading logging on to see what lucky cow was going to be next

 

[hopefull85]

yeah i just cant delete mine. its hard seeing stuff like that but facebook is my drug lol cause i know when i get pregnant it will be all over facebook. yeah i know many of yall have different views on that but when my miracle happens i am going to show it to the world LOL plus my parents live in another state so its helps in that way.

 

[Just_married]

oh my goodness haha just found an awesome website, it's called https://www.stfuparentsblog.com/ and it puts parents on blast that over share too much on facebook. It's confirming my suspicion when it comes to oversharing but having a good laugh about it too at the same time! lol

Actually laughing out loud at this website, and learning what not to post on FB! guys a genius. x