Hi everyone, sorry I've been quiet -- things have been busy.
Thanks for all of your suggestions about avoiding the car nap! Sunnie, I will definitely try turning the radio on and off -- I like that one. Gaiagirl, in fact, we have taken a road trip, and we had that problem! Combined with the fact that he rarely nurses well outside home...it was a challenge.
Ugh, but listen to what happened today. LO was up at 5:30, great morning nap 9-10:30. At 12:30 I was in the backseat of the car with him and his eyes were closing. "Well," I thought, "I'll wake him up after exactly 5 minutes, and then he'll probably be in a better mood at lunch and start his afternoon nap around 2:30-3, wake up around 3:30, and be ready for bed at 7:30 -- perfect." Not so much. In fact his afternoon nap started at 4, I woke him at 4:30, and he was asleep at 8:30. Ugh! So a 5-minute car nap probably cost him at least an hour of sleep. Lesson learned: NO AVOIDABLE CAR NAPS, EVER.
Shadowy, how strange about the 5:30 waking
I'm sorry, I don't know what to suggest. Maybe an intermediate bedtime of 7:15, if you think she's overtired?
Stephie, I'm really glad 2 naps is going well for you
2 x 45-60 minutes is pretty normal for us, or even a good day, so I would say it is definitely a good place to start. Regarding feeds, I think it's normal for them to be on fewer of those per day now. As he starts to take more solids I'm sure those will fill the gaps, as well as EBM in a cup as you mentioned. You could also try mixing it with cereal/avocado/banana/etc and either feed him with a spoon, or let him try to figure out the spoon himself. I hope you got over your anxiety about how long he'd been sleeping when you posted, and managed to get some sleep yourself!
Twister, glad things are still going well for you
Sunnie, I don't really have advice about the daytime separation anxiety clinginess, but I know it's tough if you are used to letting them play independently
my approach is basically WIO...I assume I can't change his fears by forcing him to be away from me, so I let him cling. Within reason, of course -- if I need to use the bathroom or leave him at daycare, I just make sure to say bye bye, tell him when I'm coming back, and make sure he sees me leaving, and then get it over with even if he's crying. It was pretty overwhelming at first but I think I have actually gotten more used to it.
I know what you mean about practicing walking. Our babies are really growing up
Aimee, how did tonight go? I wouldn't worry about the tummy settling. You really don't know how things will go until you try them once! I'm sure she will forgive you
Polaris, did you wake Clara at 7 this morning? How did it go? Is she feeling better? I hope things go better with your son. You really have been struggling with this transition for a while, and it sounds tough
does it help to remind yourself that it WILL be over soon? I hope it's really soon!
Sunshine
I hope you decide on a method that you feel good about. Collectively we've all tried various things so I'm sure you'll be able to get advice from at least a couple people here on whatever you decide to do.
Gaia, sounds like Friday went well! How have the past couple days been?
And how is Arrested Development?? I'll watch that someday when I have time, like maybe after the kids are all out of the house.
I hope I got everyone!
to all, hope tonight is a good one