I think I've read every page of this thread over the last few days! It's fascinating!!!
I've been bugging Noelle with pm's for the past few days, so I thought I'd give her a small break and get some tips from other ladies going through the "fun" stuff right now!
LO is going to be 7 months in a week. I've always fed her to sleep for night time and naps, so she's never been left to self soothe. However, at daycare, they do let her CIO.
She used to STTN, but then, you know, all that crappy developmental stuff started happening, and now she has mostly really bad nights. We've got multiple wake ups, 4:30 wake ups (for the day she thinks), eyes popping right back open as soon as I lay her down...the normal...
I was going to do some sleep training. I was going to do the sleep lady shuffle. I even thought about Ferber. I REALLY thought about Ferber yesterday morning when I had only had an hour of sleep the night before. But, when night time comes, I chicken out. Or, I think, maybe she'll grow out of this. Maybe tonight will be better.
Last night was better - only up 3 times. I was still up at 4:30am for the day, rocking her in the chair because I don't want her up that early for the day!!! If I try to put her back down that early in the morning, she just wakes right back up. Urgh.
Right now, I've been feeding her to sleep (with usually one bottle during the night). When she wakes up, I pick her up and rock her for a few minutes then lay her back down. She's usually back to sleep before I even move away from the crib. So, I really would like some tips for self soothing in the crib. But this is what happens when I try patting her on her back in the crib (she's a tummy sleeper): she starts trying to roll around like a maniac! Do I just let her go and pat whatever lands under my hand, or do I hold her down?? Or, is there a better way to soothe in the crib??
I know, I really need to work on teaching her how to self soothe on her own. I think she probably has an idea, since daycare has been making her CIO for about 4 weeks now for naps. But she knows she has mommy wrapped around her little finger!!!
Thanks for any suggestions!
Hi Amy and welcome!! You know I followed your other thread. Our babies are so similar!! Culver was STTN at three months (12 hours straight) and I thought I had this parenting thing nailed!!! Then, hello four month sleep regression!!
I am a walking zombie. A good night is 4 or 5 wakeups. A bad night might be 20! It sounds like you are in the same place as us - and you work!!! So I take my hat off to you.
I personally think our current sleep issues relate to hitting milestones and teething - and just being a highly strung, very interested in the world baby.
I've definitely had moments where I've thought 'maybe CIO is the only answer?' But I'm not prepared to do it. If you do decide to do it, I would be behind you 100 percent but its not right for my family.
If you don't decide to so CIO I wonder if you would consider bed sharing. On our good nights, this has made a world of difference. It's much easier to soothe Cully and I can nurse lying down. I've side carred the cot to the bed and put our mattress on the ground. Your LO may also be missing mummy as you are at work, so this might help her to feel like she has more mummy time.
Regarding soothing, with my current set up I can lie next to Cully and rub his tummy. Some nights this works well but if he is teething this doesn't work at all. It's a real back saver though, being able to actually lie next to LO.
Regarding early wakeups, we had this quite badly too but the last week he has consistently woken between 545-615. What I did was consistently rock him back to sleep, even if it took an hour of me rocking. Now I have to soothe him at 5 but he goes back to sleep very easily.
I have my own idea about putting baby to bed asleep. I don't think it's as bad as is sometimes made out and I think it takes some babies (like mine) a while to learn how to do it. Until he is older and I can reason with him, I'm happy to help him to sleep. I've spoken to a few mums and anecdotally the ability to fall asleep by themselves or whether they have to be put down asleep by mum doesn't seem to have a massive correlation to night sleep. I'm sure others will have a different experience though.
Please keep posting, this is a great thread and all the women are so supportive. We all do things differently and have different approaches to sleep but it makes it a really balanced thread. Everyone also respects these differences and to be honest I haven't 'met' a nicer group of women.
Good luck!!! I'm sure you'll get some excellent advice from the others, I just wanted to share my perspective. X
Ps despite my rant I have seen huge improvements. These ladies have helped me get a good day schedule and also advised on a whole host of night issues. Thing will get better for you!!