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Stephie, the naps sound great!! I think it is a promising sign that he's learned to SS and sleep longer stretches during naps. I know naps are different from nighttime but I bet it means he can learn to do the same thing at night somehow. I hope you do get a nap in soon! I find that can make such a difference.
I know what you mean about not wanting to give pain relief for bad sleep it's so hard to know. Munchkin has certainly had ibuprofen on days when I know in retrospect that he was not teething, and I don't feel great about that. But I just try to balance the concern for his comfort with the concern for his organs and then go with my gut? I know, that's very vague! I'm with Gaia on the homeopathic stuff though. My understanding is that there's not good evidence for it, and it makes me a bit uncomfortable, so we've never used any.
Hang in there. I hope you see better nights or at least teeth soon. Hope bedtime tonight went well. Is he still struggling at bedtime?
Gaia, how frustrating that tooth #8 does not seem close! I wish so much you could just have a break from teething!! Maybe you will anyway. FWIW, I've had two pediatricians independently tell me that they think Advil is safe at the recommended dose for up to 7 nights in a row. I can totally understand why you would still be uncomfortable with that, though. I am sorry you had such rough naps today, I really hope things get better soon can you get any help from DH or anyone else?
Polaris, I'm so sorry you are having that feeling of questioning everything, that's a tough place to be. It sounds wise to put things off until after you're back from your trip (where are you going?). Are you able to lie down with her during naps, or whatever she needs -- or do you need her in the cot? I have found it difficult sometimes to maintain very many rules or limits without being willing to sleep train. It's like I need it to be one or the other, you know what I mean? So when we were in WIO mode my approach was to try to accept everything and not struggle or fight too hard. Make things better, yes, but not fight. I don't know whether you're in a position to do that this week -- or whether you think that would even be helpful? I know how much easier said than done it is when you don't even feel like you have a basic routine in place. I just think it can be so demanding to try to control everything through scheduling and routines alone, and for a mom who is as caring as you are, and who has such high standards for herself as you do, it can really become all-consuming.
When was it that you sleep trained last time? It was a few months ago, or more, right? And you did CC? How long did you do it for and how much was she still crying? Just curious.
This made me think of a story a woman in my baby group told us about her older child...that it felt like such a miracle when one night her daughter said "Mommy...ear hurts." Because just like that, she didn't need to guess at what was wrong! Poor babies...it will be so much better for us and especially for them when they can just tell us!
To your question about STTN, I'm sure there are babies who just do that once they start being able to STTN -- maybe it has to do with having a regular temperament. But, also, many parents who like a lot of structure and regularity around nighttime sleep basically do CIO/ignoring on an ongoing basis. Like, if wake up time is 6 AM, they do not go into their baby's room between bedtime and 6 AM, ever. I don't know how you are dealing with Finlay's NWs and early mornings but based on what you said about CIO I assume you're not ignoring him. I would think that most babies experiencing those kinds of rules would eventually learn that it didn't do them any good to complain at night or be up early. You may not be comfortable with that, though.
I know what you mean about not wanting to give pain relief for bad sleep it's so hard to know. Munchkin has certainly had ibuprofen on days when I know in retrospect that he was not teething, and I don't feel great about that. But I just try to balance the concern for his comfort with the concern for his organs and then go with my gut? I know, that's very vague! I'm with Gaia on the homeopathic stuff though. My understanding is that there's not good evidence for it, and it makes me a bit uncomfortable, so we've never used any.
Hang in there. I hope you see better nights or at least teeth soon. Hope bedtime tonight went well. Is he still struggling at bedtime?
Gaia, how frustrating that tooth #8 does not seem close! I wish so much you could just have a break from teething!! Maybe you will anyway. FWIW, I've had two pediatricians independently tell me that they think Advil is safe at the recommended dose for up to 7 nights in a row. I can totally understand why you would still be uncomfortable with that, though. I am sorry you had such rough naps today, I really hope things get better soon can you get any help from DH or anyone else?
Polaris, I'm so sorry you are having that feeling of questioning everything, that's a tough place to be. It sounds wise to put things off until after you're back from your trip (where are you going?). Are you able to lie down with her during naps, or whatever she needs -- or do you need her in the cot? I have found it difficult sometimes to maintain very many rules or limits without being willing to sleep train. It's like I need it to be one or the other, you know what I mean? So when we were in WIO mode my approach was to try to accept everything and not struggle or fight too hard. Make things better, yes, but not fight. I don't know whether you're in a position to do that this week -- or whether you think that would even be helpful? I know how much easier said than done it is when you don't even feel like you have a basic routine in place. I just think it can be so demanding to try to control everything through scheduling and routines alone, and for a mom who is as caring as you are, and who has such high standards for herself as you do, it can really become all-consuming.
When was it that you sleep trained last time? It was a few months ago, or more, right? And you did CC? How long did you do it for and how much was she still crying? Just curious.
We do use teething granules. Though more so when he was smaller. It works best for him when he is in a huge tizz. It just calms him down so much. Around 5 mths he'd pass out afterwards. It was like he was thinking 'Finally Mummy! I've been telling you for ages I needed something!'
This made me think of a story a woman in my baby group told us about her older child...that it felt like such a miracle when one night her daughter said "Mommy...ear hurts." Because just like that, she didn't need to guess at what was wrong! Poor babies...it will be so much better for us and especially for them when they can just tell us!
To your question about STTN, I'm sure there are babies who just do that once they start being able to STTN -- maybe it has to do with having a regular temperament. But, also, many parents who like a lot of structure and regularity around nighttime sleep basically do CIO/ignoring on an ongoing basis. Like, if wake up time is 6 AM, they do not go into their baby's room between bedtime and 6 AM, ever. I don't know how you are dealing with Finlay's NWs and early mornings but based on what you said about CIO I assume you're not ignoring him. I would think that most babies experiencing those kinds of rules would eventually learn that it didn't do them any good to complain at night or be up early. You may not be comfortable with that, though.