rmsh1
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rmsh - welcome to the thread. Honestly I think what you are describing sounds very normal for your LO's age. I wouldn't stress too much about the early bedtime yet, 9.30 is a good bedtime for a 12 week old baby in my opinion, it will naturally move earlier with time. Just watch out for her getting tired earlier in the evening so that you don't leave her bedtime too late for too long. I also wouldn't worry about the daytime routine being inconsistent. Neither of mine have settled into any sort of consistent daytime routine until about 6 or 7 months. At this age I would just go by wake times. How long after she wakes are you putting her down for a nap? Also, how she is sleeping now really doesn't predict how she will sleep in a few months time. My first slept absolutely terrible at 12 weeks but his sleep improved dramatically at four months and although it remained up and down for the first year he was generally a reasonably good sleeper after the first four months. My second slept really well at 12 weeks but things went seriously downhill at four months and I have been a constant visitor to this thread for months. So there's just no way of knowing yet! Try not to worry too much about what other people's babies are doing, she's so young at the moment, everything can change so much.
She is awake until she shows me signs of needing sleep. Some mornings she might be awake two hours after she first wakes, but normally it is just over an hour before she shows signs and I put her down. I still have to rock her cot gently most times she goes down for a day time nap, but not always.
At night, she is normally asleep by 9.30pm. Tonight I have her down at 8.30pm. The earliest she has even gotten up is 7am, but this is variable too. Sometimes I try to keep her awake when she wakes at this time, other times there is just no keeping her awake. She wakes at last three times every night, sometimes 4 times, and she feeds at every waking. Sometimes her feeds are only one or two minutes long, but mostly she has good 5 minute feeds every time she wakes (she is an efficient feeder, 5 minutes feeding seems to fill her most times).
I have been changing her nappy at her approximate 5am wake time as her nappy is full then, but maybe I should leave it completely til she wakes up? She goes back to sleep fine after I do this.
Hi rmsh, and welcome. I agree, LO is very young and this sounds reasonably common for her age. I would start by waking her at the same time every morning. Pick a time that suits your family (say, 7am) and from there you should get an idea of her natural napping patterns. Although expect things to change quickly as the weeks go by!
Do you nap during the day when LO is sleeping to catch up on sleep?
Hugs to you xxx
Edit - let us know how you approach naps, night wakings, how much day sleep LO is getting?
7am is a good time to get her up, although I am tired when I get up. I try to get her up then but some mornings there is just no keeping her awake. I tend to get up and have a shower and breakfast if she goes back to sleep.
I do not nap during the day, have not been able to since she was born. I used to love a day time nap, but now I just cannot turn off.
Day time naps occur only when Emma gives me sleepy signs. I swaddle her (only during the day now, I do not do this at night anymore as it was not helping her sleep any longer), put on some relaxing music and if I caught her at just the right time, she goes to sleep with no interference, but I normally have to rock the cot a little each time she makes a little cry. She sleeps at least an hour most naps. When she wakes I feed her, never longer than 3 hours between day time feeds. Then she gets burped, nappy change, tummy time and play time, until she shows sleepy signs again. Sometimes this is two hours but mostly just over an hour. Then back for a nap.
Night time wakings, I simply pick her up (she is in our room as we only have a one bed place until I return to work), we have a dim night light so no lights go on. I feed her then straight back to bed. Once her sucking slows I take her off my boob so she does not suckle completely to sleep, but really she is barely awake. I do not speak to her or interact with her at all, other than give her a boob.
So day sleeps, she gets over 4 hours normally. So I would guess at night she gets between 10-12 hours, and day time at least 4 hours. Today she had heaps of day time sleep, I could not keep her awake. She got up at 7.30am, went to sleep at 9am, up at 10am, then asleep at 11.30am , woke at 12.30pm for a feed and went straight back to sleep til 3pm..... That was a big sleep, but she just did not want to wake up. Then she had another sleep 5-6pm, but I think all this sleeping today might partly be due to her 12 week growth spurt, she has fed a lot too. And she is fast asleep now at 8.30pm.
I had trouble with her day sleeps and I went to a sleep clinic, and they showed me the whole "sleep, feed, tummy time, play time til sleepy signs show, then sleep" routine. And they showed me how to get her to sleep (ie the cot rocking only as she cries, not til she falls asleep).
Phew, that was a novel sorry