Time to catch up!
How is everyone doing today?
Lysh, the weekend is almost here! I hope everyone is feeling better and that naps are improving
Stephie, really sorry C has been ill.
It is so tough when they are miserable AND you can't get any rest. Is he feeling any better? How are you feeling about everything? I hope the vacation does all of you good!
Polaris, I agree, it doesn't sound to me like you are too controlling, either! Of course, I say that as someone who probably seems crazy in how much I try to protect Munchkin's sleep routine.
But I understand. It really does throw things off so much if you just let it go. You are very thoughtful to put in so much effort to help her get enough sleep.
How wonderful that your OH managed to get her down for a nap. It's so nice when that happens! Feels like it lifts the burden a bit. How have things been since then?
Bababas, welcome back, I'd been wondering what happened to you! I'm so glad things are going so much better
your nap guidelines sound perfect. Are you still getting engorged during the night? Maybe instead of waking him you could just pump or hand express a little, just to take the edge off. Our boys' birthdays are coming up!!
Do you have a big party planned for Ivar?
Amy, sorry you're having the sitting up problem. That was really tough for us and we really just had to WIO. I hope things are getting better. How has the week been?
NotNic, so sorry you guys have been struggling
I'm sorry F is so sensitive to teething. You do such an amazing job with him. Really! It sounds like you make it so clear what you expect from him, but you also take a gentle and patient approach. You deserve amazing sleep! Don't be hard on yourself for losing patience with him. It doesn't destroy the wonderful bond you have and the attachment you have cultivated over his entire life.
Please do write something bitter to your FB friends.
I am always tempted to do that too! "Soooo tired, little man was up at 6:15 this morning." Seriously?!?!
Gaia, sorry you are having such late bedtimes again! You really have a little night owl. And a little teether...poor F! I hope things have been a bit better.
Melly, so sorry about what happened to your arm! I broke my leg a couple years ago and found it so emotionally draining to have that kind of limitation. It must be so much more intense trying to parent that way!
Your daughter WON'T hate you if you sleep train her. But if you are worried about it, it seems like a good idea to see if you can get on a good routine with one nap, and if that makes things easier.
I do think sleep training would help though
it sounds like she probably is chronically overtired and just doesn't know how to wind down. How does she fall asleep at bedtime? Mine has started showing much more obvious sleepy signs since the last round of sleep training. Before he would just go straight into his second wind without seeming sleepy for a second. But now he is giving classic sleepy signs much earlier than I would have predicted a few weeks ago. I think it's because he knows how to go to sleep on his own so he can take the initiative and slow things down, instead of waiting for me to do it, if that makes sense?
I also would take her out of her crib after half an hour if she's playing. I think it's important to maintain different associations with different environments, e.g. crib is for sleeping. Obviously you can't control that completely but if she's been playing for hours and isn't slowing down, I think you should take her outside.
AFU - things have been really good!
Mostly STTN, sometimes waking once. We had a random bad night earlier this week when he was unsettled from about 2:30 AM and couldn't stay asleep for the rest of the night. I can't tell whether he's teething, which probably means he's not. Maybe he was hungry.
He's also often going to sleep happily. I'm so proud of him!
And as I wrote to Melly, he's showing much clearer sleepy cues, which I find really interesting.
The only thing that's not ideal is the continued early morning poops, which make it impossible to put him back to bed after he wakes up, usually around 5:15. But I will soooo take it.
He's still taking two naps, one around 8:15-9 (often in the car on the way to daycare, but sometimes at home if I can go in to work late enough) and the second at daycare sometime in the afternoon. So far there's only been one day when his second nap got really really late. So I'm pleased with that.
Of course, next week I have to work much longer hours than usual, so I'm sure that's when this good streak will end.
But it's just for a week, so I'm hopeful that we can get back into a good routine once that's over.
I apologize in advance for continually falling behind on this thread! Things are going to get increasingly busy at work from now until the new year. But I'll try to check in when I can!