Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[Hollybush75]

I just wanted to find out from some of you what reasons you've been given for losing your babies.

No definite reason for mine just yet however I have a query underactive thyroid so I'm waiting to see consultant about that and also waiting for my appointment date to discuss the results of the cytogenetic testing on my last baby

 

[kat731]

Arelyn-
We lost our last babies around the same time. My D&C was in December (my 2nd loss). It took us a year to get pregnant and finally did with clomid, but obviously it didn't last. My appt in a couple isn't witha specialist but im hoping my doc will work with me. If not, then ill seek a specialists advice and support.
Im with u in not beleiving "bad luck" for recurrent miscarriages. Having your daughter was great luck though! She's beautiful ( im assuming that's ur profile pick)!
As far as u and depo, idk much about birth control to be honest! I've been with my husband since we were 16 so I was only on the pill for maybe a total of 1 year my whole life.
Im scared I may never have kids. My mom went through menopause in her mid thirties ( yes, I said that right!), and my sister had a hard time conceiving at 22! Im 26 and im scared.
Idk which is worse? Not being able to get preg or losing your pregnancy. Both are equally devisitating I suppose. I know my heart aches either way.

 

[reedsgirl1138]

Hello...I am Sandi and just had my 3rd chemical mc...I am so angry and confused as to why this keeps happening. I have a doc appt with a new doctor on monday as my old one refused to see me when I called and told him I had positive test and was starting to bleed and thought I was losing this baby too. I can't seem to make it past 6 weeks and I know this is not normal. I do have 3 older children, I had a tubal reversal a year ago and been having prblems since. Can you ladies advice me on what I should be asking for from this new doc? I have a feeling that my pregestrone levels are dropping because its like I can feel it all just slipping away and if the old doc would have listened to me in March I believe that this last one could have been prevented. Sorry for the rant ladies. All and any advice is so greatly appreciated and I am so sorry for all your losses.

 

[AreIn83]

kat-Yes that's my beautiful baby Marley. I consider myself very lucky to have gotten pregnant with her even if we weren't ready when it happened (I was still in college and DH and I weren't married. We lived in tiny apartments and made barely enough to support us. We've both graduated and are doing well now though!) because it may not happen again. It's an awful feeling to work for something for a year and then get it and then it's taken away. I know how that feels and I wouldn't wish an m/c on anyone, it's devastating.

Sandi-I know exactly what you mean! You can feel the "pregnant" just slip out of your body. I tested Friday night and Saturday morning because I had that feeling, you just feel it leave you. I was so happy and then Friday I started feeling not so elated and I knew.

 

[kat731]

Sandi and Areln-
I had the same feeling with my 1st miscarriage. I lost that one at approx. 10 weeks. 1 day I woke up and I felt "normal". No sore breasts, no feeling sick, more energy. Its weird. Just as soon as u get use to feeling pregnant, then its gone.
I've been reading "preventing miscarriage by jonathan Scher, M.D., and Carol Dix" and there is a TON of info in there about testing and reasons why.
Also "getting pregnant by Niels H.Lauersen, M.D., and Collette Bouchez". Very informational

 

[AreIn83]

Oh thanks for the info! I'll look into them for my Reader when I get home! I downloaded Pregnancy Sucks....and now wish it wasn't there staring me in the face.

 

[reedsgirl1138]

Thank you ladies. I will have to look into those books. I was starting to feel like I was crazy when I said I felt it leaving my body...no one understood what I meant. I am having a really hard time finding a doctor in my area that really cares what I say...its my body and since I have been trying to get pregnant for a little over a year now I am pretty intune with what is going on with it. I am traveling about a hour and half from my home to find a better doctor. But I know like you ladies do that this is not normal and its just a matter of finding a doctor that actually cares and listens to us and I think we will all be able to have a healthy baby.

 

[kat731]

Def check into those books. I got mine at amazon.com.
And ur right sandi, u should find a doc that wants to work with u (us )...we pay them enough! We should get what we feel we deserve!
Today I did major houscleaning and moved all my baby books into a closet. Only took 6 months to be able to do that . I looked at my baby bump journal I started, and instead of crying, I smiled. It was nice to see how excited and happy I was at that time and it revived my hope, for today anyway

 

[patboy]

Hi to all in the RMC thread.
I got my results from St. Marys RMC. I had a phone consultation with the doctor but I found it very hard to hear him. He said I have abnormal TEG, so my next pregnancy to start 150mg aspirin. Some of my results are not back yet so he is going to phone me back next week. I have phoned St. Marys and got an appointment so i am going to go back to london to discuss the results next week because now i have lots of questions!

This treatment differs from my local hospital. MY RMC results here in Belfast showed anticardiolipin being slightly elevated so their treatment is 75mg aspirin and 5mg of folic acid starting now and once i get my BFP herparin injections.

So who is right. I think st. marys.....?? Wee bit confused..... What do you think? Have any of you ladies had abnormal TEG and went on to have a healthy pregnancy?
Thanks
Trish

 

[WannaB]

How confusing for you patboy! I cant say whos right, guess they are just going by your test results, did they both run the same tests or different ones?? The only thing I can suggest is take the one with the all out treatment, ie aspirin, higher folic and heparin. I started out with one and then they each got added, mind you I have the all clear on all my tests my mc's are unknown, I got a heartbeat today and measured 6w2d, thats the furtherest Ive gotten to date out of 5 pregnancies this time round, they cant hurt you, may stop a further mc though??!! Be interested to see what they will do for you hun!

 

[patboy]

Thanks wannaB and congratulations on you BFP! Its looking good for you a heartbeat is great news. What treatment are you on..... 75mg aspirin/herparin injections??

 

[WannaB]

100mg of Aspirin, we dont seem to get the 75mg dose here, 100 is the lowest, heparin daily after my bfp and progesteone after O, although I didnt start them till this one was confirmed because I didnt know if it was a new onw or left over hcg after my D&C. Im also on a higher dose of folic acid but its only 1300mcg. I would be inclined to let them hit you with all they've got!

 

[reedsgirl1138]

Wannab how wonderful!
I am anxious about my appt monday and scared that there might be really something wrong and I will never have another baby...

 

[AreIn83]

Sandi-Don't think like that, with all of the medical miracles available at our disposal I don't think it's a total impossibility. You may end up like OctoMom however Just kidding!

 

[reedsgirl1138]

Sandi-Don't think like that, with all of the medical miracles available at our disposal I don't think it's a total impossibility. You may end up like OctoMom however Just kidding!

LOL. Thats too funny. thanks for the smile.

I am sitting at the doc office waiting to be seen and super nervous. but trying to be positive!! the other thing I have noticed with all my chemicals is that I bruise super easy during that time....wonder if there is a connection?? guess I will be asking!!

 

[AreIn83]

Let me know what you find out!

 

[kat731]

Hi ladies . So my best friend had a baby boy Sat! He's adorable, but now im second guessing trying again.
Do you ever think of waiting? Or second guess fertility? I just don't know what to think sometimes.

 

[WannaB]

Sandi-Don't think like that, with all of the medical miracles available at our disposal I don't think it's a total impossibility. You may end up like OctoMom however Just kidding!

LOL. Thats too funny. thanks for the smile.

I am sitting at the doc office waiting to be seen and super nervous. but trying to be positive!! the other thing I have noticed with all my chemicals is that I bruise super easy during that time....wonder if there is a connection?? guess I will be asking!!

Looking forward to you update!

Kat Ive never thought of waiting, if the Docs told me too for medical reasons I would, but I dread the day that they would tell me that! Guess its more to do with my age than anything else, times seems to be running out!

 

[reedsgirl1138]

Evening ladies. I really liked the new doc!! He really listened to me and what I thought was going. I was silly and I forgot to fast this morning so I have to get the bloodwork done in the morning. He said we are going to start with the basics and also check me for lupos. I go back in see him in 2 weeks and that will be about the time AF is due again...he said that I have a condition(but I don't remember what he called it) that cause my body to have spontaneous a*******s and he will do everything he can to help me figure out why and what we can do to prevent. I feel so much better. I am to continue taking my prenantal vitamin and the 81mg of baby aspririn. I told him about the bruising that I has noticed around all the times I have lost the baby and he is doing a test to check on my clotting factor as well. He was super nice and made me feel so super comfortable.

 

[WannaB]

Im so glad you got a fabby doc who is willing to go the whole nine yards with you! Makes it a hell of a lot easier. I never thought about a blood clotting issue and the bruising, thats really easily fixed!