Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[lola]

Hello, I hope you don't mind but just wanted to give you another positive outcome story, after TTC for a couple of years, clomid etc, then multiple early mc's I was given aspirin and clexane with high dose folic acid and Sofia was born weighing 8lb 4oz, I never ever thought the day would come, I hope your stories end as happily xxxx

Hi Lola. Were you diagnosed with any clotting disorders in order to get aspirin and clexane? I only ask as one consultant says take it, and another says don't as I don't have any identified blood clotting issues and not sure what to do.

Oh, and congratulations!

Hey sweetie, I know this wasnt to me but I thought I would just say that I read that there are many unknown blood problems that are yet to be found, so many are new (for the medical world) so I would be incline to agree that you should.

I will tell you about my Mum, she had recurrent miscarriages, she then had my sister and had a dvt so got put on blood thinners but she was tested and no clotting disorders found, me and my siblings with the help of blood thinners. Then twenty odd years later I had Honey who was born sleeping so bloods were taken and it was discovered I had a clotting disorder, they advised my family were tested too, of course my Mum had the same disorder, it just hadnt been discovered all those years ago.

I am tired, so hope it makes sense?

And my scan went well. Thank you girls

Lamburai - I replied privately but will add here incase anyone else is interested...

I had a blood clot in my lung when I was younger and they 'believe' that the clotting in my blood occurs in response to high oestrogen, hence losing the pregnancy when I conceive. I saw lots of specialists and they freely admit they don't always know why it happens and the exact mechanisms but this mix helps so they prescribe it and it works tbh I feel very lucky to have it recognised even if they can't tell me exactly why or how, I will definitely take it again if I am lucky enough to have another pregnancy.

I had baby aspirin from conception to 36 weeks, clexane from 6 ish weeks until 6 weeks postpartum, 5mg folic until delivery.

Good luck ladies, take good care of yourselves

 

[9babiesgone]

I can not stop crying today, bc yet another friend of mine is having an baby!! I really want to have my baby back. I know i dont have long to try again, but I am very sad today. very sad.

 

[TTC Again]

Hi, I'm stacey. Just had my third miscarriage since June and I went to an RE for help finally. DH and i have a 2 1/2 year old son who was conceived and born with no complications after 7 months of TTC naturally. Now I'm not sure what is going on with my body.

Anyhow, I had a D&C on 12/30/10 and now nearly 4 weeks out I'm getting + HPT and OPKs. DH is excited thinking we are PG again, but I am trying to explain to him that it's nearly 100% that it's residual HCG form the last pregnancy. RE did an ultrasound and saw a corpus luteum cyst on my ovary...wondering if anyone knows about how long it should take after D&C for this to go away?

I know we have a lot of testing ahead of us, but I'm anxious to have a "normal" cycle and to get the ball rolling. The RE said that until I have a period there isn't much anyone can do for me. WAITING STINKS!!!

Anyhow, sorry for everyone's losses. I know personally how devastating that is. Hopefully only good things for all in 2011!!!!

 

[Rabbittchild]

9babies - i know that feeling my "friend" is posting on FB how annoyed she is baby is not here yet, today is one of my EDD I would love to be in her position. I've also found out two more friends are having babies too. Life goes on yet we seem to be left behind.

TTC - I'm afraid I don't know when the corpus leuteum should go but I hope that you get your tests soon and can move fwd.

AFM - had my follow up scan today - complete miscarriage as I knew. Dr was really great and is going to try me on 800mg progesterone as per the PROMISE trial next pregnancy. She said extra folic acid wouldn't help and agreed heparin wouldn't either and thinks that just giving me prednisalone on the off chance is a bit risky at this point but does want to help me and support me. She also went through all my scans, turns out we did have a foetal pole, it just didn't make it somehow that makes me feel better. Now I just have to battle with mt DH about trying again. He said he was all for it now he thinks it's taking over our lives which isn't strictly true, I asked him to name things we don't do cos of TTC - he couldn't. I guess it's all the sex, poor man!

to all

 

[9babiesgone]

thanks rabbit. I feel the same way. i feel so left behind!! and so sad! I am trying so hard to be happy for all my pregnant friends, but yet. I cant be.

 

[SMFirst]

I was feeling sad and left behind too after I learned last week of another friend being pregnant, but then I got to thinking, well this pregnancy thing is just a big circle (as evidenced on this site) - girls get pregnant every day, so when our time comes to be pregnant there will be other girls pregnant nearby, and maybe through prenatal classes or other groups you will get to meet new and hopefully great friends

 

[cindersmcphee]

Hi
Just wanted to tell my story. lttc and waiting for ivf and fell pregnant but lost baby at 6 weeks at end July. Natural mc, spotted for 4 days and then bled. Fell pregnant again few months later. Had scan at 6week 4 days and was having twins. Saw two heartbeats. Had a red bleed at 9 weeks and scan showed only one baby. Had lost one of my twins. Had further scan at 11 weeks and baby was measuring as should and all well. Had loads morning sickness, bump growing and other pregnancy symptoms. Went for scan today and mmc, think baby died about 15 weeks but could have been a bit earlier as baby was curled up so difficult to measure. Have to go to hospital tomorrow to see what they are going to suggest as does not appear that nature is going to take its course.
I am in shock everything felt it was going so well after the sadness of losing the other baby earlier in the pregnancy. Not sure if they will refer me for testing as although really only two pregnancy have lost 3 babies at seperate points. I am also 38 so time not on my side. I was on waiting list for ivf and probably would have been due to start treatment around May this year but unsure if this will still go ahead now as I have managed to get pregnant on my own although not carried to full term. We were ttc for many many years prior to this year with no sign of bfp.

 

[petitpas]

Oh cinders so so sorry!
I'm not sure what the protocol is for 2nd tri losses. They are much more unusual. Definitely ask them whether and how they can find out the cause. There is a section on bnb just for later losses so maybe post the question there as well?
How far along would you have been now? Xxx

 

[stardust22]

Cinders, soooo sorry to hear your sad news. as petitpas said, try the other threads where someone will be able to help you out. in the meantime, I really really feel your pain and just hate how we are in this awful situation.

I am 36 soon and after 4 losses, I wonder if I will ever get there

9babies, Just sending you a great big hug, I know that feeling all too well....I feel very left behind this week. My sister is due in 4 weeks, all my friends and hubbys friends are are due and some are pregnant again with 2nd and we are still waiting!!! I feel angry, sad and peed right off sometimes. I feel like locking myself away and never seeing anyone again.

Sorry big rant, I know you get me and know you all understand though.
x

 

[Hollybush75]

Cinders - my story is eerily similar to yours. My 2nd pg was a twin and one died around 8 weeks, the other carried on to about 17 weeks. My Trust's (Cwm Taf) protocol for a second trimester loss is to refer to a consultant gynaecologist. I saw a wonderful man who was very sympathetic but didn't beat around the bush. He agreed to test me for antiphospholipid syndrome (sticky blood) which came back clear. He told me the next time I got pregnant to tell my GP/midwife to refer me to see him, which I did. He was wonderful again when he saw me at 7 weeks when my baby was okay then at 10 weeks when my baby had died. I can still hear his sigh when he could see my baby had died. He even came onto ward to see me the day I went in to complete the miscarriage.

He was the one who referred me to get my thyroid sorted (refused treatment in Jan 10 as classed as subclinical hypothyroidism) and I will be seeing him when I get pregnant again from the time I get BFP . I do feel very lucky to be under his care.

I hope you get as good treatment from your Trust xx

 

[petitpas]

Stacey, if you're not sure whether this is an old or a new pregnancy I think it would be a good idea to contact your doctor and ask for a blood test with a repeat a couple of days later. Fingers crossed it isn't bad news

 

[Chilli]

Lots to read since my last visit, very sad and I'm so sorry to see so many new people joining us.

We really need to lift our PMA in here, we WILL get there, it's just going to be a more difficult and longer journey for us, but when we get our babies we will love them all the more for the struggle it took. I've been hanging around here for 2 years now and I promise you that most of the other ladies have gone on and delivered hh babies: Peach Blossom, Widger, Fluffy Blue to name 3 that spring to mind. It's hard to believe in the darkest moments, but our time will come. I'm still waiting, I'm 40 in May, but I'm not giving up yet!

 

[want2bamum86]

well i am still classed as preg (again) as i had bleeding on friday went to hospital where i was told there was no heart beat. well my doc phoned me today to say that i do have a heart beat and she would like me to go for a scan next wed ( earliest one in my local hospital) so than nhs for making me think i wasnt preg no more

so fingers crossed i am still preg and everything is going to plan

hubby doent know how to feel bless him its hard to me so i hate to think how it is for him ( he has aspergers and form of autism) just for thoes who dnt know

sorry this is long

just wanted everyone to know what is going on with me atm i hope this is a sticky baby.

im holding my head high and thinking my baby will b ok

 

[Chilli]

want2be- that's great news, hope it's all just a big false alarm!

 

[want2bamum86]

yep getting all excited again lol like when u just get ur bfp its sooooo funny but scary at the same time

 

[fifi-folle]

That's terrible that they told you that! Fx for a v sticky bean!!!

To give some hope, after our 4 m/cs I am now almost 17 weeks and today heard the HB for the first time (worry got the better of me and I bought a doppler). Still a long way to go but making progress.

 

[9babiesgone]

I am getting frustrated, with this new regimen, the clomid gives me headaches, and the evo, makes my nauseous!! lol I really am going to stick with it, if it gives me a beautiful miracle! I can not wait till I can have sex again, so i can try. bc it will help with the loss,at least for me it will.

 

[9babiesgone]

congrats want tobe a mum, I am praying it sticks for you!

 

[want2bamum86]

thanx girls

 

[Chilli]

God help me, found out this morning I'm pg again. PLease let this one stay...