Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[want2bamum86]

congrats hunni xxx

 

[Lamburai1703]

God help me, found out this morning I'm pg again. PLease let this one stay...

Congratulations - I'm keeping everything crossed for you.

 

[Rabbittchild]

want2bamum and Chilli - have everything crossed for you both x

 

[TTC Again]

Stacey, if you're not sure whether this is an old or a new pregnancy I think it would be a good idea to contact your doctor and ask for a blood test with a repeat a couple of days later. Fingers crossed it isn't bad news

Thanks for your thoughts. I'm so confused. Part of me is wishful that we ARE PG again, but part of me is hoping we aren't because I don't want to lose another one again. It's so hard. Still testing + as of today at 30 days post D&C. When I mentioned to my doctor on Wednesday he seemed surprised and gave me a script for an HCG beta to have drawn next week. Guess time will tell.

Congrats to you ladies who have recently gotten your BFP! That is wonderful. And though I know it is scary, just enjoy the fact that TODAY you are pregnant and there is a life growing inside of you. That is a wonderful and amazing thing! We'll all pray for sticky baby dust for you!



- Stacey

 

[9babiesgone]

really last night was hard, to have to go about an street fair, and hear over and over again, about said persons pregnancy and have them mention it to every seller, that they were pregnant, and yet. I just lost my baby!! I REALLY AM DONE with heartless people. how can you not get that it might hurt? an d me being nice, just trying to change the subject but they dont take the hint. are people really that naive?

 

[want2bamum86]

aw hun u ok

 

[9babiesgone]

not really. not ok at all

 

[want2bamum86]

aw darling im here if u wanna chat

 

[9babiesgone]

thanks!!! I am just struggling really badly. and I am so sick of all myf riends getting pregnant but me and been unable to keep the house clean, and I feel lik ea big fat failure you know??!! it is one of those really hard days.

 

[want2bamum86]

i felt like that after each of my loses hun xxx my sis in law got preg after i lost josh was not happy i did go near my niece for bit. it does get easier and pls never give up

 

[9babiesgone]

I dont want ot give up. but my husband is being moody and saying he might want ot give up, so it made me so depressed. My last loss was hurting me so badly! and of course this friend of mine has to talk about it her pregnancy all last night.

 

[petitpas]

9babies, I think it's a case of either avoiding your friend or gently asking her to change the subject as you find what she is talking about upsetting. If she doesn't figure it out, point it out!
I hope tomorrow is a better day for you

PS: When I am upset I find housework just too overwhelming, too. You're not alone, 9babies xxx

 

[9babiesgone]

thanks I wish I could avoid her more, but my husband works with her. so it is hard to avoid!!! I tried pointing it out and he even mentioned to her, when I wasnt around not to talk about it bc it is a sensitive subject but she wouldnt stop!! so I am going to stop talking to her as much as I can.
thank you so much petitpas, your hugs and support make me feel better!!
xxxx hugs back

 

[LeeC]

Hi All.

It's been a few days since I posted now so thought I would give an update.
The scan on Tuesday was still inconclusive bood was called and told hcg levels in blood had not doubled.

I was asked to go back to EPAS on Thursday when they scanned and even thoughh there were what looked like 2 small sacs in the womb it was confirmed that my pregnancy was ectopic, and that the pregnancy was around 2.5cm in my right tube.

The tube was damaged so had this removed on Thursday and just got home from hospital today after practically having a breakdown on the ward this morning

I am absolutely devastated and in some much pain both physically and emotionally.

So after 2 weeks of living in limbo land I'm afraid I don't get my happy ending.

This little angel has gone to join my other little angels, RIP babies xxxxxx

 

[Lamburai1703]

Oh my goodness Lee. I am so sorry sweetie. I can't imagine what you're going through honey and I hope you find the strength you need to get through this.

 

[LeeC]

Hi Lamburai and thanks, this one has been extremely difficult because of the long and drawn out process I went through.

It's so hard to keep going, honestly it really is, I'm really struggling with my emotions, but I know that I have to keep going otherwise all of this heartache will have been in vain.
I'm hoping I'll feel strong again soon, but it's been very traumatic and laying in a hospital bed surrounding by pregnant women is no fun not to mention the attitude of some of the so called specialist, but I'm probably feeling slightly bitter at thre moment.

Chilli - massive congratulations, I will be keeping everything crossed for you xxx

 

[LunaBean]

Im so sorry Lee xxx

 

[LeeC]

Thank you Lunabean.
Life really can suck eh

 

[Lamburai1703]

It never ceases to amaze me that they put women going through miscarriages etc on the same wards as heavily pregnant women. I really wish they would show a bit more sensitivity.

I am well and truly fed up tonight. I "usually" ov around cd21 and today is cd20 and the bloody CBFM is still giving me lows. I might smash it to bits to make myself feel better! It now seems as well as being unable to carry a baby, I can't even get pregnant. Boo and hiss.

*strops off to get a glass of wine*

 

[Rabbittchild]

LeeC, Im so sorry to hear your news I'm so sorry this isn't a happy ending this time. I want to give you a big and hope you get through this x x x

Lambs - am joining you in the wine - DH is refusing to discuss trying again this cycle and it's CD15 I have less than 7 days to convince him before I might ov *sigh*