????s about 16 week fetus

[honeybunch2k7]

Hi, I have a few questions, namely for someone who had a loss around 16 weeks.

If you were in a hospital, did they let you see and hold the baby?

Do you think a 16 week fetus is too small for handprints and footprints?

 

[Drazic<3]

im sorry, i really dont know the answers, but i wanted to give you a hug

 

[mjbazz]

hi im not sure about the answers but at 16weeks the baby us fully formed so i cant see why hand and footprints arnt allowed also i should think you can hold the baby aswwell,

x x x x

 

[NickyT75]

You would be able to see & hold the baby if thats what you wanted.

It would depend how soon before delivery the baby had died - You'd probably be able to get footprints but the body would probably be too fragile for handprints.

(I lost my daughter @ 19wks - she was born alive & I still only got footprints) hope this helps xx

 

[Always&amp;4ever]

I'm so sorry *hugs*

 

[daniella00]

Hi,
I miscarried at 17 weeks+ 4 days and got hand and foot prints and pictures of the baby (we were having a girl).
Hope that helps

xx

 

[Snowball]

I lost Beau at 21 week and I was offered to see him but I declined. I didn't get handprints and footprints either something I wished I'd have asked for now

Thinking of you hun

 

[honeybunch2k7]

Thanks everybody.

I asked because I called the hospital-I spoke to both one of the ER nurses and the chief nurse,-and they both hinted that it's not really baby-like at 16 weeks and that footprints/handprints arent appropriate for every state. Maybe not, but 16 wks??? I was not even offered the opportunity to hold my baby. I probably couldn't ask b/c I was doped up on Demerol I didn't even request.

I also complained that I never found out the gender (my prenatal appointment was a few days later and I hadn't realized I was even preggo for 1/2 the time). The er nurse I spoke to said that it wouldn't be a sure thing if they could tell the gender or not. My thing is if I can look at the ultrasound pics, and clearly see bones, and this baby is waking me up at night, it's probably be developed enough to either have a hamburger or frank and beans!!!!

 

[daniella00]

Hi
I dont know how it works with you, but here they dont do anything with the baby until you tell them what you want to happen.
We had a our little girl cremated and me and my partner went on our own to the crematorium to say goodbye. He carried the coffin down.
I had to ask the sex of my baby and she said it is hard to tell at this stage (i was nearly 18 weeks) but she said the baby was a girl.
We had the 'funeral' two weeks after i miscarried.
Will you be having a follow up appointment to tell you what happened?

Thinking of you

xxx

 

[daniella00]

I lost Beau at 21 week and I was offered to see him but I declined. I didn't get handprints and footprints either something I wished I'd have asked for now

Thinking of you hun

My hospital did the hand and footprints without me asking. It must be their policy orsomething, it was only when i rang for my follow up appointment that i found out they had prints and pictures for me!

x

 

[Hevz]

Thanks everybody.

I asked because I called the hospital-I spoke to both one of the ER nurses and the chief nurse,-and they both hinted that it's not really baby-like at 16 weeks

Maybe not to them but it sure was to you

 

[honeybunch2k7]

Hi
I dont know how it works with you, but here they dont do anything with the baby until you tell them what you want to happen.
We had a our little girl cremated and me and my partner went on our own to the crematorium to say goodbye. He carried the coffin down.
I had to ask the sex of my baby and she said it is hard to tell at this stage (i was nearly 18 weeks) but she said the baby was a girl.
We had the 'funeral' two weeks after i miscarried.
Will you be having a follow up appointment to tell you what happened?

Thinking of you

xxx

No, there will be no follow up appointment.

I found out that they do have these rituals, but I fell thru the cracks somehow, and I'm sure part of the reason was the age of the fetus.

I sincerely hope that women at that hospital don't have to ask b/c some women go into shock and just can think. Not to mention that some hospitals will load you up with demerol without asking you (they did that to me).

I think if I mc again I will try to do it at home.

 

[Sweetie]

I'm so sorry that you were lost in the cracks. I will be thinking of you and your family

 

[loz]

hi, i gavebirth to my baby at 18wks but baby was only 13-15wks when she died and even though she was small she was fully formed and looked just like a mini baby, we held her in a blanket as she was fragile. we was asked if we wanted to have foot prints but they was only about the size ov my thumb nail so i did not have them done but they took some pictures for us to keep.

 

[daniella00]

Hi
I dont know how it works with you, but here they dont do anything with the baby until you tell them what you want to happen.
We had a our little girl cremated and me and my partner went on our own to the crematorium to say goodbye. He carried the coffin down.
I had to ask the sex of my baby and she said it is hard to tell at this stage (i was nearly 18 weeks) but she said the baby was a girl.
We had the 'funeral' two weeks after i miscarried.
Will you be having a follow up appointment to tell you what happened?

Thinking of you

xxx

No, there will be no follow up appointment.

I found out that they do have these rituals, but I fell thru the cracks somehow, and I'm sure part of the reason was the age of the fetus.

I sincerely hope that women at that hospital don't have to ask b/c some women go into shock and just can think. Not to mention that some hospitals will load you up with demerol without asking you (they did that to me).

I think if I mc again I will try to do it at home.

Thats so horrid, dod they tell you the reason why you miscarried?
Thinking of you

xxx

 

[honeybunch2k7]

Hi
I dont know how it works with you, but here they dont do anything with the baby until you tell them what you want to happen.
We had a our little girl cremated and me and my partner went on our own to the crematorium to say goodbye. He carried the coffin down.
I had to ask the sex of my baby and she said it is hard to tell at this stage (i was nearly 18 weeks) but she said the baby was a girl.
We had the 'funeral' two weeks after i miscarried.
Will you be having a follow up appointment to tell you what happened?

Thinking of you

xxx

No, there will be no follow up appointment.

I found out that they do have these rituals, but I fell thru the cracks somehow, and I'm sure part of the reason was the age of the fetus.

I sincerely hope that women at that hospital don't have to ask b/c some women go into shock and just can think. Not to mention that some hospitals will load you up with demerol without asking you (they did that to me).

I think if I mc again I will try to do it at home.

Thats so horrid, dod they tell you the reason why you miscarried?
Thinking of you

xxx

They told me the baby probably implanted to low. I dont' think there was anything physically wrong with the babe. He/she had a strong healthy heartbeat til the end.

 

[Drazic<3]

I dont know what to say.
i just want to give you loads of

 

[cepabk]

I lost mine at about 16 wks but didn't know till 20 wks. I got pics, handprints, footprints. I don't know the cause- DNA test was normal, but everything seemed to be infected/inflamed (fluid, placenta, cord, etc), but that might have been because it was just sitting there decomposing for 4 weeks. I just wish I knew what happened.