Scared to death of this baby!

[NewMommy17]

Hey Samantha Welcome To BnB. I'm Raven 28 weeks +1day prego . Congrats on your pregnancy Its important to let someone know know about your pregnancy before its to late . Trust me 9 times out of 10 telling your parents/parent isn't as bad how we think it will be . Its just the fear and the bad things you think will happen . Also i wouldn't say it was a mistake maybe rather not planned its nothing wrong with that . Get to a doctor soon if your planning on keeping your Lo you will need to get started on your prenatal vitamins and prenatal care as its best for the baby .

 

[hot tea]

There are tons of options for you. There is adoption, and if you feel this is right morally, even abortion. There are people who can help you, no matter what you feel is right for you. Having a baby young is very very difficult, but you can do it! It is a huge committment, it is terrifying, it means long nights up and the rest of your life responsible for someone else. I had my first at 17 and I know how tough this is. I fully understand how you feel.

It is absolutely CRUCIAL you tell an adult, who can give you a clear view of your options. Your parents can help. I know it is scary, but they can and they will if you give them the chance. Sitting frozen will not change the fact a little one is growing inside you.

I don't think we are meant to talk about that on here.. Remember we are all pro-life.

The best thing you can do is talk to someone, and a doctor to discuss your options. Telling your parents might be hard but you will feel 100x better when they know and they can support you.

Really??? You mean on all of BNB? That seems so insane to me!! I am pro choice personally...

 

[KiwiMOM]

I'm sure she meant BnB is a pro-life website, understandable that they don't want threads about abortions. But obviously they can't stop members from being pro-choice.

 

[ssamantha]

They just don't want us talking about it on the forums, I think. I understand why it'd be offensive to some people.

 

[hot tea]

Oh okay, now I understand. I guess it helps stop a lot of bashing, people coming ontothe forums with the intention of only causing huge abortion arguements etc.

Forget I said anything then. Obviously I would not abort, lol...

 

[ssamantha]

Well, don't worry, it didn't upset me. Forget what I said about it too. I know it's an option, so I'm good.

 

[youngmummy94]

Ooo sorry I didn't mean to come across as rude, just I think in the rules it says we can't talk about it, cause it causes huge debates that can turn really nasty,

 

[nicolefx]

I know it's hard but you really have to tell someone soon, be it your mum or an older relative. You also have to go to the doctors and discuss all your options before you decide what you really want to do. The best advice I can give you is don't let anyone else make your decision for you - it's your body and your life and whatever decision you make must be the right one for you. Getting pregnant is not the end of the world no matter what you choose to do . Good luck sweetie xxx

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

First off you need to tell your parents, then you need to work out what is best for you. Things seem a bit huge and scary at the moment, but you need to allow yourself time to get your head around things. Get on the phone to your doctor and get sorting, and get yourself on some pregnacare or something similar. The health of your unborn child is at stake. Telling your parents is something every girl here can relate too, it's always scary, but it has to be done and you need to take responsibility for your actions.

On the topic of the 'a' word. It is not appropriate to be spoken about on here as it can be offensive to those who have lost babies through miscarraige and stillborns. I'm sure everyone can understand that. That is the rules, if you want to talk about the 'A' word privately then do so via PMs etc.

EDIT: By the way, I'm Laura, I'm 20, I have a 2 year old daughter and an 8 month old son.

 

[rhdr9193..x]

Hey. Hope your doing ok. It is a worrying time but if you ever Wana talk feel free to email or pm me. I'm 11 weeks and 18, so a little older than you but I do know how you feel. I still haven't told my parents but am lucky to have a supportive boyfriend who is helping me a lot. My first scan is on the 6th october and I think I'm gonna tell em then. Make sure you do tell your boyfriend, they are a lot of help xxx

 

[Elizax]

Double post

 

[Elizax]

So, I feel like a huge idiot because I accidentally posted this as a reply to another completely unrelated thread! I was reading the thread and didn't realize that I had his reply to that instead of starting a new thread. I can't think straight at all. I don't get much sleep because I'm constantly thinking about being pregnant/the baby/everything else that I've screwed up.

I've finally worked up the courage to registere here and post something. I've come here a few times since I found out I was pregnant, but I always got too nervous to participate. I don't know why.

Anyway, my name is Samantha and I'm 16. I found out I was pregnant 3 weeks ago. I haven't been to the doctor yet, mainly because I haven't told my parents. I used an online calcultor and it puts me at around 9 weeks, but that's only with my estimations because I can't remember the exact dates of anything. I'm just really scared and it's all I can think about. I just sit there all day at school thinking about it, not paying attention to anything else. I don't know what to do. I don't want anyone to know. I don't want them to think I'm one of those girls that wanted to get pregnant at 16. I don't want this at all. I've only ever been with one guy and this was a complete accident. I don't know who to talk to about it, I just need someone whose been there.

Don't ever feel scared to post here hun, theres loads of lovely girls here who love to offer advice and help

First of all you should really go to the doctors to get prenatal vitamins sorted out and get all the tests to make sure everything is okay I really would encourage this.

I know it's the scariest thing in the world to tell your parents, but who are they to judge you? Just cause you're 16 it doesn't mean your life is over and you can't bring up a child just as good as anyone else.
Yes they will be dissapointed at first what parent isn't, you're still there little baby after all.

You should tell them and talk about it, I don't think your going to stop worrying until you do. Wishing you all the best with everything

Really??? You mean on all of BNB? That seems so insane to me!! I am pro choice personally...

Yes hun we don't use the A word, this is an absolute pro life forum

 

[Cassie_x]

I was 17 when I found out I was pregnant with the twins, 18 when they were born. It's just my Dad, but once I'd told him, I felt so much happier. He wasn't thrilled, but he was there (if you know what I mean )! Seriously hun, you need to tell someone.

My boyfriend was excited, especially when he found out we were having two boys! My true friends were supportive, one of which I'm now engaged too (Lewis).

Adoption is always an option, but I'm sure you'll make the right choice, Sam. Good luck. I'm just a PM away if you need me xxx

 

[ssamantha]

Thanks to everbody for your advice.

I know I need to go to the doctor. I don't even know how far along I am. I just don't think I can go until I tell my parents, or they'll find out through the insurance.

NO matter what I say, my parents will say I'm too young to be a parent. They're probably right. I've never even had a job. They do everything for me. One reason why I'm scared to tell them is that I know everything they say will be right.

Can't I buy prenatal vitamins at the store without a prescription?

Also, is it normal for my boobs to hurt this early on. I woke up today and they hurt sooooo much, I wince when my arm even brushes them.

 

[Elizax]

Thanks to everbody for your advice.

I know I need to go to the doctor. I don't even know how far along I am. I just don't think I can go until I tell my parents, or they'll find out through the insurance.

NO matter what I say, my parents will say I'm too young to be a parent. They're probably right. I've never even had a job. They do everything for me. One reason why I'm scared to tell them is that I know everything they say will be right.

Can't I buy prenatal vitamins at the store without a prescription?

Also, is it normal for my boobs to hurt this early on. I woke up today and they hurt sooooo much, I wince when my arm even brushes them.

I really do hope you tell them sooner rather than later so you can get all the tests and checkups to ensure you and baby are doing just fine

And you can but wouldn't you rather get them for free?

 

[ssamantha]

Thanks to everbody for your advice.

I know I need to go to the doctor. I don't even know how far along I am. I just don't think I can go until I tell my parents, or they'll find out through the insurance.

NO matter what I say, my parents will say I'm too young to be a parent. They're probably right. I've never even had a job. They do everything for me. One reason why I'm scared to tell them is that I know everything they say will be right.

Can't I buy prenatal vitamins at the store without a prescription?

Also, is it normal for my boobs to hurt this early on. I woke up today and they hurt sooooo much, I wince when my arm even brushes them.

I really do hope you tell them sooner rather than later so you can get all the tests and checkups to ensure you and baby are doing just fine

And you can but wouldn't you rather get them for free?

Well, someone said I should go to the doctor by 10 wks. I think I'm around 9 wks now. I have a little longer before I have to tell them.

I don't think I'll get them completely for free. Insurance doesn't cover 100% of things. I think it's different in the UK?

 

[x__amour]

Hi love, welcome to BnB and congratulations on your pregnancy. I'm Shannon, 19 and I have a 10 month old named Victoria (Tori)!

I know you're stressed but we're all here to support you. I know you've posted another thread saying you were going to tell your boyfriend but it's important your parents know as well. They may be disappointed, maybe even angry at first but know they love you to death and everything'll be okay in the end.

As for parenting, I think it's one of the most rewarding things ever regardless of age. But if you do decide for adoption, that is one of the most selfless, beautiful things someone can do.

Do you live in the US? If you go to a Planned Parenthood, they can give you prenatals for free. If not, any store has prenatal vitamins, even gummy ones, lol!

I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months and feel free to PM me if you ever need a chat or a vent.

 

[Vickie]

The forum rules and TOS explain why we ask that abortion not be discussed on the forum:

While BabyandBump tries to remain pro-choice on most subjects, out of respect for majority of our members that are either trying to conceive, or pregnant, we ask that you do not discuss topics on abortion and terminations outside of the 'Ethical Prenatal Losses' forum.

Please no more talk of abortion or I will have to close this thread

 

[mamawannabee]

As the other girls have said, you really need to tell your parents and get prenatal care as soon as possible. My first appointment was at 6 weeks, as was my first u/s and bloodwork. I don't want to say this to scare you, but the first time I got pg, I was 15 and received no prenatal care because I was too afraid to tell anyone. I lost the baby at the end of the first trimester, and will always blame myself for not getting care and getting on vitamins before that. I was terrified, and don't know if it could have been prevented, but I will always blame myself as I think it could have been prevented.

My point is, no matter how scary it seems, you need to let your parents know, or at least a trusted adult who can get you the help you need. We are all here to support you, and for most of the girls on here, telling their parents was not as bad as they thought it would be. For me, this pregnancy was planned and I am now 19, and telling my father was still scary. I don't live with him, and don't see him much, but I was terrified of his reaction, I was shocked to see him crying and excited when I told him. For most people, it is hard to not be excited about a baby, and even if they are mad at first, often they come around. PM me if you ever want, I hope that helped a bit.

 

[ssamantha]

As the other girls have said, you really need to tell your parents and get prenatal care as soon as possible. My first appointment was at 6 weeks, as was my first u/s and bloodwork. I don't want to say this to scare you, but the first time I got pg, I was 15 and received no prenatal care because I was too afraid to tell anyone. I lost the baby at the end of the first trimester, and will always blame myself for not getting care and getting on vitamins before that. I was terrified, and don't know if it could have been prevented, but I will always blame myself as I think it could have been prevented.

My point is, no matter how scary it seems, you need to let your parents know, or at least a trusted adult who can get you the help you need. We are all here to support you, and for most of the girls on here, telling their parents was not as bad as they thought it would be. For me, this pregnancy was planned and I am now 19, and telling my father was still scary. I don't live with him, and don't see him much, but I was terrified of his reaction, I was shocked to see him crying and excited when I told him. For most people, it is hard to not be excited about a baby, and even if they are mad at first, often they come around. PM me if you ever want, I hope that helped a bit.

Thanks. I know I have to go to the doctor. I told my boyfriend that I was pregnant today. So, now I even have him telling me that I have to go to the doctor. I'm going to try to tell my parents this week.