Scared to death of this baby!

[Elizax]

Well, someone said I should go to the doctor by 10 wks. I think I'm around 9 wks now. I have a little longer before I have to tell them.

I don't think I'll get them completely for free. Insurance doesn't cover 100% of things. I think it's different in the UK?

Where do you live, I'm from the UK.
Your first booking appointment is normally at 10 weeks yes, but you normally have to do a pee test first and then wait a couple of days for the results before they let you see a midwife. But if you're from the US then idk.

I'm not trying to push you, I just want you and baby to be looked after and sorted as best as possible. I just think a lot of your worrys and stress are because you haven't talked to your parents about it yet that's all

 

[youngmummy94]

I'm from aus, and I went to the doctors for a pee test and a blood test. They then gave me a referral letter for my hospital and I had to book in with them for my antenatel appointments, my first one was at 14 weeks. BUT, the most important time for vitamins is the first trimester. So really try not to wait, you only want the best for your LO!

 

[ssamantha]

Well, someone said I should go to the doctor by 10 wks. I think I'm around 9 wks now. I have a little longer before I have to tell them.

I don't think I'll get them completely for free. Insurance doesn't cover 100% of things. I think it's different in the UK?

Where do you live, I'm from the UK.
Your first booking appointment is normally at 10 weeks yes, but you normally have to do a pee test first and then wait a couple of days for the results before they let you see a midwife. But if you're from the US then idk.

I'm not trying to push you, I just want you and baby to be looked after and sorted as best as possible. I just think a lot of your worrys and stress are because you haven't talked to your parents about it yet that's all

I'm in the US.

You're probably right. But I don't know what's worse, the stress of not telling them, or the aftermath of when I tell them.

 

[Elizax]

I'm in the US.

You're probably right. But I don't know what's worse, the stress of not telling them, or the aftermath of when I tell them.

No stress is good during pregnancy, but how do you know your parents wont actually be relieved you told them so they can help you/advise you on what's best.
We've all had to be brave and break the news and I know it's scary especially for us younger girls, but your parents might just surprise you.
Wish you lots and lots of luck for when you do feel it's the right time to tell them

 

[ssamantha]

I'm in the US.

You're probably right. But I don't know what's worse, the stress of not telling them, or the aftermath of when I tell them.

No stress is good during pregnancy, but how do you know your parents wont actually be relieved you told them so they can help you/advise you on what's best.
We've all had to be brave and break the news and I know it's scary especially for us younger girls, but your parents might just surprise you.
Wish you lots and lots of luck for when you do feel it's the right time to tell them

Well, I guess the rather I tell them now instead of waiting until I'm half way through my pregnancy, but that definitely won't be the first thing they think of! I think eventually they'll probably come around, but they won't be happy about it at all for a long time. My mom probably won't even want to tell anyone because she'll be so embarassed.

 

[Elizax]

Well, I guess the rather I tell them now instead of waiting until I'm half way through my pregnancy, but that definitely won't be the first thing they think of! I think eventually they'll probably come around, but they won't be happy about it at all for a long time. My mom probably won't even want to tell anyone because she'll be so embarassed.

Definitely, my mam was so mad and dissapointed at first but eventually after a couple of weeks she came around and started getting excited

Aw sweetie well you always have us here to talk to about anything if you need it, even if it's just to get a rant off your chest we're here to support each other.
Tell them when you feel most comfortable too but don't leave it too late.
I hope you can come back and tell us some good news about how it went

 

[ssamantha]

Well, I guess the rather I tell them now instead of waiting until I'm half way through my pregnancy, but that definitely won't be the first thing they think of! I think eventually they'll probably come around, but they won't be happy about it at all for a long time. My mom probably won't even want to tell anyone because she'll be so embarassed.

Definitely, my mam was so mad and dissapointed at first but eventually after a couple of weeks she came around and started getting excited

Aw sweetie well you always have us here to talk to about anything if you need it, even if it's just to get a rant off your chest we're here to support each other.
Tell them when you feel most comfortable too but don't leave it too late.
I hope you can come back and tell us some good news about how it went

I don't think my parents will come around or be excited after a few weeks. It'll take longer than that. They might come around and be supportive of me, but it's really hard to picture them being excited about it for a very long time.

I'm sorry I just keep talking in circles. I know everyone's trying to give me good advice. I know I need to tell them. I just can't seem to force myself to do it yet. I'm just trying to give myself a little bit of time. It took all I had to tell my boyfriend yesterday, and I'd been keeping it from him for 3 weeks. I wasn't near as worried about telling him as I am about telling my parents. Sometimes I feel like this part will be even harder than when I actually have the baby...if I do that.

 

[nicolefx]

Well, I guess the rather I tell them now instead of waiting until I'm half way through my pregnancy, but that definitely won't be the first thing they think of! I think eventually they'll probably come around, but they won't be happy about it at all for a long time. My mom probably won't even want to tell anyone because she'll be so embarassed.

Definitely, my mam was so mad and dissapointed at first but eventually after a couple of weeks she came around and started getting excited

Aw sweetie well you always have us here to talk to about anything if you need it, even if it's just to get a rant off your chest we're here to support each other.
Tell them when you feel most comfortable too but don't leave it too late.
I hope you can come back and tell us some good news about how it went

I don't think my parents will come around or be excited after a few weeks. It'll take longer than that. They might come around and be supportive of me, but it's really hard to picture them being excited about it for a very long time.

I'm sorry I just keep talking in circles. I know everyone's trying to give me good advice. I know I need to tell them. I just can't seem to force myself to do it yet. I'm just trying to give myself a little bit of time. It took all I had to tell my boyfriend yesterday, and I'd been keeping it from him for 3 weeks. I wasn't near as worried about telling him as I am about telling my parents. Sometimes I feel like this part will be even harder than when I actually have the baby...if I do that.

I thought my mum would disown me, I honestly did, I was terrified to tell her at first but after I had confirmed it at the doctors I just buckled down and done it. She was amazingly supportive and we have became much closer. I was like you and I was unsure about what choice I was going to make but she was so supportive and as much as she gave me her opinion she also said whatever choice you make has to be yours because it will be you who has to live with it at the end of the day. I know it's slightly different because I am slightly older (18) and OH is 23 but ovbiously I am still a teenager and a child to her but you never know - the best thing about thinking all these bad things about their reaction is that your thinking of the worst case scenario and they might well surprise you . xxx

 

[ellebelle]

Do you have any family you can tell?
My pregnancy was an accident and although I am joyful now, when I first found out it was terrifying.
It was TORTURE keeping it to myself. If you have a cousin or a friend you can tell it will help, even just to get your thoughts in order and have someone for support.

I should add too, I was 25 when I got pregnant and even I was too scared to tell my parents. I didn't tell them for 3 or 4 weeks and it took me over a week to tell the daddy, I thought they would all be so upset.

 

[kittycat18]

Hey Samantha. Welcome to BNB and Congratulations on your pregnancy
My name is Chloé, I am 18 years old, I have been with my OH for just 2 and a half years and we have a 9+3 week old daughter called Lucia. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in April 2010 and never told my parents about it because I was absolutely terrified of their reaction. With this pregnancy, I told my parents between 12 and 13 gestational weeks and I honestly thought they were going to kick me out. But to my complete shock they were amazing about it. I felt so guilty for waiting so long to tell them because it added to my stress worrying about their possible reaction! Both times me and my OH were using contraception but hey, what can I say... Conor has super sperm

We wouldn't change our little girl for the world and although it was absolutely devastating at the time, it got better and now we don't regret a thing. You should just bite the bullet and get it over and done with hunni xx

 

[ssamantha]

Do you have any family you can tell?
My pregnancy was an accident and although I am joyful now, when I first found out it was terrifying.
It was TORTURE keeping it to myself. If you have a cousin or a friend you can tell it will help, even just to get your thoughts in order and have someone for support.

I should add too, I was 25 when I got pregnant and even I was too scared to tell my parents. I didn't tell them for 3 or 4 weeks and it took me over a week to tell the daddy, I thought they would all be so upset.

I don't have anyone that I feel comfortable telling. I told my boyfriend and even though he's terrified of my parents' reactions, he told me I can't wait forever to tell them.

 

[ssamantha]

Hey Samantha. Welcome to BNB and Congratulations on your pregnancy
My name is Chloé, I am 18 years old, I have been with my OH for just 2 and a half years and we have a 9+3 week old daughter called Lucia. I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in April 2010 and never told my parents about it because I was absolutely terrified of their reaction. With this pregnancy, I told my parents between 12 and 13 gestational weeks and I honestly thought they were going to kick me out. But to my complete shock they were amazing about it. I felt so guilty for waiting so long to tell them because it added to my stress worrying about their possible reaction! Both times me and my OH were using contraception but hey, what can I say... Conor has super sperm

We wouldn't change our little girl for the world and although it was absolutely devastating at the time, it got better and now we don't regret a thing. You should just bite the bullet and get it over and done with hunni xx

At least I know my parents won't kick me out. I don't have it that bad, thankfully. I know they'll ask how it happened...or how I let it happen. We were using condoms, but we didn't use one a few times. I knew the consequences, but took them anyway. Now I could kill myself for taking the chance. My parents will be even more upset with me when they find out it wasn't truly an accident, like a condom tearing or something.

Your baby is really cute, btw. I can't really think about this "thing" as a baby yet.

 

[kittycat18]

At least I know my parents won't kick me out. I don't have it that bad, thankfully. I know they'll ask how it happened...or how I let it happen. We were using condoms, but we didn't use one a few times. I knew the consequences, but took them anyway. Now I could kill myself for taking the chance. My parents will be even more upset with me when they find out it wasn't truly an accident, like a condom tearing or something.

Your baby is really cute, btw. I can't really think about this "thing" as a baby yet.

I know lying isn't a good thing but there is nothing wrong with a little white lie every now and again. You don't have to tell your parents that you didn't use contraception. Just tell them you did and obviously in broke during sex without you noticing Be honest with them and tell them how terrified you are of being pregnant. Tell them that you need the support and that you can do this! Trust me, everything will be ok in the end!

Thank you. She is getting so big already! x

 

[Elizax]

At least I know my parents won't kick me out. I don't have it that bad, thankfully. I know they'll ask how it happened...or how I let it happen. We were using condoms, but we didn't use one a few times. I knew the consequences, but took them anyway. Now I could kill myself for taking the chance. My parents will be even more upset with me when they find out it wasn't truly an accident, like a condom tearing or something.

Your baby is really cute, btw. I can't really think about this "thing" as a baby yet.

Parents never believe you when you say you were using protection anyway, well my mam didn't I got the whole 'the pill is flawless, and so is the condom... if you even used one!'

I couldn't wrap my head around it at first either, but once I saw that little tiny human being at my 12 week scan, his little heart beating and his arms and legs stretching all over the place I absolutely fell in love.
Hopefully you all can work things out and eventually enjoy your pregnancy with the support of both the FOB and your parents

 

[kittycat18]

I couldn't wrap my head around it at first either, but once I saw that little tiny human being at my 12 week scan, his little heart beating and his arms and legs stretching all over the place I absolutely fell in love.

This is 100% correct. We were devastated at the beginning but it honestly really hit us after the Booking Appointment and Dating Scan at 11+2 weeks. It is an amazing feeling to see your little baby wriggling around

 

[KiwiMOM]

I couldn't wrap my head around it at first either, but once I saw that little tiny human being at my 12 week scan, his little heart beating and his arms and legs stretching all over the place I absolutely fell in love.

This is 100% correct. We were devastated at the beginning but it honestly really hit us after the Booking Appointment and Dating Scan at 11+2 weeks. It is an amazing feeling to see your little baby wriggling around

I can't stop looking at my scan pictures, even my OH who is terrified proudly showed his mum the photos the moment she got through our front door after our scan. I think he's pretty proud of himself

 

[jay004]

So, I feel like a huge idiot because I accidentally posted this as a reply to another completely unrelated thread! I was reading the thread and didn't realize that I had his reply to that instead of starting a new thread. I can't think straight at all. I don't get much sleep because I'm constantly thinking about being pregnant/the baby/everything else that I've screwed up.

I've finally worked up the courage to registere here and post something. I've come here a few times since I found out I was pregnant, but I always got too nervous to participate. I don't know why.

Anyway, my name is Samantha and I'm 16. I found out I was pregnant 3 weeks ago. I haven't been to the doctor yet, mainly because I haven't told my parents. I used an online calcultor and it puts me at around 9 weeks, but that's only with my estimations because I can't remember the exact dates of anything. I'm just really scared and it's all I can think about. I just sit there all day at school thinking about it, not paying attention to anything else. I don't know what to do. I don't want anyone to know. I don't want them to think I'm one of those girls that wanted to get pregnant at 16. I don't want this at all. I've only ever been with one guy and this was a complete accident. I don't know who to talk to about it, I just need someone whose been there.

Samantha, first off... hi

I know eactly what your feeling to a T. I am 17, just found I'm pregnant two weeks ago and broke the news to my dad last night.

I'm scared of EVERYTHING. Getting larger, giving birth. The whole deal. And now that my parents know, it feels like my world is crashing.

In the end, I know everything will be ok though. And it will be the same for you. xxxx

 

[ssamantha]

So, I feel like a huge idiot because I accidentally posted this as a reply to another completely unrelated thread! I was reading the thread and didn't realize that I had his reply to that instead of starting a new thread. I can't think straight at all. I don't get much sleep because I'm constantly thinking about being pregnant/the baby/everything else that I've screwed up.

I've finally worked up the courage to registere here and post something. I've come here a few times since I found out I was pregnant, but I always got too nervous to participate. I don't know why.

Anyway, my name is Samantha and I'm 16. I found out I was pregnant 3 weeks ago. I haven't been to the doctor yet, mainly because I haven't told my parents. I used an online calcultor and it puts me at around 9 weeks, but that's only with my estimations because I can't remember the exact dates of anything. I'm just really scared and it's all I can think about. I just sit there all day at school thinking about it, not paying attention to anything else. I don't know what to do. I don't want anyone to know. I don't want them to think I'm one of those girls that wanted to get pregnant at 16. I don't want this at all. I've only ever been with one guy and this was a complete accident. I don't know who to talk to about it, I just need someone whose been there.

Samantha, first off... hi

I know eactly what your feeling to a T. I am 17, just found I'm pregnant two weeks ago and broke the news to my dad last night.

I'm scared of EVERYTHING. Getting larger, giving birth. The whole deal. And now that my parents know, it feels like my world is crashing.

In the end, I know everything will be ok though. And it will be the same for you. xxxx

Thanks. It's nice to know I'm not the only one.

Today at school I was really distracted, thinking about how I'll tell my parents. I basically figured out exactly what I'd say. I started to feel really brave, thinking I'd tell them tonight. As soon as I got home, I realized I probably won't be that brave tonight!

 

[xx_Holli_xx]

hello hun im holli im 16 and 27 weeks pregnant keep your head held high and please feel free to message me anytime

 

[jay004]

School sucks during these early weeks, majorly. I'm so sick of being sick to my stomach and not being able to concentrate at all!

What'd you end up coming up with for your parents? Mine found out kinda unexpectedly, but I'm glad it's over with. My dad thinks I should get an abortion which really hurts for some reason.