September Sweet Peas (Our 2015 Rainbows)

[maryanne1987]

Can I ask all you ladies a question? How did you all cope in the time leading up to the weeks of your previous losses. I'm about three weeks from the point I lost my little daughter and I'm becoming increasingly anxious and very over emotional. I mean to the point people close to me keep asking me what's wrong. I just feel a bit of a mess and I'm so worried even though I know logically the chances of it happening again are pretty much zero. Did any of you have a way to help you cope with it? Sorry for the depressing post. Just needed some advice from other ladies who have been in a similar position.

 

[carebear1981]

I'm sorry I don't have much advice on that one maryanne. My loss was due to being an ectopic so the best thing for me was that first scan which told me the baby was in the right spot. I was really nervous leading up to it and cried my eyes out when she told me everything was in the right spot. I can't even begin to imagine a later loss. Hope you can stay positive and keep telling yourself it is very unlikely to happen again

 

[Christi85]

Maryanne - I'm very sorry you're feeling this way I think the later the loss, the worse the pain.
My loss was a blighted ovum discovered at 7 weeks (but not confirmed until the end of week 8). Basically the baby never developed or stopped developing really early on, before it was visible on ultrasound. It was weird because I had a first scan at 5 weeks to confirm an intrauterine pregnancy, and even though all we could see at that point was a sac, my doctor wasn't concerned in the slightest. He even told me all was looking great. He had me come back two weeks later, at which point a fetal pole and a heart beat should have been visible, but all we saw was an empty sac that had grown and looked healthy, but no baby in it. Same with all subsequent scans, until I was sure enough there wasn't going to be a baby and decided to schedule a D&C (had it at 8w6d and I even asked for a last scan the morning of the procedure). It was devastating and also weird - my betas started out low but then increased at a very normal pace and the sac would grow at every single scan, but never a baby. So for me, much like Carebear, it was a big relief once we saw a fetal pole with a heart beat early on (at 6w2d in this pregnancy) - at least I knew there was a baby in there this time. That being said, I didn't really stop worrying about an early miscarriage until I had my NT scan at 13 weeks. I still worry sometimes and I don't take anything for granted, but at least now I know I'm past the most critical part. In those early weeks, I kept myself emotionally distant from my pregnancy - not something I did on purpose, just a defense mechanism I think.

The only suggestion I have is for you to keep reminding yourself that your daughter's loss was more due to bad luck that is unlikely to happen again, than anything else. And just try to be patient and remind yourself that you're only a couple weeks away from being able to breathe a sigh of relief. Not too long now! Big hugs

 

[maryanne1987]

Thanks so much ladies. I really appreciate your kind words. Few more weeks and I will be able to put this all behind me and bond with my little one cause I guess I'm just too afraid to get too attached at the moment. But after a long talk with my wonderful oh last night im feeling a lot more positive thank you for sharing your stories and for not judging me for having a very low night.

On a totally different and less depressing note I woke up to find my belly button which was an inny has popped out. I was a little amused but horrified at the same time lol. Cant remember my belly button popping till much much later with my son. It still made me smile this morning though

 

[Bug222]

Sending you much love and positive thoughts Maryanne xxx. I think just focusing on positive thinking and visualizing a heathy baby was the only thing that "helped"- this must be such a scary time for you. Just think in a couple weeks you will be past this loss date.

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Hello ladies,

Cutie, I'm loving my bump too. I just want it to get a bit bigger so I look more pregnant than just fat! LOL!!

tooth-fairy, welcome and you're due the same day as me!! I've heard stories like yours as well. Pretty amazing!!

Christi, amazing results on your chromosomal tests!!

carebear, yay to 12 weeks!! I'm glad you're feeling better.

maryanne, what a sweet thing for your honey to get you a body pillow!! Whether it's for you or him!! LOL!! Granted my miscarriages were MUCH earlier than yours that fear leading up to that dreaded date is terrifying. I'm way past my 2 mc dates, but I'm still freaking myself out because of scary things that happen like in your case later in pregnancy. I seem to always fear the worse case senario and it's horrible. Plus I have Factor V Lieden (blood clotting disorder) and my hematologist and doctor don't think blood thinners are necessary because the risk is low even with having it and I've never had a blood clot. But I still freak myself out thinking "oh my gosh, what if I get clots in the placenta or cord and it causes me to lose the baby and then the doctors will be like, oh well "next" time you'll need to be put on blood thinning medication." I've told myself a million times not to Google things because I only remember the bad stuff I read. Like my mom, aunt and some other relatives have this same thing because it's genetic and they all have children. But I fear I'll be in that small group that it causes problems with and I'll lose this baby because I'm not being treated with Lovenox. I am taking a lose dose aspirin once a day and prenatal Omega 3's which naturally thin your blood in the hopes those will counter act anything. I hadn't taken either when I had my 2 mcs, granted it may just be a coincidence. So see, you're not the only one fearing things for sure!! I'm HORRIBLE!!

As far as the sleeping thing, I haven't been sleeping great. I normally sleep on my back or on my side/stomach. Well trying to sleep on my sides hasn't been great. I've used a pillow between my legs, but I still wake up a lot and turn to the other side just wishing I could lay how I wanted to!! Speaking of sleeping problems, I woke up yesterday morning with the worst neck ache!! I must have slept all weird because it's in the muscles and it feels like it got all tensed up and is pinching a nerve because when I move my head certain ways it stabs me. It's like was I doing headstands or something?? Geez!! Got to love trying to sleep while pregnant and I'm only 15 weeks along. This is a bad sign!! LOL!!

 

[babyfeva]

trying to get good sleep sucks! I think mother nature is just preparing us. I get up one a night to pee and my son tends to wake up once during the night. I just wish I could sleep 4 hours straight. Lol

Maryanne, I can't imagine experiencing a loss later in pregnanc. I'm so sorry. When I had my MMC, I was supposed to be 11 weeks but baby stopped growing at 9 weeks. It was devastating since we had just seen the heartbeat a few days before 9 weeks. I had to walk around for about another week before having a D&C. I felt numb knowing I had a baby inside me that wasn't alive. It took some time to heal emotionally. I just tried to be as positive as possible. It sucks that we can't control the outcomes of pregnancy. I just try and tell myself that today I am pregnant. Just know I'll be thinking about you and sending positive vibes.

 

[lol2811]

Hello everyone

Not been on for quite a while, I was away in Cardiff on a course last week so couldn't log in.

I have my dating scan tomorrow morning. Soooo nervous!! I really want to be excited as I will get to see my little bean for the 3rd time, but so worried at the same time. What a rollercoaster!!

Hope everyone is doing well?

 

[maryanne1987]

Thanks so much ladies for all the advice. It is appreciated. I am doing my best to keep calm and relaxed. Only a few weeks left till I can breathe again and next week we find out if we are team pink or blue so I'm focusing on that for now to get me through. Be nice to see jellybean again. Never get tired of seeing him or her. Even though he/she is a bugger on scans and never stays still! Lol

Good luck with your scan tomorrow lol!

 

[Christi85]

Good luck lol - be sure to tell us how it went!

Maryanne - it will be super exciting to find out the gender! The day of my NT scan was the most exciting day of my pregnancy so far

AFM - I've started to struggle with sleep as well. Can't get very comfortable I may invest in one of those full body pillows soon
Anyone else feeling as if their belly and/or lower back is getting heavy/tired? In the last couple of days I've been feeling as if I'd been working out a long time - a tired and slightly burning feeling, not sure I'm describing it right. Especially late in the day...
But I'm 15 weeks today - yay!

 

[carebear1981]

Happy 15 weeks christi!!!

Good luck with your ultrasound lol

 

[Bug222]

Good luck tomorrow lol

Happy 15 weeks Christi!

 

[maryanne1987]

Happy 15 weeks Christi! We must have the same due date, I'm 15 weeks today too!

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Good morning ladies,

lol, everything will be just great at your dating scan. We'll be excited to hear all about it!!

maryanne, how exciting you get to figure out next week if you're having a boy or a girl!! I'm so jealous of you ladies getting to find out early!! I have to wait until 22 weeks!!

Christi, congrats on 15 weeks!!

 

[Christi85]

Happy 15 weeks Christi! We must have the same due date, I'm 15 weeks today too!

Thanks Maryanne! Happy 15 weeks to you too!
Yes, my due date based on LMP is September 8. The little one has measured a little differently with every scan: 1 day behind at 6w2d, 4 days behind at 8w2d, right on target with the LMP at 10w2d, and then at the NT scan I had at a specialist clinic (which I trust much more - my OB's equipment is old and his measurements are always quick and very approximate!!), baby actually measured 3-4 days ahead. But the NT doctor told me that they don't change the due date, unless the difference is more than 6 days, and that it's possible I just have a tall baby (since DH is also very tall and it's a boy - so Dad's genes matter). Plus measurements may change again in the future. So I've kept my original due date by LMP
Then I had a scan with my OB at 14w2d and he didn't even measure the baby So I just tell people I'm due sometime in the first 10 days of September, and I figure I'm covered this way

 

[maryanne1987]

Happy 15 weeks Christi! We must have the same due date, I'm 15 weeks today too!

Thanks Maryanne! Happy 15 weeks to you too!
Yes, my due date based on LMP is September 8. The little one has measured a little differently with every scan: 1 day behind at 6w2d, 4 days behind at 8w2d, right on target with the LMP at 10w2d, and then at the NT scan I had at a specialist clinic (which I trust much more - my OB's equipment is old and his measurements are always quick and very approximate!!), baby actually measured 3-4 days ahead. But the NT doctor told me that they don't change the due date, unless the difference is more than 6 days, and that it's possible I just have a tall baby (since DH is also very tall and it's a boy - so Dad's genes matter). Plus measurements may change again in the future. So I've kept my original due date by LMP
Then I had a scan with my OB at 14w2d and he didn't even measure the baby So I just tell people I'm due sometime in the first 10 days of September, and I figure I'm covered this way

Same as me! Baby has measured from a week behind to a day ahead but doctors are keeping my due date as the 8th. I was two weeks over with my son so I'm not worried about my date that much. My dh is 6ft5 so I'm guessing that's why our little one is measuring ahead lately. Obviously passing on his giant genes! Lol

 

[carebear1981]

Happy 15 weeks to you too maryanne!

I started massage therapy today. Never tried it before but doc recommended pregnancy massages so why not It was good. I'm really sore on my right hip she said, so she gave me some stretches to do.

 

[AmbiguousHope]

Well, despite my efforts I haven't felt the baby for almost a week. I think I may have felt her today but I'm not sure. I'm in the waiting room at my scheduled appointment for my 14 week checkup. If all is clear then I made it to the second trimester. Fingers crossed!!!!

 

[yazzy]

Happy 15 weeks Christi!

Lol good luck at your scan tomorrow, can't wait to hear all about it

 

[yazzy]

I hope your appointment goes well Ambiguous! The babies are so tiny at the moment so try not to worry about movement.