Natsku
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The husband's name thread got me thinking, this post in particular -
I was wondering what people think about other traditions that derive from sexist attitudes. The big one that came to my mind is the tradition of the father giving away the bride at a wedding. That stems from the old idea that women are property that first belong to their father and then to their husband and although I doubt anyone thinks of that when they see it at a wedding I know that I won't be letting my father give me away when I get married.
Taking your husband's last name is not old-fashioned nor is it derived from the same sexist traditions that viewed women as a piece of property to pass from a father to a husband. Why is it different? Because it is now a choice. The formal address should update to reflect changing values and customs, I think.
As a feminist, I would never consider another woman as somehow less emancipated because she chose to take her husband's last name. Feminism is about supporting each other in the right to choose and supporting each other in working towards changes at all levels that reflect and uphold those rights.
I was wondering what people think about other traditions that derive from sexist attitudes. The big one that came to my mind is the tradition of the father giving away the bride at a wedding. That stems from the old idea that women are property that first belong to their father and then to their husband and although I doubt anyone thinks of that when they see it at a wedding I know that I won't be letting my father give me away when I get married.