I always view these things as a personal choice and as long as we have the freedom to make this choice without any form of repercussion then we are in a better world. But if u look at it from the other side I think feminism as such takes too much and in return sometimes men can get a raw deal (not saying that there are women out there not getting the same raw deal I'm just purely throwing a spanner in the works) I can honestly say this with experience. Some of you may have talked about letting their children wear girls clothes if they are a boy eg and being gender neutral. I don't choose to do this. My lo is defo a boy in every sense but we challenge his view of sexism everyday. How? My oh is a sahd, does majority of cleaning and always cooks (i can't
) it's this action that I would much rather have instilled on my children rather then giving him a doll to play with. I honestly don't think it happens often enough. I'm not saying all sahm should get to work and roll reverse but my son certainly doesn't see me try and raise him and keep a tidy home and work ft. He sees us as a team. My oh hates going to groups, there are no sahd groups and he is always pushed aside when he has gone. Mothers have kept their children away from him. I know this happens, I have seen the nursery teacher is a male threads and the amount of mums who don't want them their children near them. How often do you see a male nurse? How often do you see a male midwife (mid husband if u will?) hey even the name suggest women only. It was a male who delivered my son btw too. I guess I sometimes find t hard to talk about the issue of weddings eg when there are still bigger issue as such. We should b free to make our decision based on what we think is right.. For us.. And not be Penelised on that decision
In regards to being gender neutral. I mean I agree with what you have said.
But, as part of my degree, I looked at the difference between Sweden and England. Swedish children grow up, in schools are taught about gender neutralism, for example the traditional roles we consider "man's" role or "women's" are seen as EVERYONE'S roles.
This is taught to Swedish children in school.
Which, if you look at those working in day cares/ nurseries with the under 5's. I think it's fair to say men make up about 1% if that, of workers in England. Whereas in Sweden it's at least 5%.
Could it be that our school system doesn't promote this gender neutralism?
Also another thing that gets me is, in a mostly female work place (Nursery Nursing)
I sit through 2 years of college (a level 3 qualification) top it up with a degree done P/T whist working F/T in said nursery (a level 7 qualification), further my knowledge, which takes a further 6 months, (Still working F/T) and gives me a "Early Years Teacher Status", offered a Leader role at my current nursery..... and the rate I'm offered an hour.... wait for it.....
£7 per hour!
But hang on ^^ that job is exactly the job I was doing as a level 3 where I got
£6.7 an hour,
plus that job will have
ADDED responsibility, the same level as management.
On the other side, my OH, a painter, has basic qualifications, has more or less same experience as me. And he gets £10 an hour - minimum!
Now don't get me started on plumbers and electricians!
My point with that is, in the work place, a "typical" man's job pays you more than a "typical" women's job.