Single Mom by Choice

[Foogirl]

I'm not in your position. But, I definitely would have made the same choice in your position.

Watching my sister as a single mum in the early days, it was really tough for her but she had good family support so was able to take a break every once in a while. Now that her son is older, in fact, once he got past the toddler stage, she often spoke about how she was glad to be a single mum. Nobody else to interfere with how she wanted to do things. Some days, I envy that! But thankfully not too often!

 

[40isnotold]

This thread doesn't seem to be all that active.

I'll be a SMBC. I was 39 when I decided to see a fertility specialist because I had always wanted to have children but wasn't partnered. I am now about to turn 41 and am 22 weeks pregnant with boy/girl twins. Yes, it's a bit scary to realize that I will be raising two babies on my own, but I am so excited.

 

[birdlee337]

Wow!! Congratulations! How exciting! Yea this thread isn't active at all. Lol
I am 34 I have severe endometriosis and adenomyosis. My eggs were getting ruined so I did fertility and got pregnant on the second iui! I now have a beautiful precious 7 month old baby girl! She is the love of my life. This is the best decision Ihave ever done! I am scared shit less alot of the time. But it's worth EVERYTHING!

This thread doesn't seem to be all that active.

I'll be a SMBC. I was 39 when I decided to see a fertility specialist because I had always wanted to have children but wasn't partnered. I am now about to turn 41 and am 22 weeks pregnant with boy/girl twins. Yes, it's a bit scary to realize that I will be raising two babies on my own, but I am so excited.

 

[Rags]

Hi Guys. It's not the most active thread but hello 40isnotold and welcome to the cub. I gave birth to my Ds at 41 after setting out on the road to single parenthood at 38 when I realised that it was a child I wanted in my life and not necesarily the man to go with it. I hope your pregnancy is progressing smoothly? Twins, how wonderful. I secretly hoped for twins myself, I'm delighted for you. My son is 4 1/2 now, how quickly time passes, we have a wnderful time together and he knows all about how he came about and how special he is to me. I look forward to hearing how things progress for you and wish you all the best for t next 18 weeks or so. Xx

 

[Oxygen7880]

I know this thread is quiet but just wanted to add myself to the single mummy by choice group. Conceived my dd at 34, using a known sperm donor (got lucky first attempt). My gorgeous girl turned 1 on Boxing Day. she is the greatest gift EVER. I really want another baby but I am worried about raising 2 on my own and I would, ideally, like to be in well paid job before I have another.

 

[Rags]

Hi Oxygen, Lovely to have you and congratulations on your lovey daughter. I read your post on another thread about your current cyrcumstances. I understand how you feel about the need to work and provide for your family but I would say, for myself, I would have jumped at the oppertunity to be 36 (rather than 46) and be able to add to my family - which is something my son would love but unfortunately can't have because I left it to late to start trying and am very lucky to have him.

 

[Oxygen7880]

Hi Oxygen, Lovely to have you and congratulations on your lovey daughter. I read your post on another thread about your current cyrcumstances. I understand how you feel about the need to work and provide for your family but I would say, for myself, I would have jumped at the oppertunity to be 36 (rather than 46) and be able to add to my family - which is something my son would love but unfortunately can't have because I left it to late to start trying and am very lucky to have him.

Thanks for the reply. It's so hard trying to work out the path to take. If I was in a well paid job that I was happy with then I would be thinking about ttc Prob next year. I am conscious of getting to a point and regretting not doing this. But I also feel irresponsible if I have another baby whilst reliant on benefits. I just do hope that I can work it so I get the job and another baby. I have a very close relationship with my sister and I would love to give my girl the chance of a sibling.
I'm sorry you didn't get the chance to add to your family.

 

[Rags]

A year is a very long time and you might be very surprised how your life has moved on by then. Enjoy your daughter at the moment and if you decide that you want to try again then go for it, it's about you, your daughter and your family, not for anyone else to judge.

 

[Christie2011]

SMBC here. I had a few unsuccessful IUIs and decided to jump right to IVF after 3 unmedicated IUIs. Insurance wasn't going to pay one way or the other and I desperately wanted to start my family. I had a successful first IVF with 6 frozen embies. At the same time I was going through IVF, I had the opportunity to adopt an infant boy. I ended up with 2 boys 7m 3w apart. And I'm starting the process for a round of FET. I just turned 37 and my boys are now 2.

It's not easy, but so rewarding!

 

[Rags]

SMBC here. I had a few unsuccessful IUIs and decided to jump right to IVF after 3 unmedicated IUIs. Insurance wasn't going to pay one way or the other and I desperately wanted to start my family. I had a successful first IVF with 6 frozen embies. At the same time I was going through IVF, I had the opportunity to adopt an infant boy. I ended up with 2 boys 7m 3w apart. And I'm starting the process for a round of FET. I just turned 37 and my boys are now 2.

It's not easy, but so rewarding!

How wonderful for you. I am delighted to hear about your 2 amazing sons and what a fabulous way to build your family. I bet the boys are very close and have great fun together - sort of like having twins without the extra stretch marks! Good luck with your next go, I will keep an eye out on this thread for your good news in the future.

 

[birdlee337]

SMBC here. I had a few unsuccessful IUIs and decided to jump right to IVF after 3 unmedicated IUIs. Insurance wasn't going to pay one way or the other and I desperately wanted to start my family. I had a successful first IVF with 6 frozen embies. At the same time I was going through IVF, I had the opportunity to adopt an infant boyfriend. I ended up with 2 boys 7m 3w apart. And I'm starting the process for a round of FET. I just turned 37 and my boys are now 2.

It's not easy, but so rewarding!

That's awesome! Congratulations on your boys! Good luck this time around! This thread isn't very lively...wish it was!

 

[Christie2011]

Only at 5 weeks, but so far it's a BFP! And by my beta numbers suggest more than one. 2607 and 4639.

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Betas mean nothing when it comes to how many are in there. Mine were well over 18,000 at 5w1d, the stage you're at and I have just one healthy baby. Higher levels do suggest a girl though.

 

[Rags]

Congratulations Christie2011 - 1 or 2 isn't so important. Delighted for you.

 

[Christie2011]

Betas mean nothing when it comes to how many are in there. Mine were well over 18,000 at 5w1d, the stage you're at and I have just one healthy baby. Higher levels do suggest a girl though.

Yeah, I tried telling my mom and sister that, but I transferred 2 embryos so they are convinced it's two. I told them they will have to wait until next week's scan and even then IF there is a #2 it might hide, so they will just have to continue waiting. I haven't let my mom tell anyone yet that I"m even pregnant and she's dying to. I may let her after I see the heartbeat or I may wait until second tri. I don't think she can wait until 2nd tri though, so I might compromise and if all looks good at second scan at 8 weeks let her run loose with the news.

 

[birdlee337]

Congratulations!

Betas mean nothing when it comes to how many are in there. Mine were well over 18,000 at 5w1d, the stage you're at and I have just one healthy baby. Higher levels do suggest a girl though.

Yeah, I tried telling my mom and sister that, but I transferred 2 embryos so they are convinced it's two. I told them they will have to wait until next week's scan and even then IF there is a #2 it might hide, so they will just have to continue waiting. I haven't let my mom tell anyone yet that I"m even pregnant and she's dying to. I may let her after I see the heartbeat or I may wait until second tri. I don't think she can wait until 2nd tri though, so I might compromise and if all looks good at second scan at 8 weeks let her run loose with the news.

 

[Christie2011]

Had my scan today and it is twins! Got to see two little beans with two little heartbeats.

 

[BrandiCanucks]

Had my scan today and it is twins! Got to see two little beans with two little heartbeats.

Congratulations!!

 

[Rags]

Fabulous Christie, how wonderful for you. I'll look forward to hearing how it all goes for you. Wishing you a fantastic pregnancy.

 

[Christie2011]

Well it has been a few weeks I go in for induction tomorrow at 38 weeks. Hoping to meet my baby girls soon. I think one of their brothers is excited and the other one doesn't really care at the moment. It'll be interesting to see how the boys react to their sisters once they can actually see them and they become more real for them.