Slimming World Syners!!

[africaqueen]

good luck with your weigh in and you will definitely be in the 16-18s soon i can guarantee it!

I go to my first counselling session today but what's the point if my husband is leaving me?
x

Has he actually said he wants to leave u? or is he just so frustrated he is talking rubbish? Men say a lot of terrible things that they dont mean, but they said in the spare of the moment as they struggle to "deal" with many issues in life, compared to women. I think ideally marriage guidance/couples counselling would be best, so u are both working together on this... i knw he works a lot and most police are married to the job virtually, but he has to make time if he wants his marriage to work. Its a 2 way street

xxx

 

[MrsQ]

good luck with your weigh in and you will definitely be in the 16-18s soon i can guarantee it!

I go to my first counselling session today but what's the point if my husband is leaving me?
x

Has he actually said he wants to leave u? or is he just so frustrated he is talking rubbish? Men say a lot of terrible things that they dont mean, but they said in the spare of the moment as they struggle to "deal" with many issues in life, compared to women. I think ideally marriage guidance/couples counselling would be best, so u are both working together on this... i knw he works a lot and most police are married to the job virtually, but he has to make time if he wants his marriage to work. Its a 2 way street

xxx

he baisically have said i have killed him inside. What started it was the budgets from the government? They are stopping anyone who earns over 40k tax credits so thats a good £150 a month for us which goes on bills.

My maternity stops in august and we are just about struggling as we are
now so we spoke about me going back to work and i said the only thing
i am really worried about is if he would ciope a whole day with mikey as he gets stressed and angry at him for just an hour when i go sw? and he
started cryign nad said he couldnt do this anymore and that I am a
spiteful bitch (i was saying the truth) and that we are better off apart etc. WOuldnt let me anywhere near him and i was crying saying dont do this and i am sorry and he said i never changed and we keep going over the same thign and i never give him what he wants and he is startnig to hate me for it
and that I should move in with my sister and we get rid of the house and
start divorce proceedings.

I had to go to a market research so i went and he was the same when
i got back so after i had dropped him off at the station i got home
and drunk a bottle of baileys and a bottle of wine lol. I know it was
wrong but all i could think of was just wanting it all to go away. I
dunno how i am going to cope. I love him and i thoguht marriage was
for life but obviously not in his mind.

he has said things like this before and every time he says it it chips away at my confidence all the more. It has only been since mikey was born he has wanted to leave me and before that we were so happy i could burst!

 

[Elli21]

MrsQ if you ever need to vent or chat, im about

I think maybe your OH needs to see a counsellor too, or you could get a marriage counsellor??

I just hope he realises what he has with you before he pushes you too far away xxx

 

[africaqueen]

Oh hun me and dh obviously dnt have any children, but our marriage has suffered due to all the ttc and our loss and money worries(combined income of £18000!) and we have both said some terrible things to eachother over the past few mths, But ultimately we still very much love eachother and strive for a better future and that see's us through. If you still love eachother, there is hope. If the love has gone on either side, you will be fighting a losing battle. I have been there and done that and i wasted 2 extra yrs on a relationship that had already ended really... I truly hope that dh is just lashing out and that when u eventually sit down and talk that u can sort things out.
He cnt blame you for the budget either. lol. If he is earning over 40k a year, you are in a MUCH better situation than us and many other ppl. we cope on less than half of that. Your dh needs to realise how lucky he is. He has a great career, wife who loves him and a gorgeous baby. Men focus too much on the little bits of bad in life and dnt see the whole picture, which is not too shabby at all ;-)

xxx

 

[MrsQ]

exactly.
we do struggle. he brings home 2100 and our outgoings are 1800 before food, its the area we live. i think he is comparing our life before too. i bring home at full time 1800 and we used to go on flash holidays and never had to worry about money. then we got married! i fell pregnant whilst planning it and became v ill in hospital most of the time and couldnt work. so had to get a loan to pay the wedding off. we had to move further out to afford a house big enough for a family.

also i dont think his family help as they have basically disowned him for moving so far away. but he was v v close to them. x

 

[Pink1981]

MRSQ I really hope you can sort things

Well i'm having a really bad day with my anxiety so i'm not going to weigh in today. I feel like i've put on weight even though i've stuck to plan

Just feel like eating and eating

 

[MrsQ]

hun i would go you may be surprised!
xxx

 

[africaqueen]

MrsQ- I truly hope u can sort things out. x

Pink- if u have stuck to plan, you will have lost weight ;-) go to class and u will be happy once u see a loss ;-) sorry u are feeling low. I had a terrible wk feeling like that last wk, but luckily im feeling a lot happier this wk, even tho everything is still the same... must be frame of mind. lol.

Anyone watching the match later?? i am gonna watch it at hme with dh an my dad. Gonna get them some cans and do some food. Il make jacket potatoes and do some ribs i think. I hope our boys pull their bloody finger out this time! xxx

 

[MrsQ]

thanks guys yoru great!

Not watching it as my councelling runs over it.
xxxx

 

[kimbobaloobob]

AQ - ive got out of the watchig the match ive give russell money to 'treat himself' which in his eyes means go down the pub and watch the match Football really isnt my thing.

MrsQ - i hope everything works out for you hun xx

Pink - if you feel bad about it then just weigh and leave hun you may suprise yourself
xx

 

[Pink1981]

Weigh in was at 10am so i have missed it anyway, thanks though
I am obsessed with weighing myself at home and i weigh the same if not more than last week. My scales are 99% of the time the same as sw ones. Just having a crappy day, ignore me x

 

[pip holder]

Pink sorry you're having a weird day lovely, I'd go too - even just to get weighed, don't stay if you're not yourself but you've been dead good

AQ & Kim, may watch the match if LO in the mood! He's got his England romper suit on ready - will try and post a pic in a bit

Mrs Q I'm really glad you've got couselling today - you need to work on YOU before anyone or anything else.

It sounds like your hubby is just lashing out angrily and doesn't really have anyone to confide in (my OH is the same really-won't discuss 'us') He also works in a very male dominated area which is hard if something is questioning his masculinity (in his eyes)
He probably thinks that this is something he should be able to resolve. Not excusing his behaviour towards you btw - shocking
Gah - men!
You take care of yourself today and try to relax at counselling, hope someone having Mikey that you won't worry about


Anyway - back on the skinny express for Pip was super good yest- didn't even use any syns did a big shop and got everything in until next tuesday so shouldn't stray too far again hopefully.
Has anyone seen those new cheesecake mullerlights? We've tried lemon before but these are New York flavour and strawberry flavour but don't know the syns yet - should I assume they'd: be 1.5 like the lemon or more? What does anyone think? Look lush though :thumbup

 

[Elli21]

The lemon ones make my cheeks go funny...they are super sour!!!

I also did my shop last night, got loads of good stuff in and the only naughty day im having this week will be my daughter 5ths birthday on saturday, but then i got to get straight back onto plan as i got my first weigh in in two weeks the following wednesday....eeeek!!!

 

[kimbobaloobob]

i would check first i assumed that the choccy cherry ones were free but found out they wernt

 

[Elli21]

Pink - i got mega obsessed with weighing myself when i first started this plan, id weigh myself EVERYday, sometimes twice a day, and it did me no favours...because i didnt see a mass change i got obsessed with my food.
If u can help it, try not to weigh yourself as often.
It really is great stepping on the scales once a week and seeing a change of 3lbs!! Much better than seeing a change of 0.5lb in a couple of days

 

[Elli21]

Talking about yoghurts : Fat Free activia yoghurts are on offer at tesco at the mo, im assuming because they are fat free, they are syn free? (cos the book says fat free yogs are free)

 

[africaqueen]

Pink- u can get weighed at a later class and not stay for class ;-)
If i cant make my evening class i just go to the mornin one
I will not have scales in our house. GET RID!! I get weighed at SW and thats it.
It is supposed to be a way of life, not taking over your life ;-)

Pip- what is in the NY flavour mullerlight?? a change is as good as a rest i went shopping before and got 8 mullerlights for £2 on offer in tesco still. The low budget we have for shopping went nowhere this wk as we needed washing powder, soap etc too so got not much choice foodwise this wk will have to make do with jacket potatoes and rice mostly. Got lots of yoghurt tho... lol.
Oooh pip, wanna see LO in England suit

COME ON ENGLAND!!!

xxx

 

[lucky3]

The activia fat free yoghurts are syn free and delicious, they are my fav now, used to have mueller light, mm mm.

Haven't been on for a while as I have been a naughty girl started off well but then went off track at the weekend and can't get my arse in gear.

Reading your posts MrsQ it makes me feel bad as I have no excuse for comfort eating, i just fancied it Hope you are feeling better today, I have suffered from depression and I know how hard it is so big hugs and try to keep strong. Talking is the key, I struggled to do this with the depression but found once I had started talking it helped so much. Just hope DH is receptive to you.

With regard to the tax credits i think they are just reducing the award more quickly once you earn over £40,000 so you may still get some, especially if you pay childcare costs. Can't find out exactly how they are doing it yet.

I have decided not to go to weigh in as have the opportunity to work late as hubby home to watch footie - I shall listen to it on the radio. It's weird, our office is now nearly completely a male free zone!! And of course I have been naughty so know I have put on!

I agree with other posters about habitual weighing. I used to weigh every night and every morning and write it down. When I had been good and I put on it used to put me off and I would be much more likely to eat something bad as I would think, "well, what was the point!!" Your body seems to fluctuate at it's own rate so a weekly check really is much more sensible. Though i always like to weigh before I go just so there are no huge shocks!!

 

[pip holder]

AQ - the new york one is just plain white (not overly impressed actually ) may try one in an illegal 'you know what' cake later

Are we all watching the match? - my little football hooligan below - please ignore all the crap on the rug

Hope everyone feeling good today - gonna make Salmon pasta for tea I think and have a go at a pud of some description

 

[kimbobaloobob]

ahhh how cute pip and whats an illegal you know what cake..... :S
Bubs rolled over today finally i thought he would never do it!! it took a couple of prods the first time though but the second was all by himself