I agree with the above, as long as you're willing to accept that others have their point of view and beliefs, and that all we can do us put our own across.
In midwifery I believe you have to have an open mind and an open heart, with real compassion and understanding for the way people think and the way they view the world. If you're always trying to get people to think the way you do, you're trying to remove the joy of diversity.
I'm not saying it's easy; it's incredibly frustrating when you hear or see people expressing points of view or beliefs that contradict your own belief system so completely.
When i'm struggling, especially at work, I try and remember that we're here to facilitate decisions, not preach opinions or judgements.
I think we do have a duty to educate women about things like smoking during pregnancy, health promotion is a big part of the midwifes role but I think we have to be very careful how we go about it since if we do it in a telling off kind of a way it will automatically get the womans back up and not be very successful.
you do have a duty to inform about the health risks of practices such as smoking and formula feeding, but you have to be incredibly careful about the way in which you go about this. Women are incredibly sensitive during the childbearing period and have the ability to remember what you say and your attitude towards them for the rest of their lives. I would even go as far as to say that if the experience is negative enough it could effect the way they feel about their bodies, their births and their babies.
I always start with something like, 'I'm not going to lecture you about such and such, but I do have a duty, as your midwife, to inform you about the following so if you ever did decide to change your mind you have the information to hand....' and then go in. That way they know you're just fulfilling your duty. Whether they choose to listen or not is their choice, but you musn't judge, or allow your dissapproval to show through your tone, or make them feel in some way inadequate.
Primarily, midwives are supporters for women, and I don't think that should spill over in to 'having a go'.