And I'm not sure where the single parent thing cane into it... I'm not a single parent. We share the housework too... We both come home from a full day, and di everything that you alone do in one day. Then we look after Harrison. We do the same tasks as you in much less time. I honestly am baffled how people think it's not harder to do that!
Being a sahm means you cook, feed, clothe, change nappies, play, clean up after your children etc all day so to say you do the same work as a sahm in less time is wrong. I was a working mum before having Alfie, I used to go to work and do the tidying when I came back but I can honestly say that for me it is harder now being a sahm to 2 children than it was being a working mum to 1.
Thats just me though, I'm not making any generalisations, like I said before every circumstance is different and I think its wrong to say its the same for everyone because you don't know.
But I DO do all of the housework in less time? I only have a couple of hours in the evenings or weekends to do it?! I dont see how me saying that about MY time is "wrong"
And CocoaOne - i run around with the hoover everyday, i try and do it while Harrison is in his jumperoo or something so he is distracted, and not feeling threatened by the vacuum cleaner
You said that you do all of the work a sahm mum does but in less time, but whilst you're at work somebody else is doing nappy changes, feeding etc, being a sahm is more than just housework. I felt I had to comment as being told its 'silly' to think being a sahm is as hard as being a working mum got my back up a bit as I've experienced both and I'd already said I found it harder, mentally and physically, does that make me silly iykwim? I don't want to argue I hope you don't read my tone wrong
No i get what you mean!!
The idea that an SAHMs job is harder than someone who is both a mother AND a FT worker is silly, because in the majority of cases, a SAHM has less to do, in more time. Thus, being simpler/easier/better to manage... whatever. I dont think any PERSON is silly, just the notion that someone who is at home all day could possibly find doing one set of jobs harder, than me doing two sets of jobs in the same 24/7/365 timeframe.
Im not making sense
And, yes my mum feeds him and changes him during the day... but that still leaves dressing, bathing, putting to bed, feeding, changing, washing, eating, preparing his breakfast/lunches/dinners, cooking, cleaning the house, drying clothes, ironing clothes and everything else... on top of a full time job and everything that comes with it (prep for the next days work, late-night emails abroad, conference calls...) So yes the basics are done during the day, but my workload at home is th sort of thing a SAHM can do when her child is napping at lunchtime.
Sometimes, i like to have a shower! ... yesterday, my shower was at 12.45am.
And ust to add again... that is all done without a sit down, or a conversation with my OH.
